Zhou Bingyi finally came back from abroad. At the dinner table, he gushed about his arduous journey in the past two months to Director Jin and Dongmei. Dongmei listened with relish, her face was full of pride, and from time to time she showed Director Jin the greatness of her husband. While tasting the food, Director Jin cared about Zhou Bingyi's health and didn't ask much about his foreign experience.
After the meal, Director Jin introduced Zhou Bingyi into the study, and seemed to be conducting an interview related to confidantes. In just ten minutes, she calmed Zhou Bingyi's thoughts with her unique communication skills, thus ensuring the stability of her daughter's marriage. The wisdom of communication is worth savoring for every couple, especially those who are struggling with emotional problems.
After Zhou Bingyi's close relationship with a female doctor abroad was ***, Director Jin's friend sent her the newspaper. Imagine that if we encounter such a situation, we are likely to immediately ask Dongmei: "Bingyi is having such a hard time abroad, is there anyone to help him?" Did he tell you about that over there? However, ordinary people are often anxious to learn the truth, but often only hear or get the information they want to hear.
Director Jin is different, she is calm and comfortable, she doesn't care about Dongmei, and she doesn't feel sad in the face of Zhou Bingyi. Her face remained calm and she was in normal condition with her family. It wasn't until after dinner, when she confirmed that Dongmei and Feng Yue would not come to her immediately, that she asked Zhou Bingyi to close the door and take out the newspaper from the drawer.
If it were someone else, he would probably throw the newspaper in front of him in anger and ask, "What's going on?" You explain it to me! Then, the man will find an excuse to defend himself, and the woman will demand that the man tell the truth. As a result, it is difficult for both sides to get to the heart of the issue. But Director Kim's approach was different. This seemingly cold lady solves the problem in an unobtrusive manner. It's a communication that isn't aggressive, but goes deep into the bone marrow. Director Jin first handed Zhou Bingyi a newspaper, hinting at an important topic that was about to be **. She subtly complimented Zhou Bingyi's business trip results, laying a harmonious atmosphere for the following conversations. After Zhou Bingyi finished reading the newspaper, he muttered slightly angrily: "It's too boring." Director Jin saw this reaction in her eyes, she knew Zhou Bingyi's character well, but for the sake of the truth, she decided to explore deeply.
She avoided possible points of contention and chose to go straight to the bottom of the matter. She threw out a hot potato: "I've already asked someone to find out the source of the matter, did you say it yourself, or did I say it?" This made Zhou Bingyi have to face up to the problem. He thought that his mother-in-law's years of knowledge of him would prove his innocence, but he seemed to underestimate Director Jin's insistence on the truth.
Zhou Bingyi cleverly turned defense into offense, and asked rhetorically: "What do you say?" But Director Jin was unmoved and continued to ask: "The Olya in the newspaper is really fake?" Zhou Bingyi understood that although his mother-in-law trusted him, she still had doubts about the truth. So, he calmly told the ins and outs of the matter, from first acquaintance to deep friendship, from friend to confidant, all the details were truthful.
Director Jin listened silently, and when Zhou Bingyi finished speaking, she hit the nail on the head: "If there is no report, are you not going to tell me?" Zhou Bingyi was silent. Director Jin observed him for a few seconds, caught the subtle changes in his face, and said decisively: "There are some things that should be said and some things that should not be said, but sometimes, the consequences of choosing not to say them are more serious." Her words reveal insight and understanding of Zhou Bingyi's silence. This communication, although not aggressive, made everyone feel its wisdom and strength. "The truth is not necessarily true. This sentence tells us that you have affection for Ollya and love Dongmei in your heart, which is true. But when the relationship is too crowded, can you be by Dongmei's side, but your heart is always thinking about Olya, who is far away?
Zhou Bingyi insisted that he was telling the truth, but Director Jin directly and sharply asked him if he had ever had true feelings for Oliah. Zhou Bingyi was silent, which meant that he acquiesced. If it were someone else, he might splash him with water in anger, but Director Jin defended him from another angle: "She is young, beautiful, capable, and willing to help you, and you are not a saint, you are a man who will be tempted." This made Zhou Bingyi feel at a loss. Director Jin warned him: "This kind of thing will happen again in the future, remember, don't go off when you wipe the gun." This means a contest between human nature and self-discipline and principle. Director Jin immediately brought up Minister Sheng's matter to warn Zhou Bingyi. She advised Zhou Bingyi to keep his distance from his confidante instead of severing the relationship. Because breaking up the relationship immediately will confirm the rumors in the newspaper, and keeping in touch can show grace.
Director Kim asked Zhou Bingyi to continue his correspondence with Oliah, but the content was subject to her review. Although Zhou Bingyi objected to this, Director Jin believed that it was a way to test his honesty. If the rumors in the newspapers are mentioned again in the future, this will be a strong piece of evidence. As she said, "I can only help you if I know what happened." This means that she is on Zhou Bingyi's side, reminding him that he must be a good person and do things, and the fate of the two of them is closely linked.
Then, she taught Zhou Bingyi an important strategy: "Hugging and kissing, this is foreign etiquette, we just follow the local customs." There is a wealth of information in this sentence. If Dongmei knows about this matter and divorces because of it, Zhou Bingyi can use this etiquette to defend himself and clarify his position. If Ollia used this to pester him, he could also use this etiquette to show his attitude. Even in the worst-case scenario, if someone maliciously attacks him, he can show the demeanor of the Chinese in this way.
This Director Kim is a truly wise mother-in-law. She handled the problem with great skill, and it only took ten minutes to resolve this contradiction, which could have caused a quarrel for three days and three nights. She not only eliminated Zhou Bingyi's psychological burden, but also successfully maintained his marriage to Dongmei. When many people saw the end, not only did they not think she was selfish, but they felt that this seemingly cold old lady was actually very affectionate and righteous. Her integrity, kindness, and wisdom are immensely admirable, qualities that not everyone can possess.
From her conversation with Zhou Bingyi, we can learn a lot of valuable lessons. First of all, we need to be calm. Before things are fully understood, it is more important to think calmly than to lose your temper impulsively. This helps us sort things out and not make bad decisions because of emotions. Second, we should be honest with each other and listen patiently. When confronted with problems, we should communicate sincerely and give the other party a chance to explain their position and point of view. It is also very important to listen to the other person's opinion, which can help us better understand the other person's thoughts and lay the foundation for solving problems. Finally, we need to empathize to better solve the problem. By putting ourselves in the other person's shoes, we can better understand each other's feelings and positions, so as to better balance the interests of both parties and find solutions to problems.
Director Jin's wisdom has given us a lot of inspiration. If we can learn and apply the essence of these wisdoms, our lives will be better. Although these principles may seem simple and easy to understand, they can be difficult in practice. But it doesn't matter, life is a process of continuous learning and growth. Take your time, don't be in a hurry, gradually improve your cultivation and wisdom, and we will be more calm and confident on the road of life. As long as we face the challenges and difficulties in life with a positive attitude and persevere in our efforts, we can make life better and better.