The most painful thing for a family is not money, but the attitude of parents towards their children
The greatest sorrow of a family is not because of lack of money, but because parents always favor their children. When a girl named Vivian returns home, her mother asks her to pay for a car to pick up and drop off Vivian's brother's children. Vivien felt hopeless, and she realized that in the eyes of her parents, her son would always be"Family", and the daughter is a burden, the most pitiful.
In fact, parental preference is not necessarily just because of financial preference, but may also include attention bias and educational bias. A friend of mine's parents treated her materially, which made her always consider herself the most favored child in the family. However, when she wanted to continue her education after graduation, her parents said that the family could no longer afford her to go to school, but in the years that followed, they bought a large house for her brother. This made her feel very disappointed and sad, and it turned out that her weight in the hearts of her parents was far less than she thought.
In addition to material favoritism, parental partiality can lead to disharmony between children. In a popular drama, a family has three children: the eldest son and the second daughter excel in their studies, bringing great pride and glory to their father; And the youngest son's academic performance is poor, and his father's disgust for him is overflowing. Since each child has different functions and characteristics, parents treat their children differently. This practice of functional parenting has led some parents to favor certain children.
In addition, parents' preferences in raising their children can also affect the relationship between the children. An example of this is a cousin-in-law I know, who has two children, the eldest son who was taken care of by his grandparents since he was a child, and the younger who goes to school in the city. In order to provide better educational resources for their younger son, her cousin and husband spent all their money to buy a house near the school. Although this was due to the kindness of his parents, the eldest son felt that he was favored by his parents and asked his mother why he could not live with his parents and why he could not move into the school district house. His cousin-in-law explained to him that his youngest son would have to support his family in the future, and that only by studying could he have a chance to get ahead. This educational preference made the eldest son very disgusted by the partiality of the family. Vivien's life with her family is full of disharmony, and the partiality of her parents is the main cause of the problem. The material partiality of parents is manifested in giving the best financial conditions to the favorite child and making other children feel neglected. Parental attention bias is due to different expectations and treatments for the functioning and outcomes of their children. Educational bias refers to giving the best educational resources to the most proud children and ignoring other children.
However, the preference of parents is not just because of money, but because they have no fairness in their hearts. Reasonable parents will realize that favoritism over one child can lead to tension in the relationship between the family and the child. They will try to balance the way they treat their children, ensuring that every child feels loved and cared for by their parents. Only in this way will children be able to better understand and support each other, and family relationships will become more harmonious.
Children who are not valued must accept the mediocrity and vulgarity of their parents, strive to progress, and strive for a better life for themselves. Instead of dwelling on the preferences of your parents, you should recognize and accept the reality and create a better future for yourself.
As a nanny mother, I care about the health of mothers and babies and the growth of children. Parental partiality is a very sensitive issue that can cause a lot of harm to children and families. Harmonious family relationships can only be established if parents are aware of this partiality and work to correct it.