When marriage becomes a matter of two families, marriage is supposed to be an agreement and commitment between two people, but it often involves the relationship between two families. Zhang Qian has a deep understanding of this. Zhang Qian once thought that it was enough to tolerate and understand each other with her husband in marriage, but she was wrong. Her marriage seems to have been complicated by her mother-in-law's intervention. The arrival of the mother-in-law was supposed to be for the harmony and happiness of the family. However, the mother-in-law was not grateful, but asked Zhang Qian and her husband for money with confidence. The mother-in-law has a pension of 4,000 yuan a month, but she uses most of it to help her brother-in-law buy a house, and let Zhang Qian go back to her parents' home to seek financial support. Zhang Qian began to feel dissatisfied. She didn't understand why her mother-in-law would treat her and her husband like this. The mother-in-law never seemed to consider their financial situation and always demanded money from them as a matter of course. And she and her husband can only endure it silently. The mother-in-law originally thought that Zhang Qian had a strong personality, so she wanted to come to the house to care for the elderly. However, she did not fulfill the responsibility of an elder, but increased Zhang Qian's burden.
The mother-in-law never contributes, but always asks them to pay through her eldest son or through a message to Zhang Qian. This made Zhang Qian angry, but she knew that it was her mother-in-law's money, and she had no right to interfere. However, what made Zhang Qian even more angry was that the brother-in-law and his family always asked her mother-in-law for money, but her mother-in-law always gave it without hesitation. Their requirements, the mother-in-law will meet. And when the brother-in-law asked his mother-in-law to borrow money to buy a house again, his mother-in-law actually gave him 200,000 yuan. The 200,000 was given unabashedly in front of Zhang Qian and her husband. This scene made Zhang Qian decide her choice. She decided to send her mother-in-law back to her brother-in-law's house. She is no longer willing to endure this unfair treatment, and she is no longer willing to be used as an ATM by her mother-in-law. Marriage is supposed to be a matter between two people. However, Zhang Qian's experience tells us that marriage often involves the relationship between two families. When the mother-in-law's intervention becomes too strong, even putting her own interests above others, the marriage becomes complicated and painful. So, how to deal with two family relationships in marriage?
First of all, it is important to make it clear that marriage is a commitment between two people, not an exchange of interests between two families. The mother-in-law's intervention should be for the harmony and happiness of the family, not for her own benefit. Second, maintain communication and understanding. The conflict in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law often stems from misunderstanding and stubbornness on both sides. Through active communication and mutual understanding, many unnecessary contradictions and conflicts can be avoided. Finally, stick to your principles and bottom line. When your mother-in-law's demands are unreasonable and you can't afford to meet them, you must learn to refuse. Marriage is equal, and the mother-in-law cannot be above herself. Marriage is a matter between two people. But when the mother-in-law's intervention becomes too strong, we also need to learn to deal with the two family relationships in the marriage. Only in this way can we truly achieve harmony and happiness in our marriage. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a sensitive topic in the family, and many families are facing a variety of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problems. In this story, Zhang Qian's mother-in-law is partial to her younger brother, and when they plan to change houses, her mother-in-law refuses to pay to help.
Zhang Qian felt unwilling and hoped that her husband would be able to communicate with her mother-in-law, but her husband was unwilling. In the end, Zhang Qian decided not to take in her mother-in-law anymore, believing that people should be with the person they like. This story triggered me to think about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, what kind of mother-in-law relationship is ideal? The complexity of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law lies in the different roles of two women, and different family backgrounds and living habits may lead to friction and conflict. However, a harmonious mother-in-law relationship is the cornerstone of family happiness, and it can bring respect, understanding and support between family members. So, how to build a harmonious mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship? First of all, both sides should respect each other's differences. The mother-in-law should understand the changes in the lifestyle and values of the young people, while the daughter-in-law should respect the mother-in-law's status and experience as elders. Secondly, both parties should maintain good communication. Communication is the key to solving problems, and it is only through honest and effective dialogue that a common solution can be found. Finally, both sides need to learn to be tolerant and tolerant.
Both mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law are part of the family, and each has their own strengths and weaknesses. Only through tolerance and tolerance can a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law be established. However, in real life, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often not as harmonious as ideally. Sometimes, a mother-in-law may be unfair to her daughter-in-law by doting on her children too much. In this case, how should the daughter-in-law deal with it? First of all, the daughter-in-law should be calm and sensible. Emotional reactions will only complicate the problem, and the daughter-in-law should try to stay calm and rational and solve the problem through rational communication. Secondly, the daughter-in-law should stick to her bottom line. Although the mother-in-law is part of the family, the daughter-in-law also has her own rights and needs to be respected. The daughter-in-law should stick to her bottom line and not be hurt by her mother-in-law's partiality. Finally, the daughter-in-law can appropriately seek outside help. If the mother-in-law's partiality towards the daughter-in-law has affected the daughter-in-law's life and happiness, the daughter-in-law can seek outside help, such as the advice of a friend or a counselor.
In this story, Zhang Qian's mother-in-law is partial to her younger brother, and when they plan to change houses, her mother-in-law refuses to pay to help. Zhang Qian felt unwilling and hoped that her husband would be able to communicate with her mother-in-law, but her husband was unwilling. In the end, Zhang Qian decided not to take in her mother-in-law anymore, believing that people should be with the person they like. This story triggered me to think about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, what kind of mother-in-law relationship is ideal? In my opinion, an ideal mother-in-law relationship should be based on mutual respect and understanding. Both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are part of the family, and they should respect each other's differences and understand each other's needs and feelings. Both parties should maintain good communication and resolve issues through frank and effective dialogue. At the same time, both parties also need to learn to be tolerant and tolerant, because everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and only through tolerance and tolerance can a harmonious mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship be established. Of course, building a harmonious mother-in-law relationship is a long-term process that requires the efforts and dedication of both parties.
However, as long as both parties are willing to put in the effort for the relationship, I believe that there will always be a good outcome. After all, family happiness is everyone's pursuit, and a harmonious mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is one of the important factors to achieve family happiness. At.