The three senses of an extramarital affair are freshness, excitement, and being needed
Junichi Watanabe once said in "Red Castle": "Men love **, women love each other." This is a statement that many people agree with. They believe that the reason why men pursue extramarital affairs is mostly for one word - sex.
As Wang Xiaobo said, "* is only a part of life, not the whole story. "Men may fall into extramarital affairs within the limits of morality, and there are usually three "experiences" in addition to **.
The joy of a newlywed is like a male rat in heat, and when we are overwhelmed by novelty and passion, we may lose our loyalty and commitment to our old love. However, this does not mean that we no longer love them, just like Chen Li, who still loves his wife dearly despite his betrayal of her.
Two months ago, due to problems with his family's network, Chen Li could only go to a nearby coffee shop to work. Just as he was concentrating on his work, someone gently tapped him on the shoulder and asked gently, "Sir, can I sit next to you?" ”
Chen Li was stunned for a moment, and only after ten seconds did he say the word "good". It turned out that the reason why Chen Li was a little overwhelmed was that this girl's appearance perfectly matched his pursuit of beauty.
After an inner struggle, Chen Li ignored the fact that he was married, and asked the girl for *** after that, which was unremarkable, but it was also disgraceful. Chen Li and the girl developed from WeChat friends to bed friends.
My wife and I have been in love for four years and married for three years, and I can be sure that the other half of my life will only be her, and I love her deeply. But frankly, it's probably a man's nature, she's always full of freshness and I can't resist. ”
After each indulgence, in order to alleviate the guilt in his heart, Chen Li would be doubly good to his wife. However, he didn't realize that this kind of good is like a fish with small spines, although it is delicious, but every time it is eaten, it will inadvertently bring pain.
In the exciting Korean drama "The World of Husband and Wife", the marriage of Ji Sun-woo and Lee Tae-woo shows a profound truth: seeing is not necessarily believing. Although they are a model couple in the eyes of outsiders, there are hidden secrets behind them.
The love between them is not only expressed in words, but also conveyed through body language and practical actions. Although they have been married for many years and have a son, they still kiss and hug before going out, and express their love with their mouths and bodies.
This story teaches us that love is not just a promise of words, but also a manifestation of action.
He was originally a successful man with a perfect life, but he lost himself because of greed. On the surface, he and his wife are in love, but in fact, he is having a private meeting with the young junior behind his wife's back.
Ironically, he never realized his mistake. When someone questioned his behavior, he even defended that the human heart does not have to be just one heart, it is possible to fall in love with someone else after marriage, and his feelings are two different colors, Seonwoo and Duojing, and he truly loves them.
In the face of sincerity, he said lightly that it was cheap. He thinks his act is love, but in fact he is obsessed with the thrill of wandering between red and white roses. Such a phenomenon is not only in Li Taiwu, but also in Lu Duojing.
In the play, we can see Lu Duojing hiding his private belongings and condoms in Lee Tae-woo's trunk, and at the birthday party prepared by Ji Shanyu for Lee Tae-woo, the two openly held hands and did not shy away from suspicion.
Their behavior, full of ambiguity and excitement, does not fall behind once.
Whether to return to the family and spend the rest of your life in peace, or to continue to pursue excitement and be unrestrained.
In the book "Man in Eternity", the author has deep thoughts on understanding: "It is a blessing to be understood, but not to be understood does not mean misfortune." Those who rely too much on the understanding of others often lack their own worth. ”
However, there are always some people in real life who are too obsessed with being understood and ignore their own responsibilities and values. Just like the plot in "The World of Husband and Wife", when Lee Tae-woo's cheating was revealed, Ji Sun-woo reflected on himself: "The contradictions and conflicts between husband and wife cannot only have unilateral perpetrators and perfect victims. ”
We should all understand that understanding and being understood are mutual, and we should not rely too much on the understanding and approval of others. Therefore, we should cherish our own value more, instead of pinning all our hopes on the understanding and approval of others.
At the same time, we should also learn to understand and respect others, and not hurt those around us because of our own incomprehension and prejudice. Only in this way can we truly enjoy the "lucky" life.
Ji Sun-woo is one of the many women who find out that their husbands are cheating, and they first reflect on whether they are wrong or not and try to understand the man's cheating behavior. However, this understanding seems too late in the eyes of the cheating man and his supporters.
For example, Lee Tae-woo's mother in the play blames Ji Sun-woo after her son makes a mistake: "If he had more respite, he would never cheat." "The mother-in-law's rightful remarks reminded me of the experience of my distant cousin.
At the age of forty, my cousin resolutely divorced her cheating husband despite the opposition of her family. The day before announcing the imminent divorce, the family finally got together to persuade the cousin, and the content was nothing more than that people are middle-aged, and it is not easy to divorce and remarry.
I remember at that time, my cousin said firmly while crying: "Do you know, he said that he would cheat on the mistress because I didn't understand him, but that woman understood him very well."
Hearing this, I feel that my twenty years of marriage are like a joke. "From the cousin's description, we can know that the reason why the cousin-in-law cheated was that he felt that in his cousin's heart he was just a money-making machine, and that the woman would give him nuanced tenderness, and in the cousin's case, he only felt this treatment in the first years of marriage.
My cousin-in-law is a self-centered person who may not realize that understanding requires a mutual effort. His cousin also expects something from his desire when he pursues it, but she chooses to remain silent and never express it in the form of betrayal.
In the world of the sexes, men are often easily deceived and cross the line without scruples, treating morality as if it were nothing. When their deeds are revealed, they take it"The feeling is coming"as an excuse. What is ironic is that they dare to say it, and some people believe it.
For example, in the follow-up plot, Ji Shanyu once said: "You can't think about married people, even if you want it physically, you can't destroy other people's families." This kind of behavior is only done by bad women. ”
Everyone is at fault, and no one is innocent. Roses are wrong, and so are those who covet them. In this world, a slap doesn't make a sound.