The impermanence of life is normal. Many people cannot accept the death of their loved ones as if they were caught off guard and have been separated from their loved ones ever since. Our hearts are broken, our hearts are broken, but nothing changes the fact that our loved ones are gone.
In fact, the elderly in the family often show some unusual signs before they die, and we should pay attention to, accompany and take care of them. Don't wait for someone to leave to add to your grief.
There is a very touching scene in the TV series "It's Nothing". Su Daqiang, who lived up to his children all his life, learned that he was terminally ill and dying in his later years, and his first thought was to call the children to his side and divide the property clearly. Even if they are selfish all their lives, at the end of their lives, the elderly are most concerned about their children.
Some old people do not think of dividing property when they are physically strong, not because they are unwilling to give, but because they are afraid that once they are divided, irreconcilable contradictions will arise. There's still plenty of time to plan for asset allocation. There is no need to rush. But there are elderly people who do not have a chance, and they must solve this puzzle immediately so as not to be attacked by children later.
Some psychologists have put forward the idea that the innocence of youth will only change by half. As people get older, this simplicity comes back to them. To put it bluntly, the beginning and end of life are simple, and the process of life is false and complex. But these hypocrisies and complexities are short-lived, and we only need to look at this departing old man to understand.
No matter how fake they were when they were younger, when they grew up, they were especially true to the people around them. The closer you get to the end, the easier it is for the truth to come out. Even when their loved ones ask them some innermost secrets, they will tell them the truth. Just like Cao Cao, his last words before his death were to tell his wife and concubine to live well, and when he had no money, he would do needlework to make money.
It has been said, "When a man is dying, his words are good; Even if the bird is dying, its song is a lamentation. "Who doesn't? Actually, at the moment of passing, everything becomes a passing cloud. While alive, what is yours is yours, and mine is mine, but when you die, you just come naked and go naked.
Some people say that in fact, at the moment of death, the mouth is opened, and this is the "good words". But the world is so stubborn that I didn't understand it until the last day, but it's not a pity. So for the sake of life and death, we don't have to dwell too hard.
Life is like a dream, the years are like a song, and it will eventually go to the overture. What is "going with the flow"?On the surface, it's a negative behavior, but in reality, it's a positive behavior that goes with the flow. If you are not open-minded, you will not go with the flow.
Qin Shi Huang Yingzheng was the first emperor of all dynasties, and after the age of 45, he began to pursue immortality, sending people everywhere to find immortal people, immortal mountains, and immortal medicines. Yingzheng already has the Qin State, and the next step is for thousands of generations. To my surprise, he died at the age of 49. Buyidi Liu Bang didn't have so many worries. At the age of sixty, he was not in good health, rejected any panacea, and did not believe in ghosts. Liu Bang sighed: "I take the world with cloth clothes and a three-foot sword, isn't this God's fate?" "Life is in heaven, though there is no good. ”
When people are old, there is always a desire to return to their homeland. Just like when a person's life is always the same and cannot move forward, he always has to look back and be nostalgic. The places where you lived when you were young are the easiest to remember and the easiest to remember. After all, people at that time were the most pure, and the surrounding environment was simple and happy. All men are like a harvest, which is either reaped or falls into dust, and the earth becomes dust. This dust is the "home" of people.
Where we grew up, we want to go back. Why? Because we have always kept a trace of nostalgia for "hometown" in our hearts. Visiting relatives and friends is like the final parting. In his later years, the Ming Dynasty physician Zhang Jiabin devoted himself to the study of the Book of Changes. When he was eighty-three years old, he saw that it had been raining for many days, so he said to his family: "The road is not good, and I will die in ten days." When the weather was good, he would gather his relatives and friends for dinner and talk a lot about books. Then, he died peacefully.
