Mo Yan said When you hate a person, why can't you see his executionWhen you hate someone being strong, why can't you see his decisiveness?
In our lives, we often meet some people who are familiar at first sight, and we hate to meet late, and there are endless days to talk about.
But you will also meet some people who can't get along as soon as they meet, and they don't talk about more than half a sentence.
Maybe it's because of their impatience that annoys us, or because of their aggressiveness that makes us feel constrained.
However, have we ever wondered why we turn a blind eye to the good in these people?Why do we always tend to look at them subjectively?
Mr. Mo Yan once said: "A person's shortcomings can often hint at his strengths." ”
The implication of this sentence is that while we are worried about the shortcomings of others, we should also see the advantages they have.
In fact, we are all the same, when we hate a person's urgency, we often can't understand their execution;
And when we hate a person's strength, we often fail to see their decisiveness.
Today, let's dive into this issue with some stories and quotes.
1.Acute sub-executives.
First, let's listen to a story about the acute child and execution.
In a certain company, there is an employee named Li Ming, who is always in a hurry and always in a hurry to do things.
This put a lot of pressure on his colleagues, who felt that he was not patient enough and lacked execution.
However, in an important project, it was Li Ming's urgency that made him act quickly and seize the opportunity.
At the critical moment of the project, he successfully completed the task because of his quick and decisive decision-making.
This experience made everyone start to re-examine Li Ming's strengths:
Although he is impatient, he has excellent execution and is able to respond quickly when it is critical.
*。2.A story of strength and determination.
This speaks of a leader in the team.
The leader of the team is a man named Wang Tao, who always seems very strong and likes to control everything.
This left the rest of the team feeling cramped and feeling like they didn't have room to play.
However, in an emergency, when the team was faced with a major decision, Wang's strong traits played a key role.
He didn't hesitate to make decisions and quickly led the team through the crisis.
This incident has made everyone look anew at Wang Tao's strengths: despite his strength, he has excellent decisiveness and is able to make the right decisions at critical moments.
As Romain Rolland said:
When looking at a person, we should start with his shortcomings. ”
We tend to overlook the important fact that everyone is unique and excels in their own areas.
When we hate someone as soon as we meet, it's probably because we focus too much on their shortcomings and ignore the strengths they possess.
What's more, we often judge each other by our own values, without understanding the motives and intentions behind their actions.
We often like people because their personality matches us, or because they exhibit good qualities that match our expectations.
However, that doesn't mean there isn't merit for those we hate.
*。As Mr. Li Yang said:
You like or hate others because you see your own shadow in them. ”
We should keep an open mind and learn to recognize, understand, and appreciate people who are different from us.
Only then can we truly understand their merits and benefit from them.
In relationships, we often judge others too subjectively and ignore their traits and abilities.
Don't let your biases limit your perception and acceptance of others.
Everyone has their own unique strengths and values, and it is only through a more open vision and inclusive mindset that we can truly see and appreciate these strengths.
After all, everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses.
When we only focus on the shortcomings of others, we ignore their unique values and excellent qualities.
Therefore, we should learn to magnify the good in others instead of always thinking about criticizing and blaming them for their problems.
When we magnify the good in others, we are able to appreciate and understand them better, and it is easier to build a good relationship with them.
Trust me, this attitude will benefit you a lot in your workplace and in life.
Let's abandon the negative vision, actively seek out and explore the strengths of others, and create a more harmonious and inclusive society together!