When people reach middle age, there is no such thing as "easy".
When we lament middle age, we will also find that many middle-aged people have already succeeded quietly.
Zeng Guofan said: "Make people humane for life, and never lose an inch." ”
At all times, you must hide yourself, good and bad, don't let people know easily, and avoid being crushed by external forces.
You must know that most of the middle-aged people's socialization is for a few taels of silver, and all kinds of routines are impossible to prevent.
Be a hidden person, take a step back, and the sky is wide.
The wealth is not exposed, and it is enjoyed quietly.
When people reach middle age, everyone knows that they want to make money hard, and at the same time they must lose face, dare to be more honest with others, and talk about money generously.
However, after having money, many people fell into the predicament of being calculated, and returned to the life of the poor without paying attention.
Why can't money be kept? It's because we like to show off ourselves, which leads to evil.
As soon as people have money, they will be generous, luxury cars and big houses, and they will rush to it.
What's even more terrifying is that some people are very rich, but spending money is not on the right path, and money has become a scourge.
In "The Surprise of the Second Moment Shooting", there is a Yunnan man named Zhang Lisheng who monopolizes his parents' family wealth.
His brother asked for a new separation, but he refused to live or die, and he fought a lawsuit with his brother because of this.
The local **Yang Xundao is a**, whoever gives the money can win the lawsuit. Zhang Lisheng was also interested, gave five hundred taels of silver, and also gave antiques.
The strange thing is that the case has not yet been concluded, Yang Xundao was dismissed and returned to his hometown Sichuan.
Zhang Lisheng took the coil and went to Sichuan to find Yang Xundao to get the silver back.
In Chengdu, Zhang Lisheng stayed overnight, was targeted by the prostitute Brother Xing, and cheated all the entanglements.
Zhang Lisheng, who was penniless, could only turn around blindly and cause a series of troubles.
Our money must come in the right way, and we must spend money in the right way, don't fall for the proverb - men become bad when they are rich, and women are rich when they change.The ancients said: "Money is divided into many struggles, but you will be caught in a snare." ”When money becomes the object of dispute, then disasters ensue, like a net of heaven and earth.
Smart people, hide their money from outsiders. At the same time, insist on living a frugal life, and the people around you are no different.
Money is like flowing water, and it takes a long stream of water to become the confidence of a happy life.
The home is not ugly, and it passes by with a smile.
The ugliness of the family is not publicized. Thousands of households know this truth. But many people can't do it.
When people reach middle age, there are old and young, which is a burden and the root of family ugliness; Couples have a seven-year itch, a ten-year pain, which is the source of the scandal of love.
The elderly have to be supported, and the brothers and sisters cannot reach an agreement, and the maintenance expenses given are not the same, which will inevitably make you angry, and you may find outsiders to comment.
Your child can't read, you complain in front of relatives and friends, and you want everyone to give advice.
The husband and wife are about to divorce, and your emotions will explode, and you can't wait for everyone in the world to sympathize with you. If your lover has a third party, you have to make a fool of your lover in order to achieve the goal of revenge.
The above behaviors will make you feel very happy for a while, but after complaining about everything, outsiders can't give you the best comfort, but will secretly laugh at you.
If outsiders have an enmity with you, they will use your ugly family as a bargaining chip and let you "throw a mouse bogey". Or your family is ugly, and you are used by your colleagues to become an obstacle to promotion and salary increase.
Think about it, when an acquaintance exposes your family scandal when you are promoted, how serious are the consequences?
The saddest thing is that the family members calculate each other, but they trust outsiders more and do stupid things to lure wolves into the house.The Ming Dynasty writer Feng Menglong wrote about a proud man who liked to gamble and often lost money.
For a period of time, the son of his brother Lu Da was lost, and Lu Da went out to look for it, but Lu Da's wife was at home.
Lu Er owed gambling debts, so he had an idea and worked with a few outsiders to sell Lu Da's wife. Lu Er said: "Anyway, Lu Da is not at home, and my sister-in-law is also alone in the empty room, what are you afraid of." ”
In the night, outsiders invited a sedan chair, arrived at the door of Lu Da's house, and took it away when they saw a woman.
Just when Lu Er was happy, he found that what the outsiders took away was actually his wife.
It turns out that outsiders want your family to be torn apart and don't want your family to get better at all. You always show your family ugliness, isn't this destroying the family?
As a parent, you have to remember the truth of "round inside and square outside".
The family should be united within the family and unanimously to the outside world, so that outsiders dare not provoke it. There is no difference between exposing one's own ugliness and digging one's own grave.
Unobtrusive, low-key and warm.
The reason why you are always attacked and refuted is because you are the same yourself.
Keeping one's mouth open is the most offensive thing to do; Bad words add up to the most likely things that cause harm.
When people reach middle age, we can't help but socialize, but don't show our edge in words.
In "Zengguang Xianwen", it is said: "Keep your mouth tight, guard against it like sincerity; It's better to bear me than to lose people. ”Li Bai of the Tang Dynasty wrote with a pen"By asking who in the Han Palace is like, poor Feiyan leans on new makeup"., to describe Yang Guifei.
Some ill-intentioned ministers said, "Look, what about Li Bai comparing Yang Guifei to Zhao Feiyan? Look again, how bleak Zhao Feiyan's ending is. ”
offended the concubine, and Li Bai's career would be difficult.
Although, Li Bai said chicly: "Look up to the sky and laugh and go out, how can I be a Penghao person." But it turns out that he has always wanted to make a difference in officialdom, and in the end, he is embarrassed.
You can think of something very vicious, and you can hate it, but don't say it.
Habitually "pretending to be confused" and interacting with others will be much smoother.
Socrates famously said, "The only thing I know is nothing." ”When people reach middle age, they pretend not to know the "evil" of others to themselves, not to know how much money they have, and not to know their own family affairs.
It's just a very clear thing, but when it comes to you, it's a little unclear.
If you hide your money, your ugliness, and your bad words, you will be a harmonious person, harmless to people and animals.
If you don't provoke others, and others don't provoke you, your life will be stable.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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