In Zhang Ailing's pen, love is the interweaving of heaven and hell, the interweaving of regret and pain. Her words deeply touch our hearts and make us understand that on the road to finding love, there is no greater sorrow than choosing the wrong partner in the years of youth, and stepping into endless darkness. However, life is long, and there is always someone to work with.
So, when looking for this partner, how do we steer clear of those who can cause harm?
First of all, be wary of the "good old people" in those relationships. They seem to be full of kindness to everyone, always trying to meet the requirements of others, but often ignoring their own boundaries and proportions. Such a person may seem amiable, but it can be a danger signal in a relationship. They lack the necessary sense of boundaries to be clear and firm when dealing with emotional issues.
Like the boyfriend described by that reader, he still maintains an ambiguous relationship with his ex-girlfriend after breaking up, and even after he already has a new girlfriend, he is still entangled with his ex-girlfriend behind his back. This kind of behavior is not only disrespectful to the current girlfriend, but also irresponsible to the feelings. In the face of such a person, we should make a decisive choice and not hesitate because of the depth of feelings for a while, otherwise we may only end up hurting ourselves more deeply.
Second, we need to stay away from the misers in our feelings. Although money plays an important role in life, if a person values money above all else, then his performance in the relationship is likely to be disappointing. Such people tend to have extreme personalities, and they may sacrifice their feelings for money, even at the expense of hurting their loved ones. Just like He Fei in the movie "Disappearing Her", he deliberately approached Li Muzi for money, and used false love to cover up his true purpose.
However, when his goal was achieved, he did not hesitate to abandon Li Muzi, revealing his true face of ruthlessness. Such feelings are not only not love, but also a kind of exploitation and deception. Therefore, when choosing a partner, we must keep our eyes open, do not be confused by money, and do not use money as the only criterion for measuring feelings.
Finally, we must resolutely avoid getting into emotional entanglements with those with extreme personalities. Such a person is like a ticking time bomb, and at any moment he can burst into terrible emotions because of something insignificant. Their behavior is often difficult to ** and is likely to cause serious harm to those around them.
In the case of "Gold Medal Mediation", the husband not only caused physical and mental harm to his wife and children because of his extremely irritable personality, but also plunged the whole family into endless pain. Such examples are not uncommon in life, and it reminds us that we must carefully consider the other person's personality and emotional stability when choosing a partner. Only by being with someone who is mentally mature and emotionally stable can we enjoy true happiness and peace.
In conclusion, on the road to finding love, we need to keep a clear head and a keen insight. Don't be fooled by superficial kindness, don't be fooled by money, and don't make the wrong choice because of a momentary impulse.
Remember Zhang Ailing's words: "The most regrettable thