Whether you admit it or not, marriage is the most important issue in a woman's life, and there is no one. Under the principle of spiritual dominance, accurate, fast and efficient locking of mate selection objects is of great significance to reduce time costs, reduce emotional consumption and avoid financial losses, and should become a necessary skill for every young woman. Where should girls start to evaluate boys? From shallow to deep, from the surface to the inside, there are mainly the following aspects:
First, the instantaneous feeling and first impression determine whether to start or not. When you get a blind date, what your first impression of the other party is directly determines the love cycle and indirectly determines the success rate of marriage. The first impression that a boy brings to you is the result of his appearance, connotation, cultural literacy, professional characteristics, family background, and hobbies. At the first sight of a boy, once you have the feeling of heartbeat and fawn bumping, you must not hesitate anymore, you can go out and embrace love regardless of everything, without considering the trivial face problem. If you have a mediocre eyesight, as long as it is within the acceptable range, why not be patient and continue to follow up to learn more? However, you sweep your eyes and don't have any sense of calling the boy in front of you, then, even if the other party's conditions are superior, don't be reluctant, in the face of "chicken ribs", you must resolutely abandon it, gnaw on chicken bones and can't eat the fragrance, a tasteless relationship will definitely not bring good results. Jumping out of the car decisively is not only responsible for yourself, but also responsible for the boys.
Second, daily interactions and inner feelings determine whether to hold or not. Holding hands with the blind date partner successfully, or although the relationship has not been clearly established, but each other agrees to "watch everywhere first", the next program is daily interaction, which is the only way to the marriage hall, and it is also the key stage that can best test whether the boy is reliable and suitable. At this stage, it is necessary to focus on assessing the "heat", "warmth" and "durability" of the other party. The so-called "heat" is to see if the other party has carried out "love bombardment" on you at the beginning, if the soup is clear and dull from the beginning, it is enough to prove that the boy has no desire to get closer to you, and he will not take you seriously in the future. The so-called "warmth" is to see whether the boy can help you solve daily problems, give you care and guidance, which reflects a man's sense of responsibility, if the boy treats his girlfriend roughly, there is no need to expect him to make achievements in other fields. The so-called "durability" is to see if the boy continues to export love to you. The most important factor in determining the relationship between the two is long-term companionship, if there is no solid companionship as a foundation before marriage, even if you get married, the risk of "breaking up" is very high. There is another explanation for persistence, the matter of cloud and rain is a ritual activity after the relationship between the two has reached its peak, the boy is not good, it will cause a backlash to the relationship, the girl is like a flower, if she does not get irrigation and tasting for a long time, she will wither and wither, and the physical condition of the boy must be observed, and everyone who understands it understands.
Third, ideological concepts and value orientations determine whether or not to continue。The issue of three views is related to the adhesion of marriage and love, and only when boys and girls stand on the cornerstone of common values can they have the possibility of working together. Whether two people have three views that are compatible or not can be assessed through at least three aspects. One is to look at the family of origin. I have to say that the door is the Chinese's high-level wisdom in treating marriage, not all the way, do not enter the door, this truth is bumpy and unbreakable, if two people are not a fish in a layer of water, there is no common value meaning space, the lack of "commonality" will be like an insurmountable gap between the two, "across the shore" type of marriage will definitely not bring happiness. The second is to look at the level of education. The level of education determines the height and angle of a person's view of the problem, the same thing, girls see this way, boys see that way, contradictions and differences will inevitably appear, therefore, the love with a large educational gap is not advisable. The third is to look at work and career. Work and occupation determine a person's ideological and behavioral characteristics, for example, people in the system are cautious, thoughtful, and thoughtful, while outside the system, such as private entrepreneurs, need to socialize widely and show wolf nature, different social roles have different ideological concepts, and it is inevitable that bumps will occur everywhere, which will inevitably affect the marriage and love relationship.
Fourth, character quality and moral standards determine whether or not to end. Girls are made of water and are weak, and in the matter of choosing a mate, they must know how to avoid pitfalls and avoid unnecessary injuries. It is necessary to know how to identify the "slag content" of boys. Men are polygamous animals, from time to time to start the heart, the heart of the ape is a normal phenomenon from instinct, born with "scum", but there is a thief heart can not have a thief guts, if in the process of love, the boy has done unforgivable things, you must not choose to tolerate and accommodate, emotional single-mindedness is the minimum requirement. Know how to identify the "oil content" of boys. A man does not shave, does not bathe, pants, socks are thrown at will, smoking, drinking is common, in this case to question the boy's self-discipline, this is not a big problem, and the boy is young, but shows the social attributes beyond his age, it is necessary to pay enough attention, because he may be quite "city", not so sunny. It is necessary to know how to identify the "belly blackness" of boys. Girls are simple and simple, and when they are in love, they are easy to be carried away by love, and they must be strictly vigilant against uneasy and well-meaning people who cheat money and sex, which is the bottom line of self-esteem and self-love. Of course, everything is not absolute, the above is just the ideal condition, and there are still trade-offs when it comes to individuals. Finally, I draw a table for the girls to compare, I hope it will help you. Emotion