My friend sent me a voice message, saying that she was very good to a friend and regarded him as a good friend, but the other party did not respect her, sometimes joked about her shortcomings in front of others, or sent messages without replying for two days.
From my friend's voice, I could hear her sadness and anger. So I comforted her a few words and sent her a sentence from Mo Yan. Here's what the quote says:"When a person doesn't respect you, put away your generosity, don't be angry and sad, you just ignore the choice. ”
In fact, everyone has met some people who don't respect us, and so do I. These people always show disdain for others in various ways, making people feel angry and sad. But in the face of such a situation, Mo Yan told you that you only need to ignore and stay away, it is enough.
Can you imagine what you would do if you met a wolf who doesn't know how to be grateful and can only bite? You definitely choose to stay away from it and avoid being hurt rather than bite it back.
When you meet someone who doesn't respect you, you should also choose to stay away. It's not that you're afraid of him, but there's no need to dwell on the other person.
And when facing people who don't respect you, you have to put away your generosity, even if you are called a stingy person, you don't care. Because you're not really being stingy, you're just avoiding letting your kindness and generosity be taken advantage of. Some people hurt you recklessly because of your generosity, so don't give these people a chance.
But then again, you shouldn't be angry or upset because of someone else's disrespect. After all, it's not your fault, but it also makes you fall into negative emotions, which causes more mental internal friction. On the contrary, when you remain calm and have a calm mind in the face of these people who disrespect you, you can minimize the damage.
When you come into contact with more and more people, you will find that some people will not become friends with each other no matter how hard you work and put into it. If you meet someone who doesn't respect you, don't force yourself, but also maintain your dignity, don't deny yourself because others don't respect you, and don't let your emotions be affected.
At this point, your best bet is to learn to keep your distance, or even stay away.
This is not to say that you have to take revenge or be cynical, but to avoid letting other people's negative emotions affect you and not letting such people into your life.
Of course, it is still important to learn to be tolerant and understanding when dealing with people who disrespect you. Sometimes someone is disrespectful because of their own problems or experiences, and you shouldn't resent or be hostile to them because of it.
Instead, you can try to understand his situation and be tolerant of why he doesn't respect you. Only then will you be able to manage your relationship with each other.
However, I think this way of dealing with it is good, but it is rarely done, mainly because the other person is not worth it. He's obviously deliberately disrespecting you, and there's nothing wrong with it, and there's nothing wrong with disrespecting people, it's just that he doesn't want to respect you.
So, at this time, you put away your generosity and don't waste your time, money, and experience on people who are not worth associating. You don't have to be angry or upset, it's not worth it.
There are still many people in the world who are worthy of your association, especially those who know how to respect you and care for you, shouldn't you focus more on these people and stay away from those who don't respect you?