It is very important for children to try and solve problems on their own because every time they experience frustration and difficulty, it is an opportunity for them to learn and grow. However, parents often take care of their children's affairs for fear of failure or feel that they should take responsibility for their children, but deprive them of opportunities for growth.
At the workshop, someone shared a message about:Gymnasticsstory. When the narrator was a schoolboy, he insisted on doing it every dayGymnasticsI hope to get a full attendance award. However, because of putGymnasticsThe card was lost and the prize was missed. The narrator then reflects on his actions and realizes that he lost the card because he didn't pack his things properly. Since then, she has become very focused on putting things in order. This story teaches us that through our own failures and reflections, we are able to transform ourselves and seize opportunities to grow. This is a very important revelation for parents and children, and it is important for children to have the opportunity to try it on their own. Action, finding problems, thinking, acting again, rediscovering problems, rethinking, this is a spiral, a process of learning and growth. While there can be some pain at times, it's the perfect opportunity to learn and grow.
For example, during a private consultation, a woman in her 40s shared her experience. She never learned to organize things when she was a child, because in addition to her studies at school, she had to attend 6 classes a weekCram schools, very busy. Her mother once told her directly: "You just have to study hard, and I will help you organize everything." Now she's on her daily lifelifeFeeling confused and helpless, hoping to learn to organize from scratch. This story teaches us that it's hard to learn certain things if we don't try it ourselves. Whether it's tidying up or something else, we need to go through and explore it ourselves. We may encounter new difficulties, such as not knowing how to ask others for advice or not knowing where to start thinking about a problem. So, don't be afraid of trouble, and don't keep your kids out of trouble. Let children start to try from the small things around them, establish their own thinking patterns, and find solutions to problems. Don't turn down opportunities to grow anytime, anywhere.
While cultivating children's autonomy, we should also respect the living habits and sense of boundaries of our families. Everyone in the family has their own habits and preferences, and we can't force them to changelifeway, so as not to spoil intimacy. Even though we are preaching renunciation, our mothers may still be obsessed with collecting objects because of age differences and upbringing. It is normal for family members to not participate or approve of the process of disconnection. What we can do is to be ourselves and subtly influence our families. Maybe they'll be touched, or maybe they'll not change any of their habits. But in any case, we should not be stubbornly obsessed with changing others. When we think back to our own childhood, we may have also resented our mother's excessive interference in our affairs. Therefore, when we still have time to spend time together, we should create a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere to get along, and don't regret it when we want to raise our children but don't wait for them. That's what makes a healthy oneFamily relationships
Summary: It is very important for children to try to solve problems on their own and grow from their failures. We can't do the business for our children and deprive them of the opportunity to grow. Through our own reflection and actions, we can constantly identify problems and seek solutions. At the same time, while cultivating children's autonomy, we should also respect the living habits and sense of boundaries of our families. Don't be obsessed with changing others, but create a relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere to get along with. I believe that children are better able to grow and develop in such an environment. Let's cherish every opportunity to grow and create a beautiful family atmosphere together.