Some people say that marriage is different from feelings, always passing by, and there are surprises every day. The most realistic way of life is that when a person gets married, he loses his wealth and integrates into family life, the necessities of life, the necessities of life, and the necessities of life.
I firmly believe that a good marriage is a marriage in which two people understand and value each other in their daily lives. Only such a marriage can last.
1. A good marriage values each other's efforts.
There is a couple in Defending Love. When they first got married, they were poor, but they firmly believed that if they worked hard, they could achieve anything. Since then, my husband has never been hired by the company. He decided to retire and become independent, and his wife quit her job to support him and not make him anxious. He left all the housework, taking care of the children, taking care of the elderly, and other worldly things to her, and she worked hard. Go home and support him, support me. Take care.
My husband lived up to expectations, and the business became bigger and bigger. However, he looked down on his wife more and more. When I go out for work counseling, I never bring my girlfriend with me because she looks sloppy all day long and I'm embarrassed to take her with me. I couldn't talk to her all day after I got home because I didn't think she understood.
Since then, there have been problems between me and my wife, and we started arguing a lot. The wife complains that her husband does not understand her efforts. Without a wife, he would still be a poor child.
When two people get along, the most taboo thing is to blindly give and not get equal love. Marriage is a normal thing and can last for a long time. What we can do in normal times is to cherish each other's efforts and understand each other's pain. Like the river of time, let us enjoy the tenderness and love that marriage gives us.
2. A good marriage can understand each other's pain.
Sha Eef is a model couple in the entertainment industry. They also had a hard time when they first got married.
In the show, he said that after getting married, he took his wife and children to live with his father-in-law. My mother-in-law's house has only three rooms. The father-in-law and mother-in-law lived in one room, and the aunt and Xiao Yuer lived in the same room, and the couple took Anji's life. In this way, the family has been helping each other for four years, but Sha Yi saved enough money before moving out of his mother-in-law's house with his wife and children.
Now they also know how to cherish each other's efforts and cherish this hard-won happiness.
All living beings are suffering, but only those who understand you will empathize. We get married, we live our own lives, and our whole life is to understand you, tolerate each other, be considerate of each other, go through hardships together, and go to the end of life together, all to find someone to do it.
3. For a good marriage, understanding is the most important.
I read a story.
The fishermen and their wives loved each other, and they never blushed or quarreled in their lives.
My wife is a very chaste person. Every day, the owner picks the biggest, most complete fish he brings home, cuts off the head and tail, and carefully cooks the middle part. Today I stew, tomorrow I steam. She put it in a ** for her husband to eat, but she burned the rest of the fish head and tail in the kitchen and then forgot about it.
One day, decades later, the old man took a deep breath in the twilight and said to his wife: "I have never asked you for help in my life, and if I don't say it now, I may never have a chance again." "When are you going to cook the fish head for me?" My favorite thing is fish heads. ”
When my wife heard this, she started crying. "I grew up thinking that fish was a fish head, and I ate it. ”
The biggest misconception in the world is not to love, but to love in your own way.
Marriage is cooking. The husband likes to eat salty, so only salt is added, and the wife likes to eat sweet, so only sugar is added......That way, when the food comes out of the pan, neither of them will add it. They can eat it.
Therefore, it is very important to understand a good marriage. I know you like to eat fish heads, and I know I like to eat fish bodies. I know you like to eat salty, and I know I like to eat seafood. Eat something sweet. We value each other's efforts and understand each other's pain. Only in this way can the marriage be warm and long-lasting.