Life is inseparable from philosophy".
1. The most bitter thing in life is parting
People are most susceptible to nostalgia for life when they are alone, because in the final analysis, life in the world is nothing more than a lonely journey.
If we compare life to a reverse journey, we will find that delays on the way are really common in life.
As we march toward our ideal life, we come to a halt at a certain point on the way sooner or later due to all kinds of inevitable limitations and accidental changes.
We believe that this is temporary, always waiting to get back on the road, hoping that one day we can live the life we really want to live, but we stopped forever at this point.
Some people gradually become practical and comfortable in arranging their lives at this point. Some people still wait, wait, wait, the years are ruthless, and in the end they lament that they have been delayed for a lifetime.
There is the charm of life when there is an encounter. Sometimes, it doesn't take much more, and a affectionate glance at the veins from somewhere is enough to dispel the clouds of time and reawaken our faith in happiness.
Gathering and dispersing is an ordinary thing in life, but it is also enough to sigh. The most regrettable thing is that when you are scattered, it is regarded as ordinary, but when you get together again, there is no day, and a farewell becomes an eternal secret. Or say goodbye to youth, and when they say goodbye, they are all white-headed, and they are like a mirror to each other, instantly reflecting the ruthless passage of time.
If the moon is lost, it can be profitable, and when the flowers are gone, it can be bloomed again. However, it is unknown whether they can see each other again. This is one. Xie Xie profit and loss, the flower moon is still the same, several degrees of clutching, but people are old. This is two.
The reason why life is the most bitter parting is because parting makes people feel the impermanence of life the most.
On the occasion of parting, there is always a third party present - unpredictable fate, and there has been endless concern since then.
The broken intestine remembers the broken intestine person", a "memory" word, points out the pain of parting. The pain of parting is bitter in my heart, and there are many vivid memories in my heart, but I can't see anyone in front of me. The more vivid the memory, the more vivid the vacancy in front of you, and the more people are tormented by the pain of longing, so that people continue to bowel.
Single thought is sour or spicy, lovesick is bitter and sweet, and the taste of missing is the most indescribable.
Acacia is a lengthy manuscript that tends to be published for a short time.
The taste of insomnia is different in spring and autumn. Spring nights are serenades, autumn nights are requiems. Listen to the birdsong on the spring night, and listen to the ghost cry on the autumn night. Pregnant on a spring night, sad on an autumn night. The spring night is color, and the autumn night is empty.
There are two situations in my life that I have experienced myself and seen a lot from others, and I have gradually become accustomed to them. But once I think about them, I still find them incredible.
The first situation is that how can two people who were originally complete strangers live together every day and feel that no one can live without each other?
The second situation is, how can two people who live together every day become strangers again, or even never communicate with each other?
No matter how old a person is, he is orphaned without parents.
The gateway he walked into this world, the barrier he walked out of this world, all collapsed with it.
His parents are here, his way is clear, and his way is hidden.
When his parents are gone, his way of coming from becomes obscure, and his way is open.
The length of time in front of the young man is about the same as that behind the elderly. However, young people often feel that there is infinite time ahead, while older people feel that the time behind them is very limited.
The young man has nothing to reminisce, so he looks forward. The old man had nothing to look forward to, so he recalled.
Starting from scratch is a situation that can often be encountered in life.
As big as **, war, country ruined, escaped from death, career failure, as small as widowhood, lovelorn, economic bankruptcy, money theft, and penniless. All of this will give you a sense of ruins to varying degrees.
At this point, the healthiest state of mind is to forget everything you have had, to forget the losses you have suffered, and when you have just come into this world, you say to yourself, "Okay, let me start from scratch!" ”
Instead of sitting on the ruins and crying, you pat your ass and walk forward, to an open space, to rebuild.
You're not even rebuilding what you've lost, because then you're still thinking about your loss, and you're still leaving your heart in the ruins.
No, you are walking forward with your heart, you are bankrupt but still an entrepreneur, you are still a first love although you are out of love, and you really take the place where you are standing alone at the moment as the starting point of your life.
Maybe it's some kind of Zen realm. I must admit that I can't get to that myself. In order for a person to reach this state of being carefree, the upper one must be enlightened, and the lower one must have no heart or lungs, and I can't reach both the upper and lower ends.
Just after a catastrophe, such as the death of your dearest relatives, the loss of almost all your possessions by fire or thieves, etc., you will have a strange feeling of lightness, as if you have returned to the original state of the heavens and the earth.
There seem to be two taboos in life. One is that there was a sudden change and I had to start from scratch and rebuild my life or career. The second is to die in the prime of life, leaving behind an unfinished life or career, and dying.
However, if you think about it carefully, there are big and small changes, who can completely avoid them? How long and short is life, how many people can be called the end of life?
Therefore, starting from scratch and not finishing is the normal state of life.
Therefore, people should have two consciousnesses: one is to have the courage to start from scratch, and the other is to be calm with the unfinished.
Looking back, how many things I wanted to do but didn't do it. Looking ahead, there is still much to do.
Unfinished is the norm of life and a positive state of mind. If a person feels that there is nothing left to do in this world, his life may come to an end.
Of course, if a person faces death in an unfinished state of mind, he will feel abrupt and aggrieved, and even die blindly.
However, as long as we realize that life is never finished, and that no matter when death comes, life is never finished, then we will come to terms with death at any stage of life, and we will be positive and detached at the same time.
Things in the world are more or less like this, never finished, and in the unfinished, life goes on as it should. The so-called can't be done, can't be done, and unfinished is the norm of life.
There is still no end to things in the world, so why bother. This state of mind is not at all a detachment from seeing through the red dust, but more like a kind of reconciliation and tolerance of life's joys and sorrows.
