The debate about "divorce without leaving home" has been going on for a long time.
Some people feel that this approach is too advanced, while others feel that it is always a husband and wife, and it is not impossible to make the transition when there is no better choice.
In many cases of extramarital affairs,Many wives passively accept their husbands' request to "divorce and not leave home" due to soft-heartedness and other reasons, what are the risks of doing so?
1. The original match becomes a small three
There is such a consulting case: "After more than ten years of marriage, I found that my husband was cheating, and he said that he wanted to return to the family, but I couldn't pass the hurdle in my heart, so I divorced him with a tough attitude."
The house I bought in full belongs to me, and I need to pay him 200,000.
The husband filed for divorce and did not leave home, saying that his daughter was about to take the high school entrance examination and was worried about affecting her state.
I also have my own considerations, I want to punish him with divorce, and then remarry when he behaves well, thinking that he will never forget this lesson for the rest of his life, so I agreed to his request for divorce and not leaving home.
As a result, half a month after the divorce, he came home later and later, and he no longer told me where he went, saying why should I care about him.
It wasn't until another woman came to the door that I learned that he had secretly taken a big step forward and had already obtained a marriage license with someone else.
It turned out that he divorced and didn't leave home really just to not affect his daughter's high school entrance examination, but I still had the idea of being able to go back to the past. ”
This is the naked negative teaching material of divorce without leaving homeOne is that he made a rash decision to divorce without thinking about the future, but he didn't know that men also had their own plans; The second is that he has no ability to give up, and in essence, he still has a dependence on men, and as a result, he has no proper name, but has become a junior who destroys other people's families.
2. There are financial risks
If marriage is a contract, then divorce is a dissolution.
As long as the divorce is obtained, it means that the two people have cut off emotionally, property, and relationships.
In accordance with the law,During the period of cohabitation, the respective income is personal property and is not part of the joint property of the husband and wife.
And whereasIf it can be proved that the debts incurred during the period of "divorce without leaving home" are used for living together, they need to be jointly borne by both people.
In other words, if the man borrowed 200,000 yuan in foreign debts during the divorce and did not leave home, he can prove that the money was used for your daily life, then you also need to bear this debt.
3. Possessiveness and inability to start a new life
In the TV series "Thirty Only", after Zhong Xiaoqin and Chen Yu divorced, the two chose to divorce and not leave home, and they still faced each other day and night.
At that time, when Chen Yu said that he would give half of the house and savings to Zhong Xiaoqin, everyone felt that this man was quite responsible.
But things are getting wrong.
Chen Yu has no consciousness of being divorced at all, and he still thinks that Zhong Xiaoqin is his wife, and he has a possessive desire for her that cannot be concealed.
He and his younger brother made all kinds of small moves to embarrass Xiaoqin, trying to get her to ask for help from him, so as to win her favor.
He also deliberately turned off the electric gate at night to scare Xiaoqin, and drunk Xiaoqin with red wine, so that she could mess around after drinking.
If the two of them are going in both directions, it is better to say, if Chen Yu shaves his head and the burden is hot, then his behavior is really terrible.
Xiao Xianrou Zhong Xiaoyang sent Xiaoqin home, Chen Yu was very angry, he scolded Xiaoqin angrily, saying that he wanted to save face, and said that the neighbors had seen it, and there was no place for his face.
Chen Yu seems to have forgotten the fact that the two have divorced.
The TV series positions Chen Yu as not a bad person, so there is no particularly extreme behavior.
But in real life, many divorced men who do not leave home still regard their wives as their own property, so much so that they do some dangerous behaviors.
I once saw a news story about a man who slashed his ex-wife and his ex-wife's new boyfriend on the spur of the moment.
* After that, he said angrily: "She brought me a green hat, and I really couldn't help it." ”
It turned out that after the two divorced, they still lived together for various reasons, which created an illusion for men that we would remarry sooner or later.
Unexpectedly, the ex-wife walked out of this marriage first and got a new boyfriend.
learned that he had a big fight with his ex-wife that night, and his ex-wife asked: "We have divorced a long time ago, what do we have to do with us legally?" ”
And the more he thought about it in a series of stimuli later, the more extreme it became, and finally uncontrollably swung the knife at his ex-wife and the "concubine" in his eyes.
Couples who choose to divorce and not leave home actually have their own plans, and most of them want to try to reduce the conflict between the two after they are no longer legally husband and wife. Will the original conflict disappear after receiving the divorce certificate, and want to give each other a chance.
But the fact is that there are many risks associated with divorce without leaving homeTherefore, you must be cautious when making such a choice, and you must be clear about what you want.