I have always believed that socializing should be an enabler, not a hindrance, in our lives.
Patrick Driesson once said, "Socializing should improve your life, not become your life." ”
We all know that some people can use their devices and social networks just right. They can put down their phones during meals, turn off their phones before falling asleep, and only check social interactions during certain daylight hours**; They may not visit their circle of friends for days or weeks on end, but still be able to stay connected to the world. But I'm not one of them.
I often wander between the practical benefits of socializing and the inner hurt it can bring. On the one hand, social** provides me with a convenient way to work, allowing me to keep in touch with friends from afar; On the other hand, over-reliance on social** keeps me from focusing on the present moment and makes me lose sight of what's really important in my life.
Over the past year, I've started exploring how I can achieve this by changing my social usage habits. I've developed strategies to increase the display of positive content on my social ** accounts, reduce the content that makes me feel uncomfortable or distracted, and increase awareness of my usage habits.
1. Start following bloggers and ** who I like to read.
These bloggers and ** usually have corresponding social ** content to subscribe to. I spent an afternoon searching and browsing bloggers and ** that I was interested in or inspiring, and then continued to add new content over time. I've created a folder on the favorites bar with some of the links I like.
As I scroll through these, I stop to read those articles that are relevant to my interests. These articles not only helped me grow personally and made me pause to reflect on my life, but also inspired me to start a new project. Instead of spending a lot of time chasing dramas on the web, I might end up writing an article or sharing a funny ** with my friends.
2. Start unfollowing those who distract me.
Whenever I find myself unconsciously criticizing myself after watching my friend's daily life**; Whenever I see my friend's travels**, I start to envy his work; Whenever my aunt kept complaining, it filled my newsfeed with negativity; I would not hesitate to ignore them. I still have the option to intentionally go to these people's profiles to view their content, but I keep these spontaneous mood killers out of my social ** usage.
If I don't want to maintain any kind of contact with someone, I would consider blacklisting them or removing him or her. My social blacklist is very long, and here is an example to illustrate why: I recently blocked my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend on social **. I don't need to stop her from contacting me; In fact, I have never had a direct interaction with this person. However, we have a lot of mutual friends (both socially and in real life) and I realized that her comments and social activities were distracting me in a negative way. Blocking her prevented me from seeing the comments she made to mutual friends, prevented me from viewing her profile in unsafe moments, and removed from my browsing history any ** she had previously tagged my boyfriend while they were dating. It's not meant to erase my boyfriend's past or negate his past relationships, but just to prevent these things from distracting me right now.
3. Remove apps from your phone (or at least put them in a folder).
Choose to use the web app instead of the mobile app. This requires you to open the web and actively log in to your social account** instead of unthinkingly looking at the same profile that you've viewed twenty times.
If you can't (or aren't willing) give up the features that mobile apps offer, then centralize all your social apps into one folder and place that folder on the last page of your phone. Increasing the steps and effort you need to access your social ** account can help increase your behavioral awareness.
Personal growth