"A hundred years of cultivation can be crossed in the same boat, and a thousand years of cultivation can be slept together", two people have experienced many twists and turns from meeting and knowing each other to falling in love with each other to entering marriage, and when they decided to hold hands and walk into marriage, they were determined to be together for a lifetime. I believe that no one enters a marriage with the idea of separation, but expects their marriage to be consummated. However, the reality is that "it is easy to fall in love and difficult to stay together", so people will sigh that "marriage is the grave of love". Regarding marriage, we still have the seven-year itch, and now the seven-year itch is slowly becoming a three-year itch, a one-year itch, and the relationship between husband and wife is not better with the longer the marriage, but because the longer they are together, the worse the relationship. Many couples are more and more boring, and the more they get around, the more they have no feelings. Everyone will wonder why the longer they are together, the weaker the relationship? There are two heart-piercing truths that are easily overlooked. 
1. The trivialities of life are the most grinding love Why many partners, during the relationship, the relationship between the two people is very good, so good that it is like a conjoined baby, and it is like three autumns after a day. But after entering the marriage, the love quickly wears off, and the feelings of the two people change rapidly, either they quarrel constantly every day, or the feelings of the two people are so weak that they are unwilling to say a word to each other. In fact, because of the triviality of life, when falling in love, two people don't need to face the firewood, rice, oil and salt of life, they just need to be happy every day. All I want is to go to play on the weekend, the new movie is released, find a time to watch it together, whether to go out to travel when the week comes, usually go shopping, walking, almost every day is a storm. But getting married is different, you need to face the firewood, rice, oil and salt of life, at this time two people live together, not only to think about earning money to support the family, but also to take care of the family. Two people live together, to face the problem of who does housework, these things are very draining, if two people work together well, if you can't do the division of labor and cooperation, it is really easy to have conflicts. Many contradictions between husband and wife come from who does more housework and who does less housework, and the one who does more will inevitably feel unhappy, and then nag about the one who does less, and the contradiction arises in this way. 
Second, after being together for a long time, you will only see his shortcomings, and love is often blind, and this is what "Xi Shi is in the eyes of the lover" said. When you are with someone, you will definitely see the advantages of the other person at the beginning, you will like his self-confidence, his generosity, his humor, and his heartiness. And he likes your beauty, your gentleness, your atmosphere, and your confident and positive attitude. We say that short-term getting along looks at each other's advantages, but long-term getting along is the other's shortcomings. The longer you are together, the more you get to know each other, especially after getting married, you have to face each other every day, and slowly each other will expose the shortcomings that were hidden before. You will find that this person does not love hygiene, he throws away the tissues he used up, he goes home drunk and goes to bed without taking a shower, he actually chirps when he eats, it turns out that when he rests, he is playing games in addition to playing games. You will see that he has a lot of shortcomings, and at this time he slowly can't stand the other party, and then quarrels, and if there is too much quarrel, the relationship will naturally be affected. 
Long-term relationships often rely on mutual tolerance and long-term patience. Originally, two people didn't know each other, and they were just attracted by each other's light, but everyone will have advantages and disadvantages, you can't just enjoy each other's advantages, so you can't be with anyone for long. And the relationship must be a joint effort of each other to be long-lasting, if only one person is working hard, one person is giving, one person is giving, one person is taking, then one day it will be dispersed. It is not easy for two people to start a family, if you want love to last, you must sacrifice some, then endure some, and learn to turn a blind eye. We must learn to grasp the big and let go of the small. Marriage is not easy, and a long-term marriage is even more difficult, it takes more time and energy, and only two people with one heart can make each other's feelings longer and longer. End Illustration of the article "Revolutionary Road" stills February**Dynamic Incentive Plan