2. Philosophy makes you live better
I never feel that there is anything to praise about anger, on the contrary, it is a sign of weakness.
Truth be told, very few people can hurt you unless they hit you with a stick or shoot you.
For example, I can't understand why anyone would get angry just because they had waited a long time for the waiter to come, or because the janitor was not polite enough to him and the salesman didn't take him seriously, after all, those people were just apparitions in dreams.
Except for being stabbed with a dagger or being physically injured by **, the only thing that can hurt you is the person you care about.
A friend once asked me, "Why don't you forgive someone and forgive someone who behaves much worse than him?" ”
I replied to him: "Yes, it's hard for me to forgive him because he's my friend, at least that's what I think, and the other one is a complete stranger to me, and whatever he does can't hurt me, because I'm not close to him." ”
Without philosophy, people would live a miserable life. Because they are too sure about reality and about themselves. So, philosophy can make you live better.
For example, if you think of life as a dream, you can still think of it as a nightmare, even if it has all its dark and ugly aspects. But if you look at reality as something solid, your mindset will only get worse.
Philosophy may add a bit of haze to the world, but that haze is beneficial.
If you are a materialist and only believe in things that are solid, then you will be bound by reality, or rather, by the reality of your mouth.
So, in a sense, philosophy dissolves reality, but since reality isn't always beautiful, it might be a good thing for you to be dissolved.
Of course, these are the most superficial ideas, but the simplicity does not detract from its correctness.
Time is the most fundamental mystery, and everything else is incomprehensible at best.
Space doesn't matter. You can imagine a universe without space, for example, a ** universe. Of course, we are the listeners. Speaking of time, though, you have the question of how to define it.
St. Augustine said, "What is time? If no one asks me, I know, but if anyone asks me, I am foolish and ignorant. ”
The question of time is a real one. The question of time encompasses the question of the self, because, after all, what is the self?
The self is the past, the present, and the anticipation of the coming time and the future.
So these two mysteries are the basic content of philosophy, and we are glad that they will never be solved, so that we can solve them forever.
We can continue our speculation. We will call this speculation philosophy, and philosophy is indeed just speculation. We'll continue to weave theories, have great fun with them, and then tear them down and weave new ones.
3. Live and cherish
Whenever people are on the road to success, they tend to reorient themselves when they encounter failure. But what I would say is that you should reposition yourself when you are successful, because only then you will have that capital.
In the early stages of their careers, people often only see a very limited time frame, almost only four years, and they can't imagine what will happen in four years.
However, when they achieved a certain amount, the time frame expanded. They suddenly began to think about options for the next 20, 30 or even longer years.
Such a long-term vision leads to clarity that has never been seen before.
There is a strong correlation between great success and the ability to answer life's fundamental questions; The most successful people have strong beliefs; There is a huge correlation between religious beliefs and godliness and successful people in the community.
Think of your life as your final stage, and the only purpose worth working on is to turn an ordinary life into a meaningful life.
Opportunities often come and go.
Too much planning can turn a deaf ear to ...... opportunityOpportunity will knock on the door, but only once. You have to be ready for this opportunity.
If you don't respect your job, not only will you not do it well, but it will also make you depressed and may even kill you in the end.
My definition of success changed a long time ago, and I love consulting and writing – things I often lose track of time when doing them.
To start and finish well, to get people to remember what I am, these things are important now. Making an impact on some people's lives is a goal worth striving for.
Helping people do what they want to do – I do want people to remember me for it.
For many years, I measured my work in terms of output – mainly books and other writing.
I've been very productive for years. Today I am not so productive because it is the year of harvest, not the year of sowing.
4. Philosophical reflections on the meaning of life.
The meaning of life is all found and created by each person: noble, despicable, noble, dirty, useful, useless, all by his own deeds.
What is the point of life itself being nothing but a biological fact?
What is the difference between a person and a cat or a dog? The meaning of life is not how you live, but how you live yourself.
If you are willing to bury this six-foot body in daydreaming, that is the meaning of your life; If you are angry and determined to seek and create the meaning of your life, then every day you live will have a meaning, and if you do something, you will add meaning to something, and your life will be infinite, and the meaning of life will be infinite.
Man is the spirit of all things:
First, man is able to make things with two hands.
Second, the human brain is larger than that of all animals.
He has two hands that can make things and a brain that is bigger than all animals, so he is said to be the spirit of all things.
But what's the meaning of life?
The meaning of life lies in how we see life.
The size of the meaning is all about how we use our hands and our brains.
Life is very short, the lifespan is only a hundred years, and when you can do things with your hands and brains, it is only a few decades.
Some people say that life is a dream, and it is a very short dream. It has been said that life is nothing but soap bubbles.
In fact, it is the most pessimistic statement, and it also confirms what I said above, whether life is meaningful or not depends on our view of life.
Even if he is dreaming, he must have a lively, vigorous and good dream, not a pessimistic dream.
Life is not alone, man is a social animal, he can see and imagine what he can't see, whether it is past, present, or future, man cannot escape the relationship between people.
Every move, every word and deed, every little action we do can have an indelible impact.
A good word can affect countless people, and a bad word can kill countless people.
This gives us a standard of life, on the negative side, we should not harm others, but know how to behave;
On the positive side, we want to add a little benefit to this society, and we must always let others benefit me.
Again, even if life is a dream, it is necessary to have a decent dream.
Life is just a dream, but there is only one chance to dream in a lifetime, how can you not work hard to have a vigorous dream?
How can you be confused and ignorant for decades?
In short, life has no meaning, if you can give him any meaning, he will have meaning. Instead of meditating on the meaning of life all day long, try this life to do something meaningful.
Ding Jungui. February 4, 2024.