Life is like a sudden, hug the person in front of you.
* In "The Grapes of Wrath", the protagonist Joad tells an incident about one of his uncles, when he wants to eat pork, he will kill the pigs in the family and eat a good meal. And his father always insisted on keeping the pigs until Christmas. As a result, the pigs always died in September from plague or some other disease, and they were not able to eat anyway. In life, many people, like this father, are always accustomed to "delaying happiness": what they want to eat is not eaten immediately, but waiting for the next time; I don't leave immediately where I want to go, I always wait for time; The person who wants to love is not cherished now, and waits to be kind to it later. In the end, things break down, the beauty fades, and the lover leaves ......When I had it, I always felt that the days were still long. But I don't know that the years are not lived, the world is impermanent, there is no long future, only time is rushing. 
The good stuff doesn't have to be saved for lastOne of Mo Yan's classmates once found a brand-new silk scarf when he was sorting out his wife's relics. The silk scarf was bought by the couple at a famous brand store when they were traveling. His wife has been reluctant to use it, and wants to wait for a special day to use it. Who would have thought that he would never wear it until he died, and even the high ** label on the silk scarf is still there. This incident made the classmates sad and emotional: "Don't save good things for special days, every day you live is a special day." Dou Wentao once said in the round table pie: "When I buy new clothes and wear them at that time, this is the so-called 'earning' in life, because using it immediately is equivalent to a good thing playing its own value." ”Happiness is like ice cream, hold it in your hand for a while, eat it before it melts. Otherwise, the reluctance of this second will only create unhappiness in the next second. A writer once recorded in a book that when he was young, there were many poor brothers and sisters in his family, and he hardly ate any food throughout the year. One summer, his mother planted water spinach and blanched it early every morning, dividing a small bowl between each person and letting them serve it as a side dish for breakfast and lunch. After breakfast, everyone will hide the rest of the dishes and wait until noon to sweep them away. However, when it came time for lunch, he was reluctant to eat all the dishes at once, but kept some more and waited for dinner to be taken out to continue eating. As a result, in the evening, the food was spoiled and had to be discarded. Everything has an expiration date. Beautiful flowers will wither after a long time, delicious food will spoil after a long time, and beautiful clothes will become outdated after a long time......The years can't stand the waves, and the beauty can't stand the wait. Don't save the best for the end, in the precious moment of the moment, make the best use of things, and you can be regarded as grasping your own blessings. After all, life changes rapidly, and there will be death in the blink of an eye, and the coming days will not last long, and the leaves will fall in the blink of a finger. 
If you want to love, don't wait to cherish it laterIn the Qing Dynasty, there was a talented woman with a good face, named Wu Zao, who married a wealthy merchant surnamed Huang in the same city at the age of 22. Soon after his marriage, Wu Zao often went out to talk about poetry and lyrics with some literati and scholars, and had fun together. Later, he even indulged in sex outside, causing rumors to spread. But no matter what she does, her husband, who is obsessed with Wu Zao, is always tolerant and caring for her. Brocade clothes and jade food serve her, and take care of her in every way. Sometimes, she also feels indebted because of her husband's meticulousness to her, but every time she quickly comforts herself: "Don't get in the way, don't get in the way, anyway, the days are still long, just be nice to him in the future." However, not long after, her husband was killed by a sudden serious illness. For a long time after that, Wu Zao was so sad that he couldn't help himself. She began to miss all the kindness her husband had done to her before, and hated that she didn't cherish it well. After that, with full remorse, she lived alone in Nanhu away from the hustle and bustle, and wrote many poems to exhort future generations: everything has a time limit, and the people and love around her are the most cherished. The biggest regret in life is that when you have it, you always feel that the days are still long. So he hurt the people in front of him again and again, and ignored the love around him over and over again. But he forgot that the years are changing and the world is impermanent. Some people don't cherish it now, they may not have opportunities in the future, and some things they don't do now may not be in time in the future. A friend next to me, in the first two years of entrepreneurship, his career was not going well, and he was extremely irritable. He lost his temper at his father at every turn, and threw his face angrily at his father from time to time. Although he will feel that he is wrong afterwards, he will always comfort himself: when he is famous and settles down, he will spare his energy to do his filial piety calmly, and when he makes a lot of money and becomes rich, he will find time to make up for it. It's a pity that during the epidemic, his father left him forever. The indelible injuries at the beginning caused a long regret in his heart. Yishu once said:Life is like a sudden, hug the person in front of you. Those familiar smiling faces, accustomed faces, may one day, turn around, and never see them again. So, don't wait for how to repay the people who love you in the future, and stop thinking about how to treat the people you love well in the future. The best thing to cherish is always now. 
Never "delay happiness".A famous lawyer named Jin Youzhen once told his own experience: when he was preparing for the bar exam, he planned a lot of things until after the exam. When he wanted to go out for a ride, he told himself: now he has to study; When he wanted to exercise and fitness, he told himself: he will have an exam next week; When he wanted to go to a party with his friends, he reminded himself that he had class tomorrow. At that time, in his opinion, the most important thing for him was to pass the exam and become a lawyer, and all other relaxation and pleasure should be delayed. And he firmly believes that the current hardship is all for the sweetness of the future, and when he becomes a lawyer, he will be able to live the life he wants. But this is not the case. After successfully becoming a lawyer after passing the exam, he found that the things he wanted to do but didn't do at the beginning basically didn't have the opportunity to do it again. For example, he used to think about sports and fitness, but he had no time because he was busy with work, and he had no energy to maintain the intimate relationship that he had neglected because of his studies before. It was then that he realized that those delayed happiness would only be missed forever and would not be realized at some point in the future. After realizing this, he rarely had the idea of "doing it later" or any thoughts of postponing his life. It's a life that only believes in enjoying the moment and doing what you want to do right away. So, when he thinks that eating cake makes him feel happy, he immediately eats cake, and when he thinks that riding makes him feel at ease, he immediately goes for a ride. He said: Once people develop the habit of "having time and opportunity to do it again", a lot of good things have inadvertently slipped away. Don't postpone happiness until the "right time" that may never come, and the real small and precious happiness is hidden in every action of the present day. The trick to happiness is to live in the moment, and the true meaning of happiness lies in enjoying the present. Life is a journey, not a race. If you can't even enjoy the beautiful scenery that you can see and grasp in front of you, how can you be sure that every plant and tree you encounter in the future will be in your heart? Chen Guo, a professor at Fudan University, said: "The greatest sobriety of people is not to put happiness on a certain day in the future, but to let their happiness bloom at this moment today." Life is the accumulation of "today" and the continuation of "this moment". If everyone is not let down today, they can string together a life without regrets. Tap "Like".Enjoy every day in the moment and cherish everyone around you.