Today is Chinese New Year's Eve, the day when the children outside come home. My cousin, dragging her tired body, looked depressed and went home from Beijing alone.
She is the daughter of my younger uncle of the same age, and I raised her after the unexpected loss of both parents at the age of five, so I am both her cousin and her father. She is thirty years old this year, and she is a fair-skinned beauty with a high degree of education. Seeing her depressed look, I suppressed the anger in my heart and said to her, didn't you say that before the Spring Festival this year, he would be able to divorce and go home with you, why did you come back alone? Without saying a word, she dragged her suitcase back to her bedroom, slammed the door.
Five years ago, after graduating from a prestigious university with a master's degree, she stayed in Beijing to work as the secretary to the chairman of the board of directors of a large company, when she was 25 years old. I know that there are many older leftover women in Beijing, so I keep asking people or looking for a matchmaker on the platform to find a partner for her, urging her to go on a blind date. Because in my heart, my responsibility is not only to raise her up, study and become a talent, but also to make her marry and settle down, so as to complete the trust of my little uncle and complete her mission. Who knows how anxious I am to find a blind date for her, but every time she either pushes it off or reluctantly says "inappropriate" after meeting. It dragged on until she was twenty-seven years old, and because I was angry with her, she was forced to tell me that she had made a lifelong agreement with the chairman of the company and that she should not force her to go on a blind date again. The chairman was a family man and promised to marry my cousin after the divorce. But year after year, the chairman has not divorced, and after several years of such an unclear relationship, to put it bluntly, it is a lover relationship.
I was very dissatisfied and uneasy about this relationship, and several times asked my cousin to set a schedule and set a deadline. The cousin also urged the man again and again, but was pushed back for various reasons. Every year before the Chinese New Year, she found that her lover had already arranged a trip home to accompany his wife and children. Every time, he said: "I really want to accompany you for the New Year, but I still have to be with my children for the New Year, and I will come back as soon as possible." "No, it's the New Year again, and she came home alone tonight.
Listening to her sobbing and crying in the room, I knocked on the door and wanted to talk to her, but she didn't talk about it, I couldn't hold back my annoyed and angry heart anymore, and wrote four sentences and stuffed them through the crack in the door: The lover's mouth is full of lies, the lover takes you around the West Lake, the lover buys you gold and silver, and the lover does not accompany you for the New Year!
I know that although these four sentences hurt her heart, without stimulating her with these words, I can't remind her to start reflecting, choose to let go, bid farewell to that false world, and start a new life journey. I really hope she learns to be independent and strong and stop relying on other people's lies to maintain her happiness. Let her keep her eyes open and not be fooled by the superficial magnificence. True love is based on honesty and mutual respect. Only in this way can she find happiness that truly belongs to her.