Netizens' thoughts:
Please help me see if my boyfriend has a problem or I think too much, that is, I have recently had a friction with my boyfriend and my boyfriend's friend, the first thing is that I like to watch horror movies very much, and I will also pull my boyfriend to watch it together, although my boyfriend will be scared, but he will also follow me to watch, I will also recommend to him movies that I think are good, but he knows that there is no follow-up, and then the other night, he told me that he was sleepy and ready to sleep, and after a while, he suddenly asked me about the horror movies I recommended, I thought my boyfriend wanted to watch it with me, so I found several, but he told me that his friend wanted to watch it, and he told his friend that I also like to watch horror movies, and then his friend asked him to ask me, and I was confused, didn't I talk to me at the beginning, why did I suddenly chat with my friend, but I also recommended it, and his friend also recommended a few to me, there is a Hong Kong horror movie, I discussed with my boyfriend to watch it together tomorrow, and then the next morning, I got up and hit my boyfriend **, and asked him what he was doing, He said to watch the commentary of that horror movie again, I said don't you like to be scared too much, why did you suddenly watch it, he said that his friend recommended it and watched it, and he watched two episodes of commentary and didn't watch anything else, I wanted to have a common topic with you, and then I felt a little unhappy, because my boyfriend and I have also recommended it many times, but in addition to me taking the initiative to pull him to watch it together, there was no one who took the initiative to search for it after I recommended it, why did his friend recommend it and immediately searched for it, I told my boyfriend about this, and he felt that I thought I thought about it too much, so I didn't say anything at the time. The second thing is that a few days later, my boyfriend asked me to play Yuan Meng, Star, I feel very good, because I like to play these, but my boyfriend doesn't like this kind of game, I feel a little boring, and then I don't call him to play this, he called me that day I was very happy, and I looked online, it was his friend who called him, and then he called me, and I played that breakthrough Neverland, after playing, I said to my boyfriend, why did I ask you to play Yuan Meng with me, you said it's boring, it's better to play something else, Why did he tell you to play Yuanmeng, you are willing to play online, he said nothing, just play together, I said you don't think playing Yuanmeng is boring, he said to play with his friend, it's very interesting, you don't understand. The third thing is that his friend went home today, and he said that he would get home at half past five, and asked him to pick him up at the train station, and then my boyfriend took a taxi, and I remembered one thing, when we went back to my hometown together, I told him that when I came back to Changchun, he came to pick me up at the station, he said it was so cold, I didn't want to go, I just coquettishly asked him to pick me up, and he was a little similar to me coquettishly said that he didn't want to go, but in the end he promised me to go back to Changchun to pick me up at the station, I later hit ** with my boyfriend and said, Why did your friend let you pick you up, I let you pick me up, you said it was so cold and rejected me, you were willing to see you for a long time. These are the current few things, I want to ask if I think too much or my boyfriend is doing something wrong, I listen to persuasion, and if I think too much, I won't dwell on these things, but it's my boyfriend's business, and I'm going to talk to him.
My answer :
There is a little problem with your boyfriend, but it's not a big problem, because your boyfriend's friend is a boy and not the opposite sex, if it's the opposite sex, the nature is completely different, then the reason why your boyfriend will ignore you a little and tend to be more inclined to an emotional feeling of your friend may be because he has been with you for a long time, and he may experience and do more things together, so he repeats one thing and repeats to experience some things. It may give rise to a boring feeling.,It's not that I'm tired.,It's a little less interested.,But on the contrary, with friends.,It's not often fun to be with friends.。
It's not often entertaining with friends.,It's just an occasional whim to play together.,It's a different sense of experience.,This sense of experience is like having dinner and drinking with three or five friends.,Playing mahjong and cards together is the same feeling.,You bring it into this scene.,Maybe you'll be able to experience a sense of empathy from him.,That is, like you and your best friend and your little sister go out shopping.,There's a., Anyway, it's the mentality of playing with your girlfriends is about the same, I think overall, the problem is not particularly serious, and the nature is not so bad.
Netizen replied:
And my boyfriend thinks it's okay to play games with a girl, I think there's a problem, it's that I think he's more biased towards his friend, he just doesn't want to pay attention to me, it's probably because he wants to relax.
My reply :
Is there a problem with opening a microphone and playing games with girls? If you trust your boyfriend enough, and your boyfriend trusts yourself enough, that mentality is simply a kind of entertainment and some games with common hobbies to entertain together, and if it is a simple entertainment mentality, then maybe you can forget a lot of worries, then forget about worries This behavior is to give him enough personal space and a sense of proportion, and the problem is a problem with the other party's mentality. If his mind is to find it more interesting to play with other members of the opposite sex, then there may be a problem.
