Since ancient times, Chinese culture has placed a high value on kinship and has seen it as an important part of social networks. During the festive season, people visit relatives and friends to enhance their relationship. In the past, if a family was wealthy and had many children and grandchildren, then the future generations would often have many relatives and share the happiness of the family, but this situation of having many relatives is not necessarily a good thing. While you may feel the warmth of family, you may also be in trouble. As Pushkin said, "It is good for relatives to help each other, but many times they only drag us back." "When facing these three types of relatives in my life, I must not give too much. The more you give, the easier it becomes.
First of all, there are selfish relatives. From a human point of view, everyone has a selfish side, and that is the survival instinct. However, if selfishness is not suppressed, individuals become callous and focused only on superficial interests. Such relatives tend to approach you in the hope that you can provide them with more benefits, and when they find that you are powerless, they will ruthlessly abandon you. This type of relative only thinks about their own gains and losses and does not care about the feelings of others, so if you get involved with them, you will only fall into the trap, so it is better to keep your distance.
Secondly, there are relatives who are causing problems. When socializing with relatives, it is inevitable to talk about family matters and share private matters. However, some relatives are not honest and use the gossip they hear as a starting statement, fabricate news, spread rumors, and cause arguments among those around them. Such relatives often appear to be kind-hearted, kind, and trustworthy on the surface, but once they confide in intimate things, their true colors are revealed. It is wise to keep your distance from these relatives to prevent your secret from being **.
The third is that there are ungrateful relatives. Because we are related by blood, we often lend a helping hand when our loved ones are in trouble. If your loved ones know how to be grateful, they will remember your kindness and repay you in due time. However, if your relatives are cold or ungrateful, they may turn a blind eye to past feelings or act in a way that hurts you. To add insult to injury, dating them can cause you problems because such people tend to forget about past relationships.
Historically, Liu Bei had a good relationship with the two brothers Mi Zhu and Mi Fang. Liu Bei regarded the two brothers as ministers and gave them a generous fortune. However, when Suzhou attacked Jingzhou, the Americans betrayed Liu Bei and surrendered to Suzhou, and Guan Yu was caught between two sides and finally failed and died. This ungrateful behavior destroyed Liu Bei's foundation and made him unable to restore his former glory.
For these loved ones, we need to be rational and correctly understand their true nature. Honesty is important in interpersonal interactions, but too much trust can also lead to dangerous situations. Having a clear understanding of who they are and being wise to distance yourself from them is not cruel, but wise. Since sincere feelings should be directed at valuable people, some relationships are not worth maintaining and should be firmly severed.
In general, be careful when socializing with relatives. Be upright, but always vigilant and stay away from selfish, gossipy, and ungrateful relatives. Only by correctly understanding the character of relatives and keeping a distance can we avoid detours in interpersonal relationships and cherish sincere feelings.