985 master's degree has a stable job but becomes a low-level male, and no matter how high his education is, he loses the right to choose a mate
At the moment when the girl said to Zhang Rui, "We are not suitable", Ye Zichen's heart was powerless.
Zhang Rui is the only seedling in the family, with his own hard work and hard work, he was admitted to 985 University and successfully graduated from 985 University with excellent academic performance. Originally, he also felt that he should be able to take advantage of blind dates.
However, even though he repeatedly lowered his requirements, these three dates still discouraged him.
On three dates, he was blocked by three problems: Where is his family from? What does a parent do? Are there any houses in the city?
Every time Zhang Rui said something like this, those girls would quiet down and leave for various reasons.
Zhang Rui was very puzzled, he was a graduate student of 985 University, he looked good, and his job was quite stable, why was he rejected by three dates?
A house has become an urgent problem for people to solve when they get married, and it is also a string in everyone's hearts.
On the first date, Zhang Rui also bought a new suit and cut off his hair.
Especially after seeing the girl with long hair and a slender figure, Zhang Rui felt that these two people were a good match. In addition, this woman is a town resident and a civil servant, which makes Zhang Rui's satisfaction beyond words.
The girl asked him three questions: Where is his hometown? What does a parent do? Are there any houses in the city?
Zhang Rui was a little flustered when asked, but he still said honestly: "I am from the countryside, my parents are authentic farmers, and they have not bought a house in the city." ”
When the girl heard this, she left without a long time. Afterwards, the matchmaker said that the girl was not very happy with him.
The second, whether it is appearance, occupation, or family background, is worse than the previous one, but Zhang Rui thinks that this is okay.
Although I still couldn't avoid the first three problems, the effect was still not very good, and in the end, it was still not resolved.
Zhang Rui is in his thirties, and at the instigation of his family, he has to accept his third date.
This time, Zhang Rui lowered his requirements again, and the other party was a country girl with a university degree and now working in a private enterprise.
Zhang Rui took a closer look and found that this girl was okay, but she was not the best.
However, this time, the girl didn't pay too much attention to the identity of Zhang Rui's parents, but her next words surprised Zhang Rui.
The girl said, "I want a dowry of 300,000 yuan." ”
Zhang Rui's parents relied on that pitiful land to make a living, and spent all the money on Zhang Rui's studies. 300,000, for them, is simply a huge amount of money. Even if you sell your property, it's hard to get so much money.
Even if Zhang Rui got a dowry of 300,000 yuan from relatives and friends, this is just the beginning, and it will cost at least 100,000 yuan to marry a daughter-in-law, and as for the expenses after marriage, it is even more difficult to estimate.
And none of this can be done with just $300,000. Zhang Rui was also speechless for a while, why is it so difficult to find a daughter-in-law!
For many, marriage and housing are inextricably linked. In the past, when people chose a partner, they looked at each other's personality, but now, many girls have their eyes on the man's financial resources.
Is it true that girls nowadays value material and identity?
In fact, after getting married, if you don't have your own house, you have to rent it out, and the rent is also a large expense, which will also have a great impact on the quality of life of the individual.
In addition, after a couple has a child, their income decreases. Life is not guaranteed, and all resources are spent on raising children. After getting married, when they go to buy a house, they have to carry a huge mortgage, which is a huge burden for them.
In the marriage and marriage market, it's wonderful to want to find a girl who is willing to go through a difficult life with you, but few people are willing to do so.
As real as marriage and the marriage market are, it is a painful reality.
A house is not only a symbol of marriage, but also a symbol of security.
Jiajia and Li He fell in love when they were in college, and they have a very strong foundation of love. However, when they graduated, although they saw that their classmates were married, they were still slow to take the next step.
Li He was the only graduate student in the village who was admitted to 985 University, and later became a national public servant, with a monthly salary of more than 4,000 yuan.
That salary was not enough for his own living expenses, let alone taking care of his parents at home from time to time.
Li He asked Jiajia to marry him many times, but she insisted: "If you want to get married, you must have a suite, even if you pay a deposit." ”
Nowadays, girls often give more consideration to marriage, and the down payment of buying a house has become the minimum standard for marriage.
