Take care of your heart.
Regarding the "heart", Lao Tzu has a famous saying: "Governing a big country is like cooking a small fresh". The meaning of this sentence is that managing a country is like cooking a dish, which requires care and care. If the monarch is not careful, the hard-working empire may fall apart.
In the same way, each of us is also a small country that needs to be "cooked". It is full of enthusiasm, dreams, persistence, and emotions, and if it is not handled properly, a moment of neglect or indulgence may ruin a good career and life.
Therefore, every successful and contented person has a spiritual master, a king, who is firmly in control of his thoughts and emotions at all times. This is the true meaning of "managing your own heart".
1. The fickle human heart needs to be controlled.
People's hearts are better than autumn water, and goodness becomes too fast and too fast.
Each of us has a proposed master in our hearts. But this protagonist has an eccentric temper and is fickle. Sometimes it is so happy that it jumps and sings; Sometimes he is inexplicably depressed and loses his fighting spirit.
As one psychiatrist described:
Our brains are like an ultra-complex machine that often strikes for no apparent reason. ”
It tells us that we should be bold in pursuing our dreams; And then all of a sudden, it scared us again, and we had a strong sense of lack of motivation. ”
When we are driven by negative emotions, it can be difficult to maintain rationality and judgment. At such moments, we become extremely sensitive, gullible to negative information, and make decisions that we regret.
It is precisely because many people can't control their hearts that they say regretful words and do regretful things when their emotions are out of control. Over time, it is not only yourself who is hurt, but also others, your career and even your entire family.
Therefore, "managing our own hearts" urgently requires us to establish inner rules and constraints, so that the protagonist can become a wise monarch and stabilize our mentality and judgment.
2. The heart of the "tyrant" leaves traces everywhere.
After experiencing ups and downs, many people have become emotional "tyrants" and paranoids. They leave indelible marks on our hearts.
For example, depressed, because of the lovers' farewell, the passion of youth becomes a wound that will never heal;
For example, lost and decadent, because of many career failures, the lost life can no longer be restored;
For example, sensitive and suspicious, because someone else's joke poked the sore spot, afraid of being hurt again.
Many people have such a "tyrant" living in their hearts, who controls your emotional ups and downs, tortures themselves every day, and makes your life extremely difficult.
There is no way to change what happened in the past, but we can change the "present". When we establish an inner restraint mechanism and let reason curb emotions, life will slowly return to the right track.
Successful and happy people are successful and happy precisely because they discipline their hearts and submit them to reason and will. This is also the mental method that each of us should master.
3. The method of managing the heart well, let reason prevail over emotion.
So, how do you put the inner "tyrant" in the shackles of reason? Here are a few ways to refer to:
First, establish a self-restraint mechanism.
For example, when something doesn't go your way, set a "cooling-off period" for yourself, suspend arguing with others, making decisions, etc., to prevent yourself from speaking and hurting others in anger. Or sign an "angry agreement" with a confidant and friend, and when you are furious, he will come forward to stop and guide you.
Second, improve the rules of self-reward and punishment.
For example, if you complete a difficult goal, you will prepare yourself a grand prize; When you can't control your temper and vent like a storm, you have to accept severe criticism and education. This not only satisfies the inner desire, but also establishes a mechanism for disciplining emotions.
Third, cultivate the habit of rational thinking.
When we encounter problems, we often only see the tip of the iceberg. At this time, you can put yourself in your shoes and look at an event from multiple angles; Or take your attention away from immediate frustration and look at the bigger picture of life. This can help us get out of the emotional quagmire and keep our rational thinking clear.
In fact, the heart is like a small country. Rational ownership can lead the nation to prosperity; And tyrants will only make the people live in misery. I believe that when we learn to discipline and discipline our hearts, our troubles and sufferings will come to an end.