People who have experienced more than ten years of marriage know that the familiarity between husband and wife is like the left and right hands, except for the topic of children's growth, there is almost no extra communication between each other, and people's instincts are used to instinctively ignoring and ignoring what they already have.
Cheating is not the original sin, cheating is just driven by human nature, seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages, and greedy for pleasure are the banes of human nature. Men and women in ten years of marriage have long lost their hearts and expectations for each other, the other party who was once haunted by their dreams, the body that made them unstoppable, is now not the slightest interest, age is increasing, estrogen is declining, and the relationship is cooling down, and everything is slowly returning to calm.
People often have an instinctive way to explore and experience new things. The reason why a child is easy to be happy is because his world is a blank sheet of paper, and everything is full of curiosity and freshness in his eyes. The sweetness of the first love in youth is also because of the curiosity and desire for the opposite sex. And the maintenance of marriage is no longer managed by curiosity and freshness.
The longevity of a marriage depends on morality and kindness, as well as the degree of awareness of human nature. Extramarital love is just the foothold of desire, not the destination, exile desire will make desire like a virus to find one host after another, because freshness is time-sensitive, after a short period of passion will definitely return to the dull, love does not exist eternal, family and responsibility are what need to be done in a lifetime.
Extramarital love is not true love, it is just an outlet for desire and excitement, and when the prosperity is over, everything will eventually be empty. Body hormones just create the motivation and opportunity to meet true love. Once two people meet and form a marriage out of love, true love is the responsibility of staying together, the responsibility of husband and wife, the responsibility of raising offspring, and the responsibility of filial piety to parents.
The extramarital affair you dream of is just an old thing that others have discarded, and the perfect lover in your eyes is also an old thing that others don't bother to look at. Don't be blinded by momentary passion, there are many things in this world that are worth working on except for extramarital love, and short-lived passion will only create a lot of money. The lover you think is the best lover in the world will be exposed once he enters the siege of marriage, and even far worse than the original match.
Extramarital love is the seed of bad fate, and indulging oneself will inevitably lead to evil consequences. Fireworks are fleeting, love is separable, there is no eternal extramarital affair, only eternal desire.
Precious things are often already owned and free, such as sunlight and air. The same is true for spouses in marriage, don't choose to ignore it just because you have it, cherish your marriage, and stay away.