When I was sixty years old, I decided that I wanted to leave three retreats for my daughter. It may have been a dramatic decision, but for me, it was a thoughtful continuation of my family's values.
My name is Zhang Yun. For sixty years of my life, I was a silent supporter of an ordinary family. My wife is a gentle and virtuous woman, and my daughter, Zhang Lin, is the pride of my life.
Looking back, I worked hard to provide a welcoming environment for my family. However, I have also come to realize that certain decisions in life should not be made solely for myself, but for the sake of the next generation.
When I was 60 years old, I saw my daughter dating a young man named Li Tao. Li Tao's family background is superior and his career is successful, so it seems to be a good choice. But I felt an inexplicable anxiety deep in my heart, as if I felt some kind of uncertainty about the future.
In order to leave my daughter with three ways out, I began to think about my past choices and decisions. This is not a distrust of Li Tao, but a kind of vigilance for the future. So, I decided to write this story to let my daughter understand my good intentions.
The story begins when I was young, in an ordinary rural family. My parents were simple and kind farmers, and they did their best to educate me and pursue a better future. This hard work has made me a well-off life as an adult.
When I was growing up, I met my wife, Li Li. She is a warm and cheerful girl, we fell in love, got married, and went through ups and downs together. However, it was during our time together that I learned the responsibility of a family.
Our daughter, Zhang Lin, is the sweet fruit of our lives. She is smart, energetic, and the sunshine of our lives. But as time went on, I came to understand that the responsibility of parents is not just about giving, but also about the future of their children.
As I look back on my family's journey, I think about how I can leave three ways out for my daughter. The first is economic independence. I want my daughter to understand that no matter who she marries, she must learn to be financially independent and not dependent on others. This is not a distrust of marriage, but a rational reflection on life.
The story enters an exciting turning point, when I see my daughter working hard for her career. She gave up everything easy and comfortable and chose a less smooth path. This made me respect and strengthened my original intention to leave her with financial independence.
The second way out is emotional tolerance. Marriage is not all smooth sailing, but requires mutual tolerance and understanding. I hope my daughter can understand that in marriage, accept each other's shortcomings and learn to tolerate, so that she can go further.
In the story, I depict a moment of twists and turns in a marriage. The daughter had a dispute with her in-laws, but she chose tolerance and understanding, and finally resolved the conflict. This plot hopefully provokes the reader to think about the importance of tolerance in marriage.
The third way out is to have a wide range of interpersonal relationships. Marriage is not just a matter for two people, but also a union of two families. I want my daughter to have a wide social circle in relationships, so that no matter what happens, she can have more support.
In the story, I used my daughter's circle of contacts to show her wisdom in dealing with interpersonal relationships. This episode is meant to convey to the daughter that having a wide range of relationships can lead to more support and help in difficult situations.
As the story progressed, I gradually felt a sense of relief. Leaving her daughter with three ways out is not a distrust of her, but a kind of responsibility for life. This story is a deep reflection on family responsibilities and fatherly love.
Eventually, under my guidance, my daughter understood the importance of these three retreats. She is financially independent in her marriage, tolerant and understanding, and has a wide range of relationships. This story is not only a gift for my daughter, but also a reflection and advice to all parents over 60 years old. Because, when people are over sixty, no matter who they are in-laws with, they must leave three ways out for their daughters.