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Title: 30 Days to Write a Diary in the Headline Challenge Introduction: Have you ever wondered how your parents' partiality and ruthlessness pushed you against theirs? We often say that children should be grateful to their parents and repay their nurturing kindness, instead of being critical and dissatisfied with them.
But do you know how we deal with our relationship with our parents when they are patriarchal and partial? Do you choose unconditional filial piety, or do you decide to distance yourself from them completely?
Unfortunately, many parents realize their mistakes too late and wake up too late. Even if they know that favoring their own son is unfair to another son, how many of them can truly wake up and make amends?
A high hope and dedication for her eldest son Aunt Sun Qing is 60 years old this year, and she and her wife have two sons, which became the envy of others at that time. However, as the children grew up, Aunt Sun found that the eldest son was not as good as she expected, while the younger son had been working silently.
Despite this, Aunt Sun and her wife still pay attention to their eldest son wholeheartedly. When the eldest son dropped out of high school, they began to break through in society, and then they became pregnant unmarried with their eldest daughter-in-law, which made them very worried.
In the end, they decided to do everything they could to help their eldest son buy a wedding house, and gave their eldest daughter-in-law a bride price of 80,000 yuan to show their importance to her. After the eldest son and eldest daughter-in-law got married, Aunt Sun and her wife were very happy, and when they learned that the eldest daughter-in-law was pregnant, they were even more ecstatic.
However, when their grandson is born, they find that their eldest son's family is not as happy as they imagined. Despite this, Aunt Sun and her wife are still willing to contribute money and efforts to subsidize the eldest son's family.
Their love is selfless and they just want their eldest son to have a better life.
When we were young, we always favored the eldest son because we saw in him the future of the family. And although the younger son is educated, our energy is mainly focused on the eldest son.
Later, the eldest daughter-in-law gave birth to two grandchildren in a row, and our preference for the eldest son continued unabated. Even though our youngest son has been married for three years and has no children, we didn't interfere too much.
It wasn't until after the birth of my grandson that my eldest daughter-in-law wanted me to help take care of it, and my younger daughter-in-law also wanted me to help take care of it, so I chose to take care of my grandson. As a result, the youngest son fixed 2,000 yuan a month to give us living expenses.
I went to my youngest son to theorize, but he asked me a little angrily, "Don't you have a count in your heart?" Since you don't want to see your granddaughter, then follow your brother and sister-in-law to support the elderly. ”
I was annoyed by my youngest son's rebellion. From then on, no matter what benefits the family had, I would only leave it to my eldest son. Even the two houses that our family demolished, I did not hesitate to give them all to my eldest son, because he has two sons, and the house will still be left to the two grandsons in the future, and the fertilizer will not flow into the fields of outsiders.
But if the house is given to the younger son, it is different, and they refuse to have a second child, then the house will fall into the hands of the youngest granddaughter. The taxes spilled out by the daughter who married out, and the house was given to the granddaughter, which was undoubtedly given to outsiders.
When the younger daughter-in-law learned about it, she angrily quarreled with her youngest son. My wife and I are so bent on taking care of our little grandson that we don't bother to ask. However, after that, his wife fell seriously ill, and his youngest son and daughter-in-law only visited him twice, and left after dropping 5,000 yuan.
The wife was a little cold, and shouted that the youngest son and daughter-in-law were not filial. But at that time, the eldest son didn't take any money, but he and his eldest daughter-in-law had sweet mouths, and all kinds of good things were said without money to coax their wife, and the wife thought that they were filial and sensible.
The wife resolutely refused when faced with the youngest son's request for a loan to buy a house, but when the eldest son needed 100,000 yuan to buy a car, she did not hesitate to take out our pension book. Although the youngest son had deep eyes, he didn't pay much attention to it.
I thought it was over, but when I gave my daughter-in-law 5,000 yuan as a gift on her 6th birthday, she refused. My wife blamed me for trying to please my daughter-in-law, but I think we do owe something to our youngest son.
After my wife was discharged from the hospital, we went to the eldest son's house to recuperate, and at first the eldest daughter-in-law's face was acceptable, but when we sat and ate empty, the younger son no longer helped us, and the eldest daughter-in-law's face became ugly.
Our eldest daughter-in-law began to kick us away, intentionally or unintentionally, and hinted that we should move out as soon as possible, saying that her parents were going to take over the baby. Although I felt very uncomfortable, I still discussed with my wife to give my eldest daughter-in-law 10,000 yuan, hoping to ease the tension in the relationship.
My wife agreed, but although we gave our eldest daughter-in-law 10,000 yuan, she continued to drive us away. She told us to either go to our youngest son to retire or rent a house on our own.
has lived in her house for 8 years, and she can be regarded as benevolent and righteous. Seeing us being driven away, the eldest son did not intercede or speak for us. My wife and I looked at each other, ** it was the eldest son and daughter-in-law who raised us for 8 years, obviously we raised the eldest son's family for 8 years.
At this moment, I completely understand that the eldest son and daughter-in-law are white-eyed wolves who can't be raised, ungrateful. There is no other way, my wife and I can only go to our youngest son to support the elderly.
When I didn't have time to agree, my daughter-in-law proposed that she could only give us 1,000 yuan a month for living expenses, and she didn't interfere with how we used the money.
But if we needed other money, we had to ask my brother and sister-in-law for help. Hearing the cold words of the little daughter-in-law, and looking at her husband's indifferent expression, I knew that we had been blacklisted by them, and it was no longer possible to retire in their home.
Although we can't go to them to support the elderly, we can't go to rent a house and ask our eldest son for money and housing. It was only now that I realized how unwise it was to be indifferent to my youngest son's family.
My wife regretted it too. However, now it is too late, the younger daughter-in-law is determined not to let our living expenses exceed 1,000 yuan, and the eldest daughter-in-law is also determined to kick us out of the house.
Both sons are reluctant to speak for us, how can we arrange our retirement life in the future? Do you think a young daughter-in-law should take in her selfish in-laws?