Men evade romantic responsibilities, and women don't be misled
In the variety show, we saw He Youjun and Xi Mengyao Qingqing, and the sweetness between the two was enviable. And Xie Nan and Wu Jing sat on the side and ate silently, as if they were unrelated.
Xie Nan was full of envy for He Youjun and Xi Mengyao's way of getting along, but Wu Jing said that he didn't understand romance and couldn't learn. However, this may not be the case.
We can't confuse "romance" with "the feeling of taking care of my wife". He Youjun just gets along with Xi Mengyao on an equal footing, and naturally expresses his concern and care for her, which is the basic responsibility that every man should do.
And Wu Jing could have done this when he pursued Xie Nan, but he regarded these as "romantic", and instead accused Xie Nan of being too demanding. Therefore, we should be clear about our requirements, which are the basic responsibilities that the partner should have in the first place, and what is a true romance.
Don't be stolen from changing concepts so that women don't dare to ask for it. Everyone has the right to receive the other's care and attention, and this should not be seen as a luxury.
Some women complain that their partner is not romantic enough, but this may be because they expect their partner to pay attention to them, rather than taking them for granted.
In daily life, partners can do small things for their partners, such as remembering to bring back their favorite food for their partners, massaging their partners' backs, serving hot water to their partners, helping their partners with household chores, etc., which can make partners feel valued and valued.
In contrast, romantic acts such as flower delivery, candlelit dinners, and foreign trips can be stressful for partners. Therefore, as partners, we should pay more attention and give in our daily lives so that we can truly meet our partner's needs.
02 Men are reluctant to put in the effort in the family, not because of ability, but because they lack the mentality of being willing to pay. The examples of Xie Nan and Wu Jing show us that Wu Jing's attitude towards work and family is completely different.
At work, he can properly handle conflicts and cooperate with others, but at home, he shows strong disgust and dissatisfaction with Xie Nan's small opinions. It's not that he can't do it, it's that he simply doesn't want to spend the time and effort to communicate and compromise.
This kind of behavior is not only a kind of bullying and fearing the hard, but also a kind of disrespect and neglect of the partner. Therefore, in the family, men should also treat their partners as if they were working, respect their feelings and wishes, actively communicate and negotiate, and reach a consensus.
It's not just romance Nowadays, with the improvement of women's status, more and more women can be self-sufficient, what they really need is no longer the romance that is overused, but to make themselves feel relaxed in hard work, housework, and childcare, can feel relieved when they are sad, can be encouraged and supported when they are depressed, and feel accompanied when they are lonely.
Unfortunately, many men take their needs from a different perspective, claiming that they just want to be "romantic". Romance is indeed a kind of emotional value, but emotional value does not only refer to romance, and there are not many women who really only want romance.
Many women not only do not receive the emotional value that men provide, but also unilaterally provide them with emotional value. This kind of unilateral dedication will continue to consume a woman's patience and love, they will not be replenished, and they will only be able to empty themselves in the end.
But they want to be treated a little fairer, and they want men to give some emotional value, but they are easily prevaricated by men with a sentence of "I don't understand romance", which is really chilling.
But in fact, giving emotional value to a partner can be learned through hard work, and it is also a skill that both partners need to master to maintain a good relationship. Therefore, when a man says something like "I don't understand romance", we women can point it out bluntly - I don't want you to be romantic, I just want you to pay more attention to me, I hope you don't speak to me impatiently, I hope you can comfort me, encourage me, and treat me as I treat you.
In this way, this relationship is healthy and benign, and it is worth our continued efforts and maintenance.