He thinks it's interesting to play with other members of the opposite sex, it's not interesting to play with you, such a mentality, then the other party is problematic, if he thinks that playing with other members of the opposite sex is just a simple entertainment, a kind of relaxation, a kind of game partner, a hobby of a gathering, is such a pure mentality, then the other party is no problem, between the two depends entirely on whether he has peace of mind and justifiable to completely ignore some of your emotional feelings, This is the biggest difference, if he does it intentionally, he deliberately turns a blind eye to your emotional feelings, then the other person has a problem. If you tolerate the other person, and the other party also knows the sense of proportion and knows some problems that cannot be exceeded when playing games together, then the other party has no problem.
Netizen replied:
It's that I think I can just play with boys.,That's why do you have to be with girls.,And then it's him and his friends or something.,I feel like it's the same thing.,For example, the same recommended horror movie and then his friend recommended it.,He will go directly to search.,And then want to watch it.,After I recommend it to him, he doesn't want to watch it.,Don't want to pay attention to me.,Don't want to take the initiative to search.,And then he also told me.,If you can't accept me and my friend playing games, Then let's break up. I wondered a little bit about his attitude, and I felt that he would often ignore me because of his friends, just ignore my words or something, even if my friends also pulled him to play games with him, he would choose to reject me. There was before, that is, he and his friend played a game for a long time, I said you don't play today, that is, you free time to accompany me today, but then his friend asked him to play a game, and then he will tell me, I said you didn't promise to accompany me today, and then he will be angry with me, and then he will give me a lot of difficulty, and then I think he has promised me.
My reply :
At first, I thought your boyfriend was occasionally playing games with his friends coldly.,Hang you aside.,I think it's normal.,The other party is no problem.,But now I find that the other party's problem is really sinful.,Now the situation has completely risen to another nature.,That is, the other party thinks that playing games.,Plus a game with friends is more important than accompanying you.,The game is more important than you.,You have a position in the other party's mind. , The position is in a very late position, it seems to be in his mind, and the weight of your position is not particularly important, you can see this.
If the other party takes your weight and your position very lightly, then you will not have that cherished and cautious heart, that is, the kind of mentality that cares about and cares about your emotional feelings He is completely gone, if not, then he is absent-minded about you, indifferent to you, perfunctory to you, it is understandable, so I think at this moment, he is like an iceberg, the iceberg gives people the feeling that there will be no warmth, there will be no sense of warmth, You will only feel the other person's special indifference and ruthlessness, which is the so-called emotional indifference.
Then let's talk about why the other party has such a fearless situation, that is, some of your words are taken as a deaf ear, and often don't care about your emotional feelings, even if you deliberately emphasize and ask to say your heart, the other party still chooses to ignore it, ignoring why this situation occurs? Maybe it's because you care too much about the other person, and then show that you care about him too obviously, so that he feels that you are an established existence in his life, and he can't shake and never abandon the truth, so he will have no fear of you, and he will always be high and arrogant to know? So you have a responsibility too.
Netizen replied:
Playing games a lot.
Netizen replied:
So who is right and who is wrong in this matter? Is there still suspense? There's no suspense.,It must be the other party's problem.,The other party spends more time.,Energy.,Mind spent more time on playing games with friends.,Ignore one of your emotional feelings.,What is your mood?,He didn't think about it at all.,And he deserves it.,And rightly say to you.,If you don't like me playing games with friends.,Then we'll break up.,Threaten you with such a wording.,Then I think it's really very unbearable., It's really very cold-blooded and ruthless, so his problem is still relatively obvious.
Netizen replied:
I'll have to think about it.
My reply :
If you are in an intimate relationship, if you really can't understand some questions, and really don't know whether the other party is right or wrong, I will teach you a way, that is, the most important thing is to measure your emotional feelings, if you feel that the other party's behavior brings you some discomfort, makes you feel uncomfortable, makes you feel indifferent, and is not very attentive to the other party, cares about it, cares about holding it in the palm of your hand, you feel left out believe me, you have such an intuitive feeling, It's always right, because this kind of feeling that you don't have a lot of love won't deceive you, you girls are naturally careful, delicate, sensitive, and the intuitive feeling of the sixth sense is relatively strong and accurate.
Netizen replied:
Okay, I'll have a good talk with him.
My reply :
Haven't you talked to the other party many times before, every time you talk, the other party is in a posture of righteousness, domineering, and aggressive posture to tell you, you don't want you to look at it, then we will break up, every time you will be soft-hearted, every time you will be afraid of the other party's words and retreat, so you remain silent, continue to endure the other party's arrogant behavior, So this time you still maintain the same groveling posture as before? If it is still the same, then the negotiation will definitely be fruitless, and the other party will definitely continue to reduce the dimension and attack you, so don't have the mentality you used to talk to the other party, be serious, and be a little unique.
Netizen replied:
I talked to him again today, and he said to me, then you post a post this time to ask, and see what others say, whose fault it is.