Is there a huge difference between a child who is restricted from using a mobile phone and a child who can use it freely when they grow up?
Intelligent algorithms
Have you ever experienced such a situation: I just wanted to open a mobile phone application platform and relax for a while, but I accidentally fell into it, lost self-control, and before I knew it, an hour had passed.
This is because there is an intelligent calculation hidden behind these application platforms, which accurately selects the user's preferences and interests according to the user's browsing history, and constantly pushes content that fits it, which is unstoppable.
Why is this kind of intelligent computing so efficient that we can't help ourselves?
This is related to a neurotransmitter in our brain, and it is also an essential part of every time we talk about mobile phones and games - dopamine.
Dopamine is a reward system that brings feelings of pleasure and pleasure.
This feeling relaxes people, makes people temporarily disconnect from the pressure of socializing, working, and studying, and temporarily puts aside the troubles of life.
From the brain to the body, the whole body is comfortable and smooth.
The combination of smart computing and dopamine has led to people being addicted to mobile phones and obsessed with application platforms.
Relatively speaking, adults have a certain amount of self-control, and their minds will tell themselves that when it is time to go to work, they need to go to work, they need to calm down, and they need to put down their mobile phones.
And the self-control part of a child's brain doesn't fully mature until the age of 25. Once you indulge in the world of mobile phones, what will happen?
Focus
I have observed the behavior of young people when they are *** and found that they have some things in common.
If a ** doesn't pique their interest within 5 seconds, they'll immediately swipe the screen. If one *** hasn't finished for a minute, they'll quickly switch to the next one.
In addition, when they encounter a slow network speed while using their mobile phones, they will become impatient, complain loudly or even drop their phones.
These young people lack patience when doing their homework, unable to calm down and read the questions carefully, unable to concentrate on thinking, and unable to persevere in reading a book.
Their ability to concentrate has been greatly disrupted.
The popular short** is usually no more than 30 seconds long and rarely more than 1 minute.
These few tens of seconds of concentration are almost a disaster for young people's brains.
They just want to have a moment of fun, how can they expect them to focus in class for 45 minutes straight? When you get restless when you encounter a slight network delay, how can you expect them to memorize words, memorize formulas, and solve problems quietly?
Not to mention young people, maybe even we ourselves will find it difficult to do this!
Self-control
The calculation method mentioned above, as well as dopamine, affects the child the most is self-control.
When a child's brain is not active for knowledge, interest, and curiosity, dopamine is activeInstead, when he is restrained by one short ** and game after another, the neurons in his brain will quietly form a "selection tendency".
It's like you're making up your mind**. On the first day, you restrain yourself from snacking; Also, a half-hour exercise was carried out. The next day, you may be thinking about having a snack, just a little; On the third day, I thought I was too tired and wanted to give up after only exercising for 10 minutes. On the fourth day, you're not exercising at all. On the fifth day, life went back to the way it used to be.
I shouted slogans for several years, but my body did not lose at all.
In fact, when you choose to snack and exercise for only 10 minutes, your brain has already begun to develop a tendency to choose to pursue immediate pleasure over long-term pleasure.
The dopamine in the child's brain, if he prefers short, stimulating, intense pleasure, will slowly and will.
Therefore, he spends more and more time on his mobile phone, watches more and more, and his self-control is becoming more and more insufficient.
Once you take his phone, it means depriving him of his happiness. He will become irritable, irritable, irritable, excited, and even antagonistic and angry with his parents.
Asked to read, he fidgeted and couldn't read a word for half a day; Asked him to do his homework, he hurriedly wrote a few words and prevaricated, just to get his beloved phone back as soon as possible.
However, our children will eventually have to face life, study, work and pressure in the future.
And how should they face self-control when they only want to enjoy the immediate and exciting fun?
Playing mobile vs not playing mobile phone
Contrast those who are obsessed with their phones and those who are not, and you'll find that:
Children who are obsessed with mobile phones are quick to respond and have fiery eyes when using mobile phones; And once they leave their phones, their eyes become indifferent and their reactions become sluggish.
They seem to know a lot of things, all sorts of strange knowledge and questions, but they all seem unrealistic and illusory.
Most of them don't like sports, don't like to socialize, and their bodies are fat and weak.
And observe those children who rarely or do not touch their mobile phones at all, their eyes are clear and pure, and they have the aura and wit that children should have.
They are full of curiosity about life, nature, and the world around them, and will actively explore the flowers, birds, animals, insects, fish, and trees around them.
Their curiosity and imagination derive more from nature and life, and their ideas are not constrained by anything.
They are better at being patient and at thinking and understanding profound questions.
They have the unique characteristics of innocent children.
Excessive use of mobile phones can not only cause damage to children's eyesight, but also to the brain.
Will you allow your child to play with their phone? Or, how long do you think your child should play each day?