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My ex-husband and I have been divorced for more than a year, and our children are now four years old. Looking back on our lives two years ago, our relationship was quite harmonious. He has a decent job and is also a graduate of a major university. However, I am puzzled as to why we have come to this point. Watching my former lover fall step by step, my heart was filled with pain and helplessness, and I felt helpless.
Back at the end of 2016, he left his original company and expressed his desire to start a business. At that time, there happened to be a relative who was running a catering project, and the business was thriving, and the start-up capital was not large. Considering my ex-husband's interest in cooking, we decided to give it a try and devote ourselves to the restaurant industry. However, unbeknownst to us at the time, this path had become our nightmare.
Due to our lack of experience in catering and limited funds, we chose a slightly remote location to open our store, surrounded by small businesses and generally low quality of people. During the catering period, my ex-husband started delivering food to some nearby shops that operated gambling machines. These customers are in high demand, and they are all delivered on a regular basis, at first we thought it was a good business opportunity, but we didn't expect that this would become the fuse of his depravity.
Since I am a white-collar worker and don't usually be in the store, and he often goes out early and returns late, I don't suspect his behavior. It wasn't until one day, when I found out that he was secretly taking out a loan on my phone, that I realized the seriousness of the matter. That was in June 2017. And before that, in May, we even went through a fake divorce in order to buy a property. And by the time I found out about his behavior, we were already in a state of divorce. Even though he was in debt, with hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt, I chose to forgive him.
However, in March of this year, new problems resurfaced. He used my phone again and took out a loan of more than $200,000 in debt. He borrowed money from me on several occasions, and every time in a persecutive tone, claiming that the loan sharks were too much for him to bear. I relented, and gave him money. I never imagined that in August, he would appear in my life again. Every day, he threatens to sell his car, or mortgage it. So, a few days ago, I had to give him money again to help him pay off the last loan shark.
Now, he stays in the car all day and refuses to leave. Whenever I urged him to leave, he would send a wrist-cutting ** to threaten me not to force him. I feel very sad about this, a once normal person, has become so unbearable, what should I do?
What I want to say is: we are already divorced, so we should follow the divorce agreement, and there is no such thing as a "fake divorce" in law. I need to make up my mind to cut ties with him completely. If he dies, I'll call the police and explain the situation, let ** handle it, and then let him decide for himself. He has grasped my weakness, and every time he is forced to die, I will never be able to fill this hole if this continues.
For soft-hearted people, they are making themselves uncomfortable. If you want to leave, you have to make up your mind and don't care what he does. He doesn't care about your feelings, don't let him have illusions, and don't let yourself live in the pain caused by others.
He has been reduced to a wasted person, I can only cherish myself and stop dragging down the future of me and my children for him. Although my heart is soft, it is just a waste to give him money. We should think more about our children and stop doing stupid things. He's taking advantage of my kindness, and such a man really doesn't deserve to pay for him again.
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