Rare sobriety for adults Don t compete with human nature

Newton once sighed

"I can calculate the orbits of celestial bodies, but I can't calculate the madness of human nature. ”

When good thoughts and evil thoughts are entangled with each other, people's hearts are pulled back and forth, and if they are not careful, they will slide step by step into the dark abyss.

And the rarest sobriety is to conform to human nature and not compete with it.

When the scenery is beautiful, there are not many people who wish you well

On Zhihu, some netizens asked:

"Why aren't there people who really want you well? ”

"Most acquaintances may wish you well, but they don't want you to be better than him.

There are also those who hate you and laugh at you ......”

Zhihu netizen @Zhiheng once told the story of Huang Zhe.

Huang Zhe's family has been in the countryside for generations, and since he was born, his parents have been teaching him attentively, hoping that he will be able to get ahead when he grows up.

Fortunately, Huang Zhe was smart and studious, lived up to his family's expectations, and eventually became the only college student in the village.

After graduation, Huang Zhe not only entered a large company, but also learned financial management and investment after his income stabilized, which immediately raised his life to a higher level.

After finding a job for his younger brother, he brought his parents into the city to enjoy the blessings.

However, my parents are not used to living in the city, and they still think that their hometown is good.

In desperation, Huang Zhe had to build a new two-story building in his hometown and hire a nanny to take care of his parents.

In the beginning, as long as the villagers met Huang Zhe's parents, they praised them for having a good son who was filial.

However, half a month later, the doors and windows of his house were smashed, and gossip spread in the village, saying that Huang Zhe was playing with young girls' feelings in the city, and so on.

The family is very distressed, and their family is very popular in the village, and they have neither offended nor blocked humanity.

It wasn't until later that Huang Zhe learned from others that these things were all done by his cousin.

My cousin couldn't see that Huang Zhe's family was comfortable, but she couldn't change it, so she wanted their whole family to be unhappy.

The greatest evil of human nature is that it cannot tolerate those close to us to live better.

As Mo Yan said:

"It is your parents who want you to get better; I'm afraid that you're too good, it's a relative;

It is your colleagues who think you are unlucky, and most of the people who persuade you to be generous are not well-intentioned. ”

Don't compete with human nature, stay away from those who can't see your own good, and get along with those who nourish you, so that you can live a happier life.

When you're down, there are very few people who pull you along

Lu Mengzheng, the prime minister of the Northern Song Dynasty, also had a very depressed time.

When he was young, his father was obsessed with beauty, and his mother chose to leave home after repeated persuasions to no avail.

In anger, his father expelled Lu Mengzheng from the house.

Lü Meng was begging his father to take back his life, but he was ruthlessly refused, and he was terrified and angry, and he didn't know where to go.

The mother, who was not afraid of danger, took Lu Mengzheng back to his hometown, hoping to seek protection from his relatives.

Unexpectedly, the mother and son, who were full of hope, were met with cold eyes from their relatives.

Even the former friends of the Lu family, who hurried over when they heard the news, shook their heads and sighed.

Of all the relatives and friends, none of them reached out to help.

The cruelest truth of human nature is like a sharp knife, making the mother and son fall into an ice cave.

With the help of an enlightened monk, they were able to take up a temporary residence in a cave.

Two years later, Lu Mengzheng, who was studying hard in the stone cave, finally had the opportunity to participate in the imperial examination, but there was no entanglement in the exam.

Lü Meng was going door-to-door, borrowing all his relatives, but no one was willing to give half a penny.

Relatives even laughed at Lü Meng for daydreaming and advised him not to waste time.

After Lu Mengzheng, who was in tears, returned home, he fell into the despair of life, and the sneers of his relatives made him more painful than the cold arrows of outsiders.

His mother encouraged him that since he had nothing to rely on, he could only rely on himself.

Since then, his mother has been spinning and sewing clothes day and night, and Lu Meng is making money by helping people copy books, and finally scraped together enough money to pay for it.

When the news of his winning the top prize came back to his hometown, those relatives who had retreated came to the door to contact him.

Lü Mengzheng wrote a couplet poem for these relatives, to the effect of:

"Downcast like a beggar, no one sends charcoal in the snow;

Winning the top prize in one fell swoop is the icing on the cake. ”

When you are strong, the whole world will greet you with a smile, and when you are down, you will be coldly looked at by people.

As Mr. Yang Jiang said:

"Only when you are down, you will understand, there are very few people who are willing to pull you. ”

Don't be true to human nature, and when you encounter difficulties, it's better to ask for others than for yourself.

When you go through the poverty of thousands of people, you will surely usher in the bright light of thousands of people.

When you are confused, there is no one to guide you

Someone asked Liu Run, how to achieve success and happiness in life?

Liu Run replied:

"Rely on wisdom.

The world is too complex, there are too many uncertainties, and wisdom is needed to guide us. ”

However, when you are confused, there is no one to show you the way out.

Best-selling author Ma Rebellion has written his own story in his works.

When he was young, he wanted to enter the **circle, but he couldn't see the road**, so he began to look for a new dream - writing.

However, in confusion and helplessness, although he is very diligent, his writing road is not smooth.

In the first two years of writing, Ma rebelled to countless magazines, but did not receive a single notice of use.

What he didn't expect was that at the darkest moment of his life, his girlfriend also left him.

The ugliness of human nature makes him sad, it turns out that when you are confused and ordinary, even those close to you look down on you, let alone expect someone to guide you.

At the same time, Ma rebels rebelled and left their relatives because ......they insisted on "ridiculous" dreams

At home, his father and brother scolded and ridiculed him, and in the village, there were a lot of people who spoke cool words.

Everyone laughed at him for his poor family and not much reading, but he still wanted to become a writer, and made fun of him for having no possibility of success, but he still had to continue experimenting.

However, the ridicule of the outside world did not affect Ma Rebellion, and no matter how hard he chose the road, he had to go on.

Years later, he rose to fame with "Companionship is the Confession of the Longest Love" and became a best-selling author.

Before becoming famous, his father said that he "you are suitable for raising pigs", and after becoming famous, his father said, "The fortune teller said that you are not an ordinary person." ”

The truest side of human nature is: when you succeed, someone cheers for you, and when you are confused, there are many people around, but no one tells you that the road ahead is **.

As Sanmao once said in "Send You a Horse":

"What is the heart, there is like a thousand miles of maze, thousands of miles away, there is no boat to cross people, except for self-crossing, others can not help. ”

Instead of waiting for others to guide you in the fog, you should break out of the siege alone and seek a new turnaround.

Writer Lian Yue once said:

"The darkness of human nature is unfathomable, and the light of human nature is unfathomable. ”

Instead of resisting the evil of human nature, it is better to awaken the good of human nature.

ClickThumbs upLet us stay awake, abandon the flaws of human nature, and live life to the fullest.

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