Title: "The Pension Trap of Rural Parents: The Helplessness and Thoughts Behind the Son's Marriage".
Hello everyone, I'm Zhang Xiaomei, and today I want to share a story that makes me feel deeply helpless and think, a real experience about how parents without a pension can become an obstacle on the road to their son's marriage. Perhaps this is a topic worth pondering, because it is directly related to our lives and families.
During this year's Spring Festival, our family had a very dull life, hiding in the house and sighing, feeling unable to face reality. My son, in particular, is 38 years old and still has no girlfriend. This made me feel heavy, and I couldn't help but start to reflect on how my son got to where he is today, step by step, to this point where I feel deeply responsible.
After my son graduated from college, everything seemed to be going well. He has a good job, a good annual salary, and a good family condition. However, the matter of marriage made me unexpectedly complicated. My son had a relationship in college, but because I valued my family background too much, I broke up the lovers. In retrospect, this may have been one of the root causes of my son's marital woes.
The son is getting older and older, and the number of blind dates is also increasing, but each time there is no result. I advised my son to lower his requirements and find a practical partner, but he said that today's girls have higher expectations for the future, not only for the man to have a car and a house, but also for the parents to have a pension.
It was then that I began to realize that the lack of a parental pension had become a stumbling block on the road to my son's marriage. Modern people's concept of marriage has become realistic and secular in life, and the woman's parents pay more attention to the man's family conditions, especially whether he has a pension. Although our family is a superior person in the countryside, in the eyes of the city, it has become a disgusting existence.
Through my son's experience, I began to understand that many families face similar problems. Rural families who originally thought that their conditions were good have become "unqualified" in the eyes of urban girls because of the lack of their parents' pensions. This prejudice and misunderstanding of the countryside has left us feeling helpless and confused.
I feel helpless by the cruelty of reality, but I also hope that through my own experience, I can give some advice to other rural parents. If there is a local policy of paying a supplementary pension, you may wish to consider paying a supplementary social security for the future of yourself and your children while you are under the age of 55. This is not only a responsibility for oneself, but also a kind of support for the child's marriage.
After all this, I couldn't help but fall into regret and self-blame for myself. For the sake of my own opinion, I made my son miss out on a lot of possible happiness. I persuaded myself, I persuaded myself, but I couldn't get rid of the guilt in my heart every time.
In this era of changing views on marriage, we have to re-examine family, love, and marriage. We can't let the conditions of reality become a roadblock to love, and we can't deny the happiness and beauty of a family because of the lack of certain material conditions. Perhaps, we can be more open-minded to understand the background and dedication of each family. Let's work together to create a more inclusive, understanding and warm society.
Hopefully, this story will give you some food for thought, and also provide some inspiration for parents who are facing similar difficulties. Thank you for your patience in reading, and if you have any views and ideas, please share them in the comment area. Let's work together for a better future. [Concept of marriage], [social phenomenon], [family responsibility].