As the old saying goes: filial piety and faithfulness. I believe that friends who are familiar with the eight virtues will blurt out the remaining three virtues as soon as they see it: righteousness and shame. In fact, this is the old eight virtues before the Song Dynasty in China, which reflects the idea of family-oriented, because the order of filial piety must precede loyalty.
The meaning of the word loyalty is very easy to understand, and in ancient China, it generally referred to loyalty to the rules of rule formulated by the Yellow Emperor and the ruling class. In this way, the meaning of filial piety is very obvious: that is, people will only approve of other ideas if they honor their parents and respect their elders.
Such as loyalty, patriotism, and obedience to the rules of rule, etc. Therefore, from this point of view, filial piety is more important than loyalty. People should first respect and love their own parents, and only in this way can they love the king and the country in this way.
In addition, after the social development level has evolved from primitive tribes to feudal society, the core extended meaning of filial piety has become respect and love for fathers. That is, filial piety was given a new meaning under the ruling rules of a patrilineal society.
On the other hand, the father's love is also deep for the son of the inheritor of power. This is the core of the deep and great cultural gene of father's love. Although some friends may also say: In the traditional culture of our country, there are also concepts such as heaven and earth monarchs.
It shows that the king is before the father. It is worth mentioning that the popular period of this sentence was in the middle and late Ming Dynasty, compared to the eight virtues before the Song Dynasty. It undoubtedly caters to the needs of the rulers to strengthen the centralization of power, that is, the imperial power.
In the current social phenomenon, there is also a word that can express the father's dedication: spelling father. Although spelling dad is often used to ridicule the fact that there is a big difference in background resources, it also reflects the huge sacrifice made by the father for the future development of his children.
There are fathers who spoil their children excessively and even break the law to leave enough capital for their sons: such as money, expensive metal jewelry, real estate, etc. It is not difficult to see that the heaviness of father's love is as deep as a mountain.
Because the breadth and depth of the mountain is very large. From the perspective of positive examples, on a real-time barrage**app, which young people like very much, there is an up master who works in other places all the year round, and he is very diligent and thrifty and works hard every day.
But he never complained in front of his son about how tiring the work was and how hard it was to make money. On the contrary, I was very distressed for my son because he stayed up late to write his homework all day long. So, when the father is not busy, he often takes his son to a big meal and relaxes everywhere.
He also advised his son not to be too tired, and to exercise properly when studying, after all, his body is the most important. Just ask, how can such a father not say that his father's love is as thick as a mountain? Such a family is bound to be warm and happy.
In everyday life, we always hear some children complaining loudly that their father is the most useless person in the world. Because my father, who works outside the home all the year round, often doesn't see him a few times a year; And the father who is often at home has to let his wife go.
Therefore, children will feel that no matter which of the above two postures, they are actually useless representatives. But what the children don't know is that the father in the former is often the pillar of the family and bears a lot of pressure. It can be said that the courage of the elderly and children falls on their shoulders.
The latter's father is full of tolerance because of his love for the family. Therefore, on the surface, he no longer has the dignity and coldness of his father. But at the same time, they also lost their inherent image in the eyes of children, and thus fell into a situation of failure and shame.
This is actually the truest portrayal of most families. But only the person who becomes a father can understand it. There is bound to be a red face and a black face in a family, and the red face is done by the mother, and the black face is naturally the father's turn.
Otherwise, the family will not be whole. Therefore, from this point of view, the characteristics of fatherly love are obvious. That is, when there is no problem, the existence of father's love is often not felt. And when there is a problem or a need, father's love will not be absent.
From the perspective of role evaluation, the idea that the most useless thing is the father is actually a one-sided mistake. Because father's love determines the depth, just like the spring breeze and drizzle of mother's love is to make people feel care and warmth.
The ruthless father's love is to make people learn to get up on their own after falling, but this kind of love and deep responsibility are very few children can experience. And this truth is often not understood and understood until they fall on their own heels.
If maternal love is self-esteem and self-love, then father's love must be self-reliance and self-reliance. The reason why mothers love the Lord and fathers love the Lord, and the reason why people can experience it more is that people are always in their own inner world.
Experiences outside of the main body can often only be felt when there is a certain relationship with others, such as social communication. Therefore, the depth of fatherly love will not be revealed at the beginning, but can only be fully revealed with the passage of time.
Moreover, the depth of father's love is also beyond the reach of mother's love, because the practice of choosing to let you be hurt to a certain extent because it does not want you to be really hurt requires a lot of determination. The good intentions of this are fatherly love.
To sum up, fatherly love can actually be described as great, but its hidden characteristics often make only those who have experienced it understand and cherish. And people who have not experienced it will naturally feel that father's love is the most useless. We need to change it.