In China, many parents often use yelling and scolding in the process of educating their children because their children's behavior or grades are unsatisfactory. However, this style of education can have many negative effects on children.
This article will discuss how scary a child's personality can become when they are often yelled at, and the impact of this type of parenting on a child's future.
Let's take a look at the personality traits that may form in a child who is often yelled at.
Children are often yelled at by their parents, which can make them feel that this is the norm. Over time, they will get used to it and think that this is the way to deal with problems. Therefore, when they encounter a problem, they may also handle it in the same way, creating a vicious circle. Such children tend to show the characteristics of impetuousness and have difficulty thinking calmly.
If children are constantly yelled at, they may feel that they are not loved and approved by their parents. This kind of thinking can lead to a sense of alienation and insecurity towards their parents. They may doubt their worth and believe that they are not worthy of love, which can affect their mental health.
Children who are often yelled at will become scared and frightened, afraid to have their own thoughts and opinions. They may become too dependent on their parents, afraid to make decisions on their own, and even hold back in the face of difficulties. This personality trait can affect a child's future development, making it difficult for them to face life's challenges independently.
Psychological research has shown that children who are often subjected to yelling and verbal violence by their parents will have a decrease in the volume of the hippocampus in their brains, resulting in impaired intelligence. This not only affects a child's cognitive abilities but also their ability to learn.
Children who are constantly yelled at are likely to develop low self-esteem. They may feel like they can't do anything well or even start to hate themselves. This state of mind can affect a child's self-confidence, making it difficult for them to perform socially and at work.
Being yelled at for a long time may also provoke a child's rebellious mentality. Although on the surface children obey their parents, in reality they may be enemies of their parents in their hearts and even try to prove themselves through various behaviors. This state of mind can affect the relationship between children and their parents, and even affect their perceptions and attitudes towards society.
In summary, children who are yelled at a lot may develop many negative personality traits that can affect their mental health, relationships, and future development. Therefore, as parents and educators, we should avoid yelling and scolding our children as much as possible. Instead, we should try to understand our children's needs and emotions and guide them in a gentler and more effective way. Only in this way can we help children grow up healthily and make them more confident, determined and successful in their future life paths.