In interpersonal interactions, we inevitably encounter verbal aggression from others. These attacks can come from different sources, some are due to misunderstandings, some are due to conflicts of interest, and some may simply be venting the emotions of the other party. In the face of these attacks, the really powerful people do not choose to go-for-tat, but are able to do it".
1. Don't get angry.
The first thing to do in the face of verbal aggression is not to get angry. Getting angry will only put yourself in a more passive situation and will most likely make the attacker more proud. Not being angry does not mean swallowing your anger, but learning to face it with a calm mind. Remember, the other person's words do not represent what they really think, and are likely to be a catharsis of their emotions.
2. No refutation.
Many people's first reaction when confronted with verbal aggression is to refute it. But the really good know that rebuttals often only make things worse. They choose not to refute, not because they agree with the other person's point of view, but because they understand that in an emotional state, any rebuttal can be used by the other person to further deteriorate the relationship.
3. No explanation.
When misunderstood, people tend to rush to explain. However, the really good people know that explanations tend to only get darker and darker. They choose not to explain, not because they have some ulterior secrets, but because they believe that time will tell. In their view, an explanation is a feeble argument, and it is better to prove their innocence with actions.
Fourth, no retaliation.
In the face of verbal aggression, someone may choose to retaliate. But retaliation will only complicate things and may even lead to greater conflict. Really powerful people know that revenge is not the solution to the problem, they choose tolerance and understanding, and use a tolerant attitude to resolve the hostility of the other party.
5. Don't run away.
Although there is no refutation, no explanation, no anger, no revenge, it does not mean that the really good people will run away from the problem. They know that running away will only make the problem worse. They will choose to face the problem head-on and solve it through communication and exchange. They believe that it is only through face-to-face communication that they can truly understand each other's thoughts and feelings and find the best way to solve problems.
In short, in the face of verbal attacks from others, really powerful people are able to "not get angry, not refuge, not explain, not retaliate, and not escape." They deal with it with a calm mind, and use wisdom and courage to resolve conflicts. This way of dealing with it can not only protect oneself, but also maintain harmonious interpersonal relationships. Remember, when confronted with verbal aggression, do "can't go wrong."