Everyone has to pay for their own choices.
After graduating from junior high school, some people choose to work in other places, while others choose to continue their education.
Those who choose to continue their education, some are admitted to high school, some are not, and have to leave school to work outside.
After graduating from university, people are still faced with different choices, some choose to continue their education, and some choose to work outside the home.
These people who choose different choices are running their lives in their own way.
Whatever they choose, they are responsible for their choices for the rest of their lives.
no.01In this life, people are choosing all the time
What makes us who we are?
My answer is, choice.
What determines who we will be in the future?
Again, my answer is, choice.
In life, there are many different choices, the right choice is a happy life, and the wrong choice is a miserable life.
Choices determine the fate and life of life.
From the simplest choice of what to eat, what to learn in class, what to do after graduation, ......
to the most complex choices about some of the most important things in life, such as choosing a college or university, choosing a job, choosing a marriage, choosing a lifestyle, and so on.
These choices have slowly made you who you are now.
Take Tara Westover, for example, at the age of 17.
She chose to change her life, to pursue knowledge, to explore the outside world.
Because she saw her brother in college, in the face of the original family full of constraints and **, full of hope.
She also wanted to take control of her own life, so she chose to go to school and try to expose herself to a whole new world.
And looking forward to the present, it undoubtedly proves that choosing to go to school is a turning point in her life.
In fact, our life is made up of a few big choices, plus countless small choices.
In every small choice, there is the power to make us who we are.
As Sartre said:
"People are made by human choices, but there are only a few important choices in life. ”
The journey of life needs to be walked step by step.
It is not chance that determines fate, but your choice, and good luck is never waiting for it, but a goal that you need to work hard to achieve.
The real strong man is not the one who does not shed tears, but the one who runs with tears.
In life, you can't blame fate for all your unsatisfactory behaviors, but you must be brave enough to take responsibility for all your actions.
Many times, it's not the ruthlessness of fate, it's that you don't work hard enough.
no.02Your choices determine what you do
There are so many choices in life, even if you make a thousand choices, you will inevitably have moments of regret.
So, whatever you choose, it's up to you to decide.
As long as you choose, you are responsible for your choice.
Xu Zhuoyun was born in Jiangsu in July 1930, and he was born with muscle atrophy, which caused his hands and feet to be bent and his feet without ankle joints, and he became a naturally disabled person.
As a child, he always sat alone in front of his house and watched his peers play happily.
And that childlike fun has nothing to do with me.
At a young age, he already understood that all this was because he was incapacitated, and he was a complete "starting line loser".
After thinking everything out, he began to use the study at home as a school and studied wholeheartedly.
He studied all kinds of ancient books, from the "Book of Songs" and "Zuo Chuan" to the "Three Rites and Four History" ......
Reading extensively exposes him to different ideas and opens the door to a colorful world.
With a solid knowledge reserve, Xu Zhuoyun was admitted to National Taiwan University, and in the second year of graduate school, he won the "Li Guoqin Scholarship" with the first place in the whole department, and was eligible to study in the United States.
However, unfortunately, the scholarship requires that the recipient must be physically and mentally able-bodied, and Xu Zhuoyun is physically disabled, so naturally he is not eligible to be shortlisted.
Frustrated, he asked himself, "Why is this always happening to me?" ”
However, he quickly calmed down and admonished himself:
There are indeed many things in the world that we can't control, and many problems don't end as expected, but what we can do is do what we can do to the best of our ability. ”
His spirit of tartar collapse without changing color is admired by people, and the president of National Taiwan University is even more hands-on for him.
In the end, with the help of his mentors, Xu Zhuoyun finally got his wish and regained his qualification to study in the United States.
In this way, 27-year-old Xu Zhuoyun went to the University of Chicago, and after five years of hard study, he successfully obtained a doctorate degree from Chiba University.
Later, Hsu returned the favor and gladly accepted the invitation of National Taiwan University to return to Taiwan as the head of the Department of History.
There's a good saying:
"Life, no matter which path you choose, will never be too easy. ”
Pursuing one's dreams requires taking risks, and choosing stability requires giving up what one loves in one's heart.
However, as long as we listen to our inner voice and do our best to walk the path we have chosen, it is the best life.
There will be sudden blows in life, as well as unexpected surprises.
As long as we live with our hearts, we will find the beauty of life.
no.03In this life, people are paying for their own choices
In the workplace, do you often hear such a saying:
There are people who have been with the same company for ten years and have been stagnant;
And some people quickly stand out as the best of the company in just three to five years.
This huge disparity is not determined by the length of working years, but by the different levels of strength and ability of individuals.
I once saw the blogger @海寀Sky on Zhihu and told a story of his own.
His colleague Lao Li has worked in the company for three or four years, and he is usually the best at planning his career and looking forward to the future.
But when it comes to working hours, Lao Li likes to mess around.
He always perfunctory to deal with the tasks assigned by the leader, and does not take it as his responsibility to be serious and responsible.
As a result, when everyone around him was getting promoted and raised, Lao Li's salary remained unchanged.
When you reach middle age, whether you are outstanding or out of the game has actually been foreshadowed as early as when you started working.
If you keep despising your work and ring the bell every day like a monk, the opportunity will only quietly leave you.
However, if you can put your heart and soul into your work and constantly strive for excellence, then one day, you will be favored by opportunities.
Kazuo Inamori once said:
"There are usually only two factors in a person's life, one is fate, and the other is cause and effect. And the decision of fate must come from cause and effect. ”
What kind of life you choose, you have to work hard for it.
You work hard for it, and you'll be rewarded in the end.
If you keep slacking off, your destiny will only stagnate.
Only by continuously improving oneself and accumulating enough strength can one become a blockbuster.
All the brilliance will only be revealed after you have accumulated enough strength.
no.04Final remarks
I once heard a fable:
A group of people hurried on their way, and one of them suddenly stopped. Others asked him in confusion: Why not keep walking? ”
He replied with a smile
"We're in such a hurry that my soul hasn't caught up yet, I'm going to wait for it. ”
Perhaps, when we are faced with a choice, we might as well stop and listen carefully to our inner voice.
Only in this way will we be able to make choices that meet our heart's needs and move towards a better future.
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