"Zhuangzi Dasheng" has a saying:
Forget your feet, and you can do it well; Forget to (waist), belt is also suitable; Forget right and wrong, and the heart is suitable".
The meaning of this phrase is:
If you forget about the presence of the feet, the shoes are comfortable to wear on the feet;
If you forget the existence of the waist, the strap tied to the body is comfortable;
If you forget right and wrong, your heart becomes calm.
When you get used to forgetting the unhappy, unimportant things, life will be much lighter.
no.1Forget about age and please yourself
A few days ago, when I returned to my grandmother's house after the Chinese New Year, I saw her meticulously combing her hair in the mirror.
I looked at my grandmother and remembered that when I went back to my grandmother's house before, she seemed to have always been like this.
Although there are no fancy skincare products on the table, they still carefully apply the cream.
If there are guests in the house, she will also match the appropriate jewelry according to the outfit of the day, sometimes a pearl necklace, sometimes a brooch.
Now that my grandmother is older, she can still take care of herself neatly.
If you think about it carefully, my grandmother's pursuit of appearance stems from her love for life.
In the same way, you can live a wonderful life and live a delicate life at any age, not to please others, but to reward yourself.
Writing this, I remembered the dialogue between a sophomore boy and his grandmother in the variety show "Youth Talk".
The boy stood on the high platform and shouted to his exquisitely dressed grandmother in the audience:
You're in your 70s, so don't get up early and go out to work late at night, can you let everyone worry less? ”
It turned out that my grandmother had been a teacher all her life, and she still actively participated in various activities after retirement, and the family was always worried that she would be tired and tired.
Unexpectedly, his grandmother responded to him in a loud voice:
I know you're all worried about my body and want me to stay at home, but I have demands on my life.
Even though I'm 72 years old, this job makes me feel young. ”
In Grandma, we see:
A person who is always passionate about life, even if he has gray hair, can still live young.
Haruki Murakami once said:
"I always thought that people grow old slowly, but in fact they don't, people get old in an instant. ”
The first gray hair on the head, the first wrinkle at the corner of the eye, the first staggering of footsteps, these are all signs that make people perceive instant aging.
Age is not a barrier, and it's never too late.
If the sunset is infinitely better, why be melancholy near dusk, everything will come back in another way.
If we miss the wind, we will harvest the rain, and if we miss the gorgeous summer flowers, we will surely walk into the quiet beauty of autumn leaves.
Forget about age, please yourself, be simple, confused, happy, everything is just right.
May we always maintain a young and struggling heart, and live happily in the way we like.
no.2Forget the past and start over
Balzac said: "Life cannot go on without forgetting much." ”
Life is a one-way car, and when you get in the car, you can't turn back.
If you want to keep going, you have to throw away those useless old packages, and if you carry too much, it will eventually become a stumbling block for yourself.
I once heard a story.
One day, the host and the little monk cleaned the temple together.
During this period, the host had to carefully close the door again every time he walked through it.
The little monk was confused, so he asked the host:
Why do you have to close a door every time you walk through it? ”
The host said, "This is as it should be. ”
Seeing that the little monk was still puzzled, he continued to explain:
In my life, every time I travel a distance, I have to close the door for that journey, which is a must.
Because when you close the door, all the things that were in the past are shut out, and then you can start over and move forward.
I once saw a sentence on Zhihu:
"Yesterday's sun will never dry today's clothes. ”
Yes, the past has passed, and the old things are brought up again, but I am afraid that it will be mediocre people who disturb themselves.
The past, no matter how bad, has passed.
Dwelling on the past will only bring your life to a halt.
No matter how beautiful a memory is, it is a memory after all;
No matter how unbearable the past is, it is good to turn back in time.
Only by letting go of the past can we achieve rebirth.
no.3Forget resentment, good life
Legend has it that there was a prince named Arthur in an ancient castle.
One day, the prince was out playing, walking on a rugged mountain road, and inadvertently stepped on a black stone.
The prince looked down and saw that the stone had not only shown no signs of destruction, but had swelled rapidly.
With each step of the prince's foot, the stone swelled, and it expanded at a doubling rate.
At this point, the prince became angry, and he picked up the thick trunk of the tree beside him and threw it at the stone, which was so fast that it was large enough to block the whole road.
At this time, an old man came down from the mountain.
And he said to the prince:
Friend, don't touch it, forget about it.
It's a bag of hatred, and if you don't commit it, it's as small as it was at the beginning.
If you violate it, it will swell up, block your way, and be hostile to you to the end. ”
The story is simple, but thought-provoking.
In fact, the same is true of life.
Everyone will have some bad past experiences, and choosing to forget grievances is to achieve themselves.
Otherwise, it will only help it snowball, getting bigger and bigger.
"A person's grievances, gains and losses, success or failure, honor and disgrace, look back after a few decades, it is really pitiful, but truth, goodness and beauty will always shine. ”
Some people see it clearly, and they don't want to care about it anymore;
Some things are seen through, and it is best to forget them.
You have to understand that for your own sake, you have to forgive some people.
For a man cannot keep a viper in his breast forever, nor can he get up night and night and plant thorns in the garden of the soul.
Right and wrong grievances are just small episodes of life, and smiling to face tomorrow is the main theme of life.
Although time cannot be turned back to make up for the injuries at that time, time will always become the medicine for everything.
no.4Final remarks
Wong Kar-wai said: The biggest trouble of people is that their memory is too good, if they can forget everything, every day in the future is a new beginning, how happy it should be. ”
The way of wisdom lies in forgetting.
Forgetfulness is the highest level of wisdom in life
People who know how to forget are very good at enjoying life, especially looking forward to tomorrow.
Because, they don't care about age, they don't care about the past, they don't remember grievances.
In the long years, I hope we can also have a heart of forgetfulness, not sad or happy, and the years are quiet.
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