The poorer you are, the less you should blame the women around you

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When you accuse her, don't forget that there are 3 fingers pointing at you.

Recently, I saw such a hot post on Zhihu:

My wife was so delicate before she got married, but now she is sloppy all day long, especially when I see her like a market aunt buying vegetables and bargaining, I regret marrying her.

There are resonances, who think that she is a cloud in the sky before marriage, and mud on the earth after marriage;

There are those who are enlightened, brothers live like this, and they must learn to cherish it;

There are also those who reprimand, feeling that the landlord is not at home and does not know the cost of firewood, rice, oil and salt.

However, what I remember the most is what a netizen said:

Can you afford to raise swans for the cost of raising geese? It's that you don't have the ability to keep her exquisite.

If it weren't forced by life, who would want to live a discounted life.

All your dissatisfaction with your wife is essentially your own incompetence.

So, when you want to blame the other person, it's better to look at yourself first.

Psychologist Zhou Xiaopeng told a story:

Once, she went to a friend's child's first birthday party.

At the dinner table, a man next to her kept chattering about his wife.

disgusted that after she gave birth, she became ugly and fat, and the flesh on her stomach was about to fall off.

even complained that his wife was rustic, and she didn't wear makeup when she went out, and it was a shame to bring it out.

At this time, Zhou Xiaopeng took out his mobile phone and said to the man sitting next to him: You see this is what I look like after I just gave birth.

The other party raised his eyes and looked at the beautiful and elegant Zhou Xiaopeng, and said enviously: You see that the gap between this woman and a woman is big, I want my wife to learn hard.

She smiled and continued, "Okay, I'll teach you how to do it."

When I gave birth to a child, my husband paid for a confinement lady to take care of the child, and it was not more than 8,000 a month.

In order to let me recover my body quickly, my husband also bought me a postpartum recovery class and a fitness card, and I will go to the gym every day, which is actually not expensive, it seems to be tens of thousands of yuan.

He also gave me a beauty card, after giving birth to a woman with endocrine disorder, you must take care of your body and protect it, so that women will be beautiful.

Later, when I went to work, I changed my confinement sister-in-law to a full-time aunt, and I could eat hot meals every day when I went home.

In this way, it is not much in a year, only hundreds of thousands.

So, as long as you have enough money on your side, she'll naturally become just like me.

After listening, the man nodded awkwardly and said nothing.

Are you like this in life, obviously not giving your wife a good life, but complaining that she has changed.

Obviously, she can't earn enough money for her to maintain, but she thinks she is not exquisite.

Obviously, he is unable to provide a good enough economic foundation for this family, but he complains that women are like shrews, buying vegetables and bargaining.

As everyone knows, if you can live as a princess, who wants to be a yellow-faced woman; If it weren't forced by life, who would want to be embarrassed.

As Teacher Su Qin said:

"All the anxiety and anger in a woman is mistreated. ”

A good husband comes before a good wife.

Tu Lei said such a sentence, which is still fresh in people's memory:

"In a marriage, it is not terrible for a man to be poor, but it is terrible for a woman to lose hope. ”

In marriage, it is never poverty that breaks a woman, but the man's lack of responsibility.

In 1929, Shen Congwen, who was amorous and talented but from a poor family, went to Shanghai Public School to teach.

Here, he met the famous lady Zhang Zhaohe, who was shocked and immediately attracted by her beauty.

Under his infatuated pursuit again and again, he finally touched the hearts of the beauties, and the two tied the knot.

However, soon after marriage, Shen Congwen, who once regarded his wife as a treasure, slowly changed.

He began to dislike his wife, he hated her ** no longer smooth, and his hands became rough.

He didn't understand why she stopped dressing up after marrying him, and he didn't understand how she had become as tacky as other women.

What was especially unacceptable to him was that she actually cut off her beautiful long hair, like a man.

Gradually, he disliked her more and more, and was even reluctant to go home, and fell in love with the woman outside.

Zhang Zhaohe was disappointed and angry, and left him with his son.

Without his wife's control at home, life suddenly fell into chaos.

At this time, Shen Congwen slowly understood his wife's difficulty.

Supporting the family with his meager salary is a drop in the bucket.

The wife is frugal, does not wear makeup or dress, in order to squeeze a few copper plates from between her teeth, and for the livelihood of several members of the family.

She cut off that hair, more so that she could easily play with the child.

The hands have become rough and the joints have become larger, because there are endless housework every day.

Suddenly awakened, he turned around and asked for his wife's forgiveness.

However, it was too late, and the woman who was once full of him could never come back, and her career plummeted.

reminds me of the famous entrepreneur Cao Dewang said in an interview:

There is no greater foolishness of a man than to blame a woman who is poor.

You must know that when you are down, a woman who still chooses not to abandon you is the one who treats you sincerely.

Your blind complaining will only make you miss the purest emotion and lose the person who loves you the most on the road of life.

There is a law of accusation in psychology:

When you blame others, don't forget that there are 3 fingers pointing at yourself.

Lin Yutang, who is also from a bad family, met his daughter Liao Cuifeng, and his care for his wife was extremely envied by the world.

He was grateful for his wife's affection, and when he got married, he tore up the marriage certificate and vowed to never live up to her.

He took pity on his wife, who had never touched the spring water of the sun, for the sake of this family, began to work to earn money, and whenever he was free, he would take the initiative to help his wife do housework and not let his wife work too hard.

He will make his wife a hot cup of tea when she is busy and massage her when she is tired.

In order to provide his wife with a better living environment, he wrote even harder, often late at night.

In this way, although life is hard, but with the efforts of the two, the days are sweet and warm, and Lin Yutang's career is getting better day by day.

It only took half a year to successfully obtain a master's degree from Harvard, a doctorate in linguistics from the University of Leipzig, and a long-term success in his writing career.

There is such a passage on the Internet, and I think it is true:

"Capable men respect women, and incompetent men belittle women.

A man who loves a woman will succeed; Men who blame women will only fail; ”

Treating his wife well is the best feng shui for a man and the wisest investment for the future.

A truly smart person understands that the lower the trough, the more you must cherish the woman around you who accompanies you to endure hardships and poverty.

I have seen such a story, at a celebration party, many people surrounded the wife of the successful male protagonist and said: Madam, you are so blessed to have such a successful husband.

Unexpectedly, the male protagonist came over, hugged his wife, and said affectionately:

I am blessed to have such a good wife.

Your wife is the one who runs for you when you are sick and takes care of you day and night.

Your wife is the one who never leaves you when you are at a low point and accompanies you step by step.

A wife is the one who always lights up a light and prepares a hot meal for you, no matter how late you come home.

Your wife is your fate in your past life and a blessing in this life.

So, remember: the more you are at the bottom, the more you must cherish her.