My name is Lin Hao, an ordinary office worker, living in a small city full of human touch. My wife Li Ting and I have been married for five years and our relationship has always been harmonious and stable. Recently, we decided to have a family gathering with my wife's parents, who are my in-laws, to get to know each other better.
In the process of preparing for this gathering, I was very nervous and looking forward to it. After all, for Chinese, the relationship between relatives and families is complex and delicate. After gaining an in-depth understanding of traditional Chinese customs and culture, I began to prepare for this gathering. However, in the process of preparing, I gradually discovered some amazing secrets that filled me with doubts and uneasiness about the upcoming party.
The night before I left, I started to organize what I was going to bring. However, at this moment, I suddenly remembered a sentence that the old people often say: "Between in-laws, you must not bring these 4 things to the door." This sentence made me ponder, and I began to wonder what these four things were.
After some research and understanding, I finally figured out the meaning of these four things. They are: past contradictions, unrealistic expectations, overly expensive gifts, and overly ego attitudes. These four things, if brought in a gathering between in-laws, are likely to disrupt the original harmonious atmosphere and even lead to the breakdown of the relationship.
I knew the seriousness of these four things, so I decided to avoid bringing them to meetings. When I was packing my luggage, I made a point of checking that I had brought these four things with me. Luckily, I didn't bring any. This gives me a lot of confidence for the upcoming gathering.
On the day of the meeting, I came to my in-laws' house with a peaceful heart. Throughout the meeting, I maintained a humble and respectful attitude and did not make any unrealistic expectations. At the same time, I also avoided the contradictions of the past and an overly selfish attitude, and tried to integrate myself into this big family.
However, just as the party was coming to an end, I suddenly discovered something shocking. It turned out that there had always been some contradictions and misunderstandings between my in-laws that I had never been aware of. These contradictions and misunderstandings are caused by some things in the past and too high expectations. And this gathering is an excellent opportunity to resolve these contradictions and misunderstandings.
I was well aware of my responsibility, so I decided to have a frank conversation with my in-laws before leaving, and try to break these knots. After some in-depth conversations, we gradually found the crux of the problem and worked out a solution together.
Although this party was full of twists and turns and suspense, in the end we succeeded in resolving the contradictions and misunderstandings between our in-laws. This made me deeply appreciate the importance of communication and understanding. In the days to come, I will cherish the relationship with my in-laws even more, and strive to maintain this rare harmony and affection.
Looking back on this gathering, I am deeply grateful. I'm glad I didn't bring those four things, I'm glad I faced the problem bravely, and I'm glad that I was able to grow up with my in-laws. This experience made me more convinced that as long as we manage and maintain it with our hearts, the relationship between our relatives and families can also become harmonious and beautiful.
Today, I have the experience of this meeting in my heart. Whenever I think about that night full of suspense and twists, I am proud of my decision and courage at that time. I believe that in the future, I will cherish the relationship with my in-laws even more, and strive to make this family relationship deeper and more lasting.
At the same time, I also hope that more people can understand and avoid bringing those four things, so that the relationship between in-laws and families will be more harmonious and beautiful. Because, in this world, family affection is the most precious wealth, which is worthy of our care and cherishment.