Yesterday's tweet "School Bullying, You Know Maybe It's Just the Tip of the Iceberg", I really hope that more people can see it and draw enough attention to school bullying, so that they can learn how to effectively avoid and deal with it.
After the shocking scenes, let's talk about what we should do when we really face it? 
If you are being bullied right nowRemember never give the bully the desired response at any time, especially if you're being bullied for the first time. We want to say no to our abusers bravely and firmly, and accurately and clearly convey that you are not afraid and will not accept their violent behavior. Be sure to talk to your parents or an adult you can trust as early as possible. This includes your teacher, class teacher, and principal. Bullies usually try to obey potential victims, and when they find out that potential victims don't resist, don't dare to tell parents, and don't dare to report back to the school, they will definitely get worse, so it's important to stand up early and firm. Please learn to find friends, because if you have a good partner around you to rely on each other, even if his energy can't prevent you from being bullied, but two people together will definitely be greater than one person, emotional companionship is very important, he can support you, can encourage you, and think with you how to seek help from the outside world in time to solve the problem. Be sure to face yourself and don't be influenced by bullies to look down on yourself and put your head down. Learn to be kind to yourself, believe in yourself, and learn to be self-motivated. If you blame yourself like the bully who abused you, thinking that they were right, and feeling ashamed because of your appearance, personality, origin, nationality, etc., the bully will inevitably bully you forever. Learn to find your own sense of existence, learn to discover your self-worth. 
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As parents, we must recognize and be aware of the universality and randomness of school bullying, so we must pay attention to guidance and prevention in the process of getting along with our children, so that children can also have a certain psychological preparation and judgment ability. Teach your child self-esteem, self-love, and self-preservation. It may be that some parents will blindly require their children to be obedient and obedient in the process of educating their children. In fact, in the long run, it will be easy to suppress the child's self-esteem, and it will also easily lead to the child's weak personality and obedience, so that he will become a potential target for bullying in school. If parents judge that the complexity of handling the incident is beyond the scope of the child's ability, parents should no longer insist, and should take timely action and communicate directly with the school and teachers as soon as possible to nip the problem in the cradle. Encourage your child to develop meaningful relationships on their own. As made clear in the previous tweet "School Bullying, You Know It May Be Just the Tip of the Iceberg", children who are withdrawn, unsociable, and have relatively poor interpersonal skills are more likely to be bullied at school. Parents must pay attention to cultivating goodwill between their children and the people around them from an early age, and pay attention to cultivating their interpersonal communication skills, which can have a direct and effective buffering effect on the impact of school bullying. 
Learn to stay calm, because your child's health is paramount. We must be good at observation, good at discovery, maintain good communication with children, and pay attention to children's every move. When you hear your child talk about bullying, it's important to stay calm, listen patiently, and respond as gently as possible. If we parents are swayed by emotions, then the child will not have the confidence to face it, so let the child clearly know that the current situation is not bad, and have complete confidence that there is a way to control it. Let your child firmly remember that no matter what happens, his parents will stand by his side and support him. Please learn to empathize, accept, reassure, affirm. When we encounter bullying, we as parents don't need to rush to ask too many details, and we don't blindly remind our children not to worry about their classmates before we understand anything, because your behavior is very likely to make your child mistakenly think that the bullying is because of his own problems, which will cause him to fall into deeper pain and self-blame. At this time, empathy is very important, we need to send a positive signal to the child, that is, things are not "normal", you are very sad, but we have to stay calm and solve it in the right way. We need to be good at discovering that when our children are really experiencing extreme emotions after being bullied, it is important for us to learn to be tolerant and clearly express the gesture of "we will always support you". When the child is extremely resistant to interpersonal relationships, unwilling to go to school, etc., tolerance will be extremely important, because at that time, your child is in a state of stress, and the international emotions that you do not understand will hurt him twice, so you have to accept it. After acceptance, it is even more reassuring, and it is very important to calm the child's emotions. When children are extremely insecure, they value the care of others, especially their loved ones. It is necessary to learn to calm and comfort the child in a timely manner, and accompany the child as soon as possible to deal with the emotions properly, so that the harm to the child and the impact on the future will be smaller, which may be more important than solving the problem itself. It is also crucial to affirm the child's bravery. We need to learn to communicate with our children and clearly tell them that we are grateful that they have the courage to tell you this, and that this is the trust we have in us. Clearly emphasize to him that only if he is willing to talk openly can his parents have the opportunity to help. Sometimes, our words of thanks can be very touching to children, and it is a form of mutual recognition and equality, which is very effective in building trust with children. If our child has been bullied in an unfortunate situation, stand firmly behind your child and put your child's feelings and emotions first. By rejecting the victim's guilt and listening carefully to what happened to the child, positive emotional support from parents will be the strongest support for the bullied. Then we must find the school and the teacher as soon as possible and ask about the communication facts. Once you've solved the problem at hand, it's important to pay attention to the subsequent effects of your child. Minimizing the impact on a child's future is our top priority. 
If you are a teacher or a school administrator now
As the main responsible person for the school environment, teachers and schools, like parents, must also attach great importance to the related issues of school bullying, and must not use the attitude of "more is better than less" to promote perfunctory. You know, many times, events don't go unnoticed because we don't pay attention to them. The high level of information sharing in the Internet era may infinitely magnify the damage that an incident may cause. What we need to do is to really help the victims to the greatest extent possible, and that is certainly the most important thing. In case of affairs, we must respond quickly, pay attention to it in a timely manner, immediately carry out rescue work, organize medical, psychological, judicial and other assistance, and do our best to protect the reasonable and lawful rights and interests of students. In addition to maximum relief, appropriate punishment of the perpetrator is also crucial. Schools must promptly notify parents of school bullies and give them serious criticism and education. Teachers and schools should firmly state that they will not tolerate such incidents, and that they will ensure that education is the purpose of saving and that appropriate punishment is appropriate within the limits of the law. When it rises beyond the school's ability to deal with it, it is necessary to actively seek the intervention of public security, judicial and other leading organs, control the incident within a controllable range in a timely manner, and do not choose to cover up the facts for the sake of the so-called "reputation", so as to protect the physical and mental health and legitimate rights and interests of the victim to the greatest extent. In the process of reasonably handling bullying incidents, schools should uphold compliance, lawfulness, reasonableness, and reasonableness, pay more attention to the victimized children and parents from the perspective of the victim, effectively protect the personal privacy of minors, objectively respond to social concerns, and accept reasonable social evaluations. 
Finally, I would like to add that China's "Protection of Minors" exists to protect the rights and interests of minors, not to provide protection for underage perpetrators. Protection must be a two-way street, not only to firmly support children to bravely say no to bullies, but also to correctly guide them not to become abusers.
Sometimes, the latter is more important, and if every minor is strict with himself and lenient with others, it is the source of extinction. Minors are definitely not an umbrella, and the problem of school bullying must not be solved simply by age. Treating bullying with indifference, cover-up, and connivance is more terrible than bullying itself. 
To refuse school bullying, you and I need to start from the heart!
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