In ancient times, a collector spent a lot of money to buy an ancient porcelain vase that has been around for a long time, and he has been in love with it ever since.
During the day, he had to check whether the bottle was in good condition several times, and at night he often dreamed that the bottle was broken.
For several months, he often did not sleep well and was in a trance.
The wife felt sorry for her husband, so on the second day, she broke the bottle with her own hands.
The husband was furious, but he didn't expect that that night, he would sleep peacefully until noon the next day.
In life, we will encounter many things, maybe it is the love that we can't ask for, maybe it is the past that is difficult to let go, or maybe it is the ...... of ethereal expectations
In fact, they are all like this ancient bottle, the tighter you hold it, the more hesitant it is.
Only by breaking the bottle and withdrawing in time is the best salvation for yourself.
no.01Bottles that can't be sought
I once heard such a sentence: "The most difficult thing in this world is to pick up stars with bare hands, and love is not available." ”
Love is something that can make people ecstatic and heart-wrenching.
Xue Tao, a woman from the Tang Dynasty, is beautiful and talented.
She fell in love with the poet Yuan Zhi at first sight, and wrote a love poem of "Flying together in the morning and dusk, among the mandarin ducks and lotus leaves", looking forward to spending time with him.
However, the good days were always short-lived, and soon after, Yuan Zhi left.
After Yuan Zhi left, Xue Tao turned his thoughts into poems and sent him more than 100 love poems.
However, Yuan Zhen has long forgotten his promise, not only marrying his friend's sister An Xian Concubine and the famous lady Pei Shu, but also falling in love with the geisha Liu Caichun.
After learning about this, Xue Tao wanted to go to Yuan Zhen, but received a letter from Yuan Zhen's friend:
Momei Mountain is full of clouds, and wants to chase Liu Lang North Road fans. If it seems to be easy to reach in the middle of the river, the spring breeze is still separated by Wuling Creek. ”
Meaning: You are destined not to come together, give up.
Xue Tao finally realized that it was impossible to renew the front edge with Yuan Zhen, so why bother to be entangled any longer.
So, she calmly let go of this emotion, returned to her life track, and started life again.
Someone once said:"The most unforgettable person in this life is not a lover, nor a first love, but the person who loves but can't have it. ”
Indeed, people in the world are always willing to miss the person who can't get it, but ignore the person around you who warms you.
However, the person who has left, no matter how much we remember it, will not come back to our side.
If we are always dwelling on the past, then we will not be able to grasp the happiness in front of us.
Break the bottle you can't ask for, and you have to believe that in this world, there are always people who secretly love you.
no.02An unrelenting past
In this world, everyone has some thoughts that motivate us to do what we want to do.
But once they accumulate in your heart, over time, they will turn into troubles and disrupt your life.
Immersed in the sorrow of the past, what you see is endless despair.
Learn to look up and turn the page of the past, so that life can find a new way out.
In ancient times, there was a scholar who went to Beijing to take the exam, but he was conspired by someone and fell off the list, and his childhood sweetheart's lover also left him.
Since then, the scholar has been depressed every day, and he lives by drinking.
One day, he met a monk and asked him how to liberate himself, but the monk did not say much, but only let him follow him for three days.
For three days, the monk only let the scholar drink water, did not allow him to eat, let him feed the horses and chop wood every day, and let him sleep in the stable at night.
After three days, the scholar broke down and cried, regretting why he had to suffer so much.
The monk said: In the past, you were not like this, punishing yourself for other people's mistakes, and asking for hardship. ”
There is a poem that says it well: "Plants and trees have no intention, and prosperity and withering come from time." ”
Everyone's prosperity or loneliness has its own certainty.
If it were yours, no one would be able to take it away; It's not yours, and no matter how hard you try, you can't get it.
Entangled in the fact that cannot be changed, it is always yourself who is tormented.
In a long life, learn to let go and untie the soul.
Let all the additional and heavy burdens pass by with the wind and forget each other in the rivers and lakes.
Only with a relieved light heart can we free up our hands to embrace a new life.
no.03Ethereal anticipation
If life is compared to a bottle, everyone can gain a lot.
But in reality, all we get is a third or a quarter of the bottle.
When we expect too much from life, pain follows.
A psychologist who once told the story of a male counselor.
This man has a successful career, but it is difficult to be happy.
Recently, he met a strong opponent in a business meeting.
He used all means, but the business still failed.
Since then, he has fallen into self-doubt.
He looked ahead and backward for fear of failure and feared that others would perceive him as incompetent.
The pressure is getting bigger and bigger, and I fall into a breakdown several times, and I can't control my emotions, so I come to ask for help.
The psychologist asked him why, only to learn that his parents were very demanding of him.
Since he was a child, he has been required to strive for the first place in all aspects, and if he is slightly inferior, he will be severely criticized.
As a result, every time a peer is better than him, he feels an indescribable shame.
The psychologist told him:
All the pain stems from your parents' high expectations of you.
But you are no longer that young boy, you can live without their expectations, you can fail, you can make mistakes. ”
When the man heard this, tears rained down.
For the first time, he realized that he didn't have to strive for perfection.
Later, he tried to let go of his tension and accept the difficulties at work.
After a while, the problem remained, but his mindset was much more relaxed.
Teacher Luo Xiang once said:
"Most things in life are out of our control, we just do our best and then accept that it backfires. ”
The best attitude is to do what you think is right and go with the flow.
You don't have to spend too much energy on a relationship.
You don't have to fight against life for a certain result.
Break the bottle of expectation, no matter what changes you encounter, you can face it calmly and feel at ease.
no.04Final remarks
Life is like a giant bottle with the label "happy" on it, but it is filled with all kinds of unwanted things.
Those unobtainable loves, entangled pasts, and illusory expectations will all become burdens in life.
Only by being brave enough to break these bottles can you liberate your heart.
In returning to simplicity, we can achieve stability and happiness.
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