In people's daily interactions, there are some people who are not good at communicating with people. When they observe those who are comfortable in social situations, they feel both envious and insincere about their performance. This envy reflects their deepest desire to live in harmony with others and to find their place among the crowd. Feeling insincere may be a "sour grapes" mentality, which is a psychological mechanism produced by human beings for self-protection and psychological balance. When we can't reach or achieve our goals, we make some kind of mental adjustment to make ourselves feel better.
For example, when a boy breaks up with his girlfriend, in order to alleviate the pain of losing a lover, he will look for the idea in his mind that he feels comfortable: she is not so perfect, and the breakup is proposed because of her lack of understanding. When you think about it this way, the boy's pain will be lessened. This is people's ability to self-soothe, and with this ability, we can continue to move forward in the challenging and difficult journey of life. Therefore, envying those who are sociable is actually an indication of the desire to be able to improve their communication skills in order to be more comfortable in interpersonal relationships and social adaptation. Therefore, we should avoid the negative mindset of "the house leak coincides with the overnight rain". In the past, we had no control over it, we couldn't decide on our own psychological development and growth process, we couldn't decide what others taught us. But from now on, we can start again, and through continuous efforts and learning, we can find self-certainty, that is, self-confidence, in reality, and try to associate with those who like and accept us. We can use our free time to read more books, and we can participate in some training activities to improve our self-learning and communication skills, such as learning some psychological knowledge to improve our emotional intelligence.