When it comes to getting married, some people say that they want a house, a car, and savings, and today's women are too money-worshipping, and they say at every turn that they are unwilling to marry if they don't have money.
In previous generations, the life of each family was very simple, marriage was just a family reunion for dinner, and capable families could also ** "three major pieces", but they would not be too picky.
But now, as people's living standards are getting higher and higher, their pursuit of quality of life is also getting higher and higher, so their marriages are getting higher and higher.
Most people choose tangible things because they are worried about their future and need security. In fact, in the absence of sufficient financial strength, marriage does have to face various "tests".
Cousin Luo Qing married a man she loved very much, but they could not afford to buy a house, so they chose to rent a house.
When Luo Qing was about to give birth, her landlord broke in, forcibly asked her to move out, and regarded childbirth as a "bloody disaster".
No matter how Luo Qing persuaded him, the landlord refused to give an inch, and even the rent was refunded. She had to rent another house, which was expensive, and the birth and crying of her child made her neighbors complain.
The children made a mess of the house, and the landlord was always finding fault. The hardships of renting a house made her married life very difficult. It turned out that the harmonious couple had a lot of trouble because of the housing problem, and even thought about divorce.
A marriage without a house is like raining without an umbrella. All kinds of problems are entangled, and almost a happy marriage comes to an end.
In fact, a house is not an obstacle, but a place to live, and it is also the greatest security given by marriage.
Faced with the dilemma of "no house", how to deal with it.
To get married is to build a family. Home doesn't need luxury, you don't need luxury, but you want calm and stability.
A family does not necessarily determine whether a relationship is happy or not, but a family can break a relationship and eventually break down.
Although it is a joke, this sentence has touched the hearts of many people.
Now, children's schooling, medical treatment, visas, loans, etc., are inseparable from real estate. Without housing, people's lives are limited at every turn.
Falling in love can be romantic, while getting married is about having a solid foundation and giving consistently.
Most of today's girls are carefree and grow up in the warm embrace of their parents. Suffering with a man is simply a luxury.
Only those who have experienced the pain of not having a house can understand that pain.
Some people say that China's real estate has always been, and it all depends on her mother-in-law.
Therefore, in the case of no real estate, it is really difficult to marry a girl who was raised in the palm of her parents' hands.
If that's the case, he has worked hard for most of his life, and finally got results, but because of a villa, he can't get married?
In fact, with Zhang Rui's current situation, as long as he changes his thinking, changes his thinking, and then does it in a good way, he can find opportunities in the trough of his life. First of all, despite living in the countryside, they are in good health, and they have their own house, so they have no worries in their old age.
Years of hard work have allowed Zhang Rui to reach an unprecedented peak. It is not difficult to have a warm home, to have a warm home, and to live a simple and happy life.
With a high degree of education, coupled with the existing provident fund, plus all kinds of preferential treatment for the house, it is not difficult for Zhang Rui to buy a house.
If you can't stand the high cost of a big city, you can buy a house in a town near your hometown as a temporary place to live.
What's more, Zhang Rui himself is already very good, if he can put more effort into dealing with contacts and professional ability, then he will become stronger, his personality will become better, and attract more people's attention.
As long as you have a high degree and the ability to cope with life, you can get out of this embarrassing situation.
On the way to marriage, it is often the product of spiritual resonance. In the hustle and bustle of the crowd, there is often a casual glance followed by the saying "just because I took one more look at you in the crowd".
Just because you don't have a home doesn't mean a relationship is over.
In today's marriage and marriage market, it is difficult for people to avoid factors such as parenthood, fertility, family, etc.
However, this is not the only way to get married, and it is also a test of happiness.
Instead of dwelling on blind dates and questioning yourself more, it is better to improve your quality in all aspects.
If you can face the variables of life and dare to face life, then, what else will you be afraid of?
Ibsen once said, "Don't be overwhelmed by good luck, don't be overwhelmed by bad luck." "This is the real master, he knows how to find the darkness in the pride, the light in the predicament, and constantly revise the direction of his progress. ”
Whether it is marriage or all kinds of tribulations in life, you must take care of it with your heart. As long as you are good enough, there will be a light shining on the road ahead, and there will be a flower that blooms with the wind.