There is a "Duck effect" in psychology, which refers to a phenomenon of cognitive bias.
The less capable people are, the more they estimate themselves and think they are perfect.
Jixing" has clouds: "* No color, white bi has slight flaws." ”
In fact, no one is absolutely perfect, and no one is absolutely perfect.
Not overestimating oneself is the top level of self-discipline for adults
Don't overestimate yourself and be a low-key person
A famous person once said, "Man is born free, but he is always trapped in chains." He thinks he is the master of all others, but he is a slave more than all others. ”
In this world, if you want to live freely, you should abandon self-righteousness and be a low-key person.
In the past, there was a person in the Wei State who did not learn and did not know anything, but pretended to be knowledgeable.
It is said that with a single glance at many cultural objects, he can tell when and what purpose they were used for.
As a result, he is often proud.
One day, when he went for a walk by the river, he was hit by something, and he angrily searched around and found it a bronze object.
Ignoring the pain in his feet, he quickly picked it up and took a closer look, this thing looked like a wine glass, with a hole on each side, and the pattern was complex and exquisite, like a rare treasure.
Wei people felt that they had a treasure, and decided to set up a banquet to invite relatives and friends to celebrate.
At the banquet, he carefully took out the bronze utensils, poured them full of wine, and saluted everyone: "This thing is a wine utensil in the Xia and Shang period, I got it by chance, let everyone enjoy it today." ”
After the wine was finished, everyone present watched and played with the utensils, and they were full of praise, congratulating the master on getting this rare treasure.
However, halfway through the wine field, a person from Qiushan saw the Wei people's wine utensils and said in astonishment: "This thing is a copper crotch guard, where did you get this thing?" ”
Suddenly, the audience was in an uproar, Wei Ren's face was red, and he hurriedly threw away the bronze utensils, eager to find a crack in the ground to drill down.
is self-righteous, doesn't know how to pretend to understand, and in the end can only deceive himself and others.
Standing on tiptoe and trying to stand tall, but unable to stand; If you want to go fast, you can't go far.
To be a man, you must recognize how many pounds and taels you have, and don't overestimate yourself and be arrogant.
People are self-aware, low-key people, and do things rationally, in order to live their own lives.
Don't underestimate others and be humble
Qu Yuan said: "The ruler is short, the inch is long, and the material is insufficient. ”
Never underestimate anyone, let alone underestimate others, because you can't see everyone.
Sometimes, those who seem to be quiet are waiting for the right time to gather strength and break out of the cocoon into butterflies.
In Mr. Jin Yong's "Dragon Babu", there is a sweeping monk who ranks first in the world in martial arts.
At first, everyone thought that he was just an inconspicuous nameless old monk.
But in the back, this old monk made many martial arts masters willing to defeat him, and even a peerless master like Qiao Feng was ashamed of himself.
It turned out that the old monk's martial arts were unfathomable, and he had accumulated a lot of experience over the years, and he had been hiding it deeply.
The person who was defeated by the old monk sighed to himself, "I underestimate this old monk so much, and I need to cultivate diligently." ”
Thirty years in Hedong, thirty years in Hexi, everything has cause and effect, and all things have reincarnation.
Those who had underestimated him eventually fell in love with him; And those who didn't take him seriously, in the end, were defeated by him.
Regardless of whether they are rich or poor, whether they are rich or poor, they treat everyone in the world equally.
Don't underestimate anyone, let alone overestimate yourself, learning to respect others is the best cultivation for a person.
Zeng Guofan once said: "I think I am smart and insightful, but I have too little experience, and it is the best policy to work hard." ”
In life, everyone is up and down, and maybe a moment of fame jumps, but it will suddenly fall to the bottom.
Bowing one's head and humility is the true wisdom.
Doing things in a down-to-earth manner and being a stable person is the way to behave in the world.
The highest state of being a human being is to recognize oneself
There is a saying in the Tao Te Ching: "Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are clear." ”
A person who understands others can only be considered wise, and a person who can recognize himself is a true wise person.
During the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a weak Xi State.
All along, Zheng Guo and Xi Guo have lived in good neighborliness and non-aggression against each other.
Until a small incident happened, Zheng Xi and the two countries had friction.
The monarch of Xi Guo held a grudge and decided to crusade against Zheng Guo, so he summoned his ministers to discuss.
Zheng Guoguo is strong and prosperous, and there is a huge difference in strength between Xi Guo and it.
Therefore, the ministers reminded the monarch one after another: "The prestige and national strength of our country are not as good as Zheng Guo." “
And the monarch of the state of Xiguo has already made up his mind, and does not care about these persuasions.
So, he ordered the whole army to raid, wanting to catch Zheng Guo by surprise.
But in fact, Zheng Guo temporarily sent troops to meet the battle, and he was able to break through the ** team in one fell swoop.
In the end, the weak state of Xi was defeated, and soon after this battle, it was wiped out, and it has since disappeared from history.
The monarch of the kingdom was ignorant, self-conscious, and acted impulsively, and eventually died here, and led to the destruction of the entire country.
To be a man, if you don't want to suffer a big loss, you must have self-knowledge;
To do things, if you don't want to stumble, you have to do what you can.
Only by correcting one's own position and recognizing one's own level can one not be deceived by falsehood and become a winner in life.
Only by learning to recognize oneself can we reach the highest state of being a human being.
Lao Tzu said: "Those who see themselves are unknown, those who are self-righteous are not prominent, those who are self-cutting are useless, and those who are self-conscious are not long." ”
Only by looking at the positioning and being a low-key person can we achieve stability and long-term success;
Respecting others and being humble is the way to live in the world;
Recognize yourself, neither humble nor arrogant, in order to be able to stand in the world.
Only when you look at yourself can you see your true self.
May you and I recognize ourselves for the rest of our lives and be happy every day in continuous progress!
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