Visiting relatives and friends during the Chinese New Year, greeting each other, it is always indispensable to talk about family life.
How many people's New Year's shadow is the question of the three aunts and six mothers-in-law during the New Year's holidays:
If you don't go to college, you ask about your grades, if you go to college, if you don't have a partner, if you don't have a partner, if you don't have an object, if you don't get married, if you get married, if you have a second child, if you have a second child, you ask about the relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.Some people even use the banner of "for your good" to spy on the fact of privacy, and the scale and scheming of their speech make people uncomfortable, bringing many contradictions, conflicts and misunderstandings, but they can only swallow their anger again and again, helpless.
Before going home this year, we will share with you the ten unspoken rules of communication at home, so that you can deal with those questions with high emotional intelligence, whether unintentional or deliberate, and have a good year with scale.
The first point is not to inquire about other people's salaries, and try not to talk about your own salary;
In the past two years, everyone knows that if you talk too much about your income, you may have endless troubles - if you have more money, if you have less, you have to introduce jobs or something, so even if you are forced to be helpless, just say a general ** price.
The second point is to remember that wealth is not exposed, especially if the family buys a house or a car, don't mention it;
Especially when you have dinner with relatives and friends who are not so familiar with each other, the financial situation of the family is a secret that cannot be revealed more than personal salary. Flaunting wealth can only bring temporary pleasure, but it can cause loss and harm to yourself and your family.
The third point is that when a group of people chat, it is important not to be a "conspicuous bag" that only expresses and does not listen;
Of course, it is lively and interesting to speak freely, but sometimes a casual sentence at the top is likely to offend people. Listening, watching, and understanding others more can create a good reputation better than blindly exporting.
Fourth, when chatting, observe other people present and adjust in time;
Sometimes, out of politeness, people don't take the initiative to interrupt even topics that they don't interest in. Therefore, judging whether others are starting to respond perfunctorily or have impatient "small gestures" can help us adjust the topic in time.
Fifth, look at the person you are communicating with, and shut up immediately when you find that the other party's face is not good!
In addition to communicating with elders and juniors, we sometimes need to lean over due to height, and most occasions should be from a level-headed perspective, so as to better detect the other party's attitude and face and prevent trouble from coming out.
Sixth, ask the same question several times, and it is best to think about whether the other party does not want to answer;
There are some questions that the person being asked does not hear, but feels embarrassed and pretends that nothing happened. If this is the case for you, it is advisable to reflect on your own problems and be prepared to change the subject.
Seventh, don't talk about business at the wine table, don't take verbal promises seriously;
Many people like to pat their chests and give promises after drinking, although the listener may have a heart, but after waking up, a sentence of forgetfulness and drunkenness may be empty. Speakers, on the other hand, are more likely to come across as unreliable.
The eighth point is that if you just play with your mobile phone and don't communicate, this kind of party is not interesting!
If most of the people are playing on their phones at a party, there is no need to organize a party if it is not necessary. In situations where no one intends to communicate actively, it is advisable to leave as early as possible and not to waste your time and life.
The ninth point is that the ugliness of the family should not be publicized, and it is not only ugly if it is raised, but also the weakness of being accurately injured in the future;
Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, but don't spit out bitterness with outsiders and say bad things about your parents, partners, family, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If these words are spoken, they will become the talk of others, intensify family conflicts, and bring more problems.
The tenth point, married people pay attention to proportion: the melon field is not accepted, and the plum is not neat;
Regardless of whether you are a man or a woman, when you get married, you must keep your distance from the opposite sex and maintain proportion. If you get closer, even if you have a clear conscience, you may be pointed at by others, which is not conducive to the family.
If you want to show personal achievement, you can start with family happiness. In a party with a partner present, taking care of each other's emotions and face is not only conducive to emotional harmony, but also makes the people who care about us feel comfortable.
I wish you all "follow the rules" and have a happy year!
February** Dynamic Incentive Program