In relationships, verbal communication often carries deeper meanings than they seem. In the process of interacting between men and women, the lethality of certain words cannot be underestimated, and they touch on many sensitive aspects such as self-esteem, ability, emotion, and family relationships. The four sentences that men hate to hear the most, each of which can hurt a man's self-esteem. 
"Why are you so useless? ”No one wants to be seen as worthless, and even more so men. This sentence directly calls into question the ability and worth of men. Whether in society or in the family, men are often expected to have high expectations, and in their hearts, they often also value their own abilities and face. So, when they hear "why are you so useless", it is likely that they will feel that their self-esteem has taken a serious hit. Obviously they have worked hard, but they are still labeled as "useless", and this denial is a denial of their entire personality. Hearing such words for a long time, a man may become depressed, have low self-esteem, and even doubt the feelings of two people because he is not understood and angry emotions. 
"You look at other people's husbands".In contrast, this behavior is often seen as unwise in relationships, and it is like a double-edged sword, which can both stimulate self-motivation and deeply stab one's self-esteem. In intimate relationships, such comparisons are particularly sensitive and dangerous. When a woman says "look at someone else's husband" in a hurry or inadvertently, she may be motivated by a desire for her partner to be motivated and better. However, to men, such words are like a hammer slammed into their hearts. Men will instinctively interpret the meaning behind this sentence: in the eyes of women, he is inferior to others, and his efforts and dedication seem so insignificant. This perception can make a man feel deeply frustrated and angry because he feels that his dignity and worth have been ruthlessly trampled on. In fact, everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and that's perfectly normal. Comparing one's partner with others not only fails to objectively evaluate the value of one's partner, but also exacerbates dissatisfaction and contradictions between each other. When you have expectations, you should express them in a gentler and more constructive way and work together for the relationship between the two of you. 
"If that's the case, get a divorce."In an emotional relationship, the threat of divorce is undoubtedly a very destructive behavior. Such words are like a sharp sword, piercing the softest and most vulnerable place in a man's heart. It is not just an angry remark, but also a serious question about the stability of the relationship. When a woman throws out cruel words like "if you do this, divorce like this" in an argument, the man feels not only the anger and disappointment of the present, but also the fear and insecurity of the future. They will begin to wonder if this once beautiful relationship can really stand the test of time? Do women really want to spend their lives hand in hand with them? This kind of threat will only make the man feel that the woman does not cherish the relationship. In the eyes of men, words like divorce should not be said lightly. Once it is spoken, it means that the relationship is in jeopardy and could end at any time. 
"You're just like your mother."This sentence is extremely lethal, not only an attack on the man himself, but also a disrespect for his family and mother. When a woman says "you're just like your mother" in anger or disappointment, she may not realize how much damage the phrase can do to the man. Comparing a man to his mother often touches the most sensitive and vulnerable part of a man's heart. It can't hurt the family, everyone has their own bottom line, and when a woman attacks a man with such words, it will make the man feel that he is not respected, such a sentence undoubtedly adds fuel to the fire and exacerbates the breakdown of the relationship. Mature people should understand that even when dealing with those closest to them, you should be cautious in what you say and do, because you don't know if any of your casual words will deeply hurt your closest people. Remember, communicate gently with every problem encountered, and remember that the purpose of communication is to increase understanding, not to create more harm and conflict.