Yesterday at noon, I took my children to a relative's house as a guest, and on the way backI asked the baby a question: It seems that your mood has been more stable recently, and the number of times you get angry is very small, why is this?
I waited for a minute, but the baby didn't reply to me, I thought, he was thinking, right? After another minute, there was still no reply, and I asked him again: Did you hear Mom's question just now? He nodded, then replied
When I want to get angry, I think: I'm right, and others are right, so I don't get angry easily. When I heard that, I was shocked at first, then delighted.
Since he was born, I have been conscious of being a friend to my child's growth. I've always thought I'm doing a good job, although someone once said: If you treat your child like this, he won't be afraid of you, and you can't control him.
To be honest, I never wanted my child to be afraid of me, on the contrary, I was worried that he would be afraid of meWhy? Because a child is afraid of parental authority, then it is impossible for us to have a deep level of communication with the child. They are still young and know that they need to rely on their parents, so they will do a lot of things against their will to get their parents' approval and not punish them. For children, this is undoubtedly harmful, and as parents, is this what we want to see?
Of course, there is no standard answer for good parents, but I believe that in the eyes of children, they want their parents to give warmth, support and love.
Make an extension of the child's sentence.
I'm right, it's human nature. In a child's cognition, when I am angry, I think that others have done something sorry for me, and in order to protect me from being harmed, I have to show my anger.
Based on this, it is necessary to admit that others are also right, how against human nature. The child can take this into account, and I think that his wisdom in dealing with anger is not below me, and I need to learn from him. Although he is not always able to do what he says, it doesn't matter, consciousness is already the beginning of awareness, not to mention that I, as an adult, can't treat it rationally every time.
I'm right: it's from my point of view, accepting myself, appreciating myself, and increasing my self-confidence.
Others are right: it is to stand in the perspective of others, look at it with empathy, and reduce the internal friction caused by proving others wrong.
One might ask, does the child think I'm right, is it really right?
I think that children can't always be right, and he is aware of it. Because in the process of getting along with people, he will always hit a wall, and it is inevitable to get angry.
As he grows older, he will slowly iterate on his perception of angerDon't rush to let him grow up, is like a sapling, given plenty of sunshine, nourishment and water, and one day, he will grow into that tree, that tree of his own.
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