As the saying goes, "When a man is about to die, his words are good." "If you have a good word in your heart, you have to tell everyone that you can't hide it. A person's life is practice, and many truths have been thoroughly understood, but I am worried that my children, relatives and friends will not know, thus giving us the impression that "the elderly love to nag". In fact, when the old man nagged repeatedly, it should be "hating iron does not make steel", or sincere love for everyone. Don't be too offended.
Sometimes, at the end of life, people suddenly show unusual vitality, radiating a mental state that seems unsuitable for the end of life. This phenomenon is known as the "return of light". "Glow" refers to a brief mental uplift or false improvement before the end of life. Its appearance is a manifestation of a death struggle and usually does not last long. The patient may suddenly become awake, exhibit a state of mind that is inconsistent with death, and even be willing to engage in brief conversations. This phenomenon does not indicate that the patient is **, but more that the patient is about to die, which is a sign of farewell. The act of atavism.
As Meng Jiao wrote in "The Song of the Wanderer": "The sea is not water, and Wushan is not a cloud." "The hearts of older people may regain the habits and interests of their youth. If an elderly person is suddenly full of memories of the past, or takes the initiative to mention their own experiences and preferences when they were younger, it may mean that they have looked back and are ready to leave this world.
Older people often have one thing in common, that is, they will like to talk about the past, talk about the glory of the past, and talk about the suffering of the past. This is because when they get older, life is no longer infused with new things, and they begin to use memories of the past to add comfort to their lives. Memories of the past are not surprising in themselves, but when an elderly person often talks about people or events from the past, it can be a sign that their life is coming to an end.
For example, they often talk about dead people, wiping tears while talking, or they often dream about people who are no longer with them. This could be a sign that time is running out. Much of the old man's life has passed, and their memories are like a long history book that records their lives.
According to normal physiological laws, as the elderly get older, they should sleep less and less. Because older people are not as active as younger people, they have less time to recover from sleep disruptions. And with the increase of age, the cranial nerves will have physiological degeneration, and the secretion of melatonin will also decrease. Older people naturally sleep less. However, if the elderly sleep too long, children should be wary of this situation.
As older people approach death, their thinking and memory tend to decline, and they may often experience confusion and sluggishness, unable to think and make decisions easily. At the same time, the memory of older people may also be affected, and amnesia and memory loss often occur. This is because the brain function of the elderly is gradually declining and they are not able to think and remember things as flexibly as before.
Family members and caregivers should listen patiently to help them regain their memory and thinking skills. For an older person, if he begins to reminisce about the past frequently, it means that he may be saying goodbye to his life, and this memory may be his last nostalgia for this world.
At the end of his life, those memories flashed in his mind like a movie, which was also to allow the old man to better say goodbye to his past. If you find that your elder often talks about the past unconsciously and unconsciously, then it means that he may be saying goodbye to you in his own way.
In the last stages of life, the words of older people often contain rich hints. These hints may be affectionate memories of the past, worries and worries about the future, or unfulfilled wishes and expectations. As Zhuangzi said, "My life is boundless, my knowledge is endless." Their words may express a lifetime of wisdom and experience, as well as infinite thoughts and expectations for the future.
At this moment, each of their words may contain deep insight and perception of life and the world. In the dying days, older adults may experience intense mood swings, and they may show anxiety, depression, irritability, or withdrawal. In some cases, this change in mood can be understood as an inner struggle with life and death, but it can also be a psychological discomfort caused by a physical condition.
However, many people don't realize that mood changes can be a sign that older adults are experiencing the end of their lives. Cherish the fate between the people you love, because life is limited. It is a very sad thing for a loved one to leave, don't wait until the last time you can't hold on to regret why you didn't stay with him, do your best to love him, care for him, stay by his side, give some warmth and care, so that he is not so painful before he dies, and can leave some more satisfaction.
Life is short, things are wrong, it's too late to say goodbye, people are gone. Cherish the people you love and don't leave too many regrets. In short, life and death are the fate that everyone must face, and in this process, we must learn to cherish the people and things in front of us, and bravely face the impermanence of life. Only in this way can we create infinite value in our finite lives.