Someone said, "When you go to a higher place, don't offend the people around you, because the next time you go back, you will meet them." ”
It is true that the greater a person's ability, the less he should offend others.
The people you offend are often the biggest spoilers of your life. It's hard for people to make you better; It's easy to wreak havoc.
People live a lifetime, they are passers-by, so they have to be polite, do their best, and do not hinder others.
Ignorant people will only be entangled.
In the last years of the Qing Dynasty, some ministers realized that if they wanted to become strong, they had to learn mathematics.
Some old-fashioned ministers believe that for thousands of years, writing articles has been the mainstream, and mathematics is a trick of craftsmen and cannot be entered.
Qing ** formed a unified opinion - the mathematical formula of foreigners is like a "ghost drawing", demagoguery.
On the one hand, the Westernization movement required mathematics, and on the other hand, many ministers did not approve of mathematics. As a result, many schools have taught mathematics, but instead of Arabic numerals, they use Chinese numbers, which makes the homework very difficult to understand. Some formulas have to be re-created.
During the reign of Emperor Guangxu, he planned to expand the navy, develop the shipbuilding industry, and learn Western technology. The old guard immediately stood up against it.
Minister Liu Xihong's objection is ridiculous: "If there are more guns and ships, what if the people use them to rebel?" ”
Liu Xihong also proposed: "The way to train soldiers is to train the heart. ”
In the face of the powerful conservative forces, the Qing ** could not do anything but collapse before their eyes.
As the saying goes: "When a show meets a soldier, it is unreasonable." "On the other hand, when a soldier meets a showman, the same is true.
People from different industries and levels are mixed together, and no matter how much truth you say, it is useless. You can only shut up and ignore them.
"Ignorance" is not that a person really knows nothing, but that he or she has little understanding of what you are going to do, or has never set foot in your industry, thus forming a cognitive gap.
After reading the story of "Pony Crossing the River", you will understand: whether the river can be crossed or not, you have to try it yourself. The old cow thinks the water is shallow, and the squirrel thinks the water is deep, which are not very reliable statements.
"Everyone knows that it is much more difficult to turn words into action than to put them into words," Gorky said. ”The greater your ability, the higher your cognition. At this time, you should listen to everyone's opinions, but you should insist on your own opinions. Your future is always in your own hands.
When you meet an ignorant person, don't offend him, but just smile and walk away. Otherwise, he will get in your way, and his words will strike at your beliefs and cause you to hesitate.
Those who are on the rise need a hand.
Your skills are great, but you are not the best in the world. There will always be someone who will overtake you.
Those who are overtaking you, do not offend them, but look up to them. This is in line with the social logic of "burning incense in cold temples".
In 868 AD, the Tang Dynasty broke out the "Pang Xun Uprising", and the Jiangxi region was in chaos.
For safety reasons, the imperial court immediately canceled the scientific examination of that year, and the students who had been preparing for the exam for many years were indignant.
Huang Chao was one of many students, and as a result, he had a lot of opinions about the imperial court, which became part of the reason for Huang Chao's uprising.
In contrast, Song Renzong is much smarter.
When Su Shi and Su Zhe went to the capital for the exam, Su Zhe fell ill. When Minister Han Qi learned the news, he went to the students to investigate, and found that it was a scorching summer, and the weather was too hot, and many students were not used to it.
Han Qi suggested postponing the exam to allow more students to recover.
Later, the scientific expeditions of the Song Dynasty were postponed until September. Su Zhe successfully participated in the exam, and in one fell swoop, the students also praised and supported.
Many people, worried that others will squeeze out their jobs, press others hard. In doing so, it will be able to block the rise of others for a while, but it will also make others more and more combative.
There are always people who become more and more courageous, and then surpass you. And these people will become your sworn enemies.
If you take the initiative to pull others, you can also form a win-win cooperation situation, which also reflects your pattern.
Multiple friends and multiple paths are 10,000 times better than one more opponent.
The back waves of the Yangtze River push the front waves, and the front waves fall on the beach", this is the law of the development of things, which cannot be stopped, but can only be conformed. Reasons such as old age and technical achievements will make you fall on the beach, but if you turn around and help Houlang, then your career will have a new development.
People who have great skills can also tear down and start over, allowing themselves to alternate between the front wave and the back wave, and the development will never end.
Whoever is kind to you, don't be kind and take revenge.
I have read a very heart-wrenching sentence: "In this world, most of the people you can hurt are the people closest to you." ”Yes, those who are too far away from you cannot be hurt by you, because the whip cannot reach you.
Most of the people who are close to you are people who care about you. Especially your parents, who have been hurt by you, still love you and help you.
If you offend the people around you, the signs of revenge will be exposed, and you will not be able to meet noble people in your life, nor will you be able to effectively expand your network.
After reading the story of "Mr. Dongguo and the Wolf", you will understand.
The wounded wolf is saved by Mister, but the wolf in turn wants to eat Mister.
When the passing farmer knew what was going on, he let the wolf go back into his pocket again, then picked up his hoe and smashed it into his pocket.
Those who do not repay the favor will not end well sooner or later.
In life, those who are not filial to their parents will not be filial to their children, and thus their family will be corrupted.
People who don't thank their friends will be abandoned by their friends, and they won't be able to meet true friends in the future.
If you don't cherish your marriage, your marriage will inevitably break down, and you will be lonely for the rest of your life.
No matter how much money you have, no matter how good your career is, it will be worthless in the face of despicable human nature. The point is that there will no longer be a decent family and heart-warming favors for the rest of my life.
In this life, people cannot become an island after all.
Choose reliable people and socialize, and stay away from unreliable people, this is the self-discipline that should be due.
When you want to offend someone, think about the other person's badness, but also think about the other person's good, weigh it, and then make a decision.
Turning your face too quickly and speaking badly will only cause irreparable social losses, so it's better to slow down and think about it.
Visionary people, the more capable they are, the more they pay attention to their own cultivation, and know how to treat others, help others, and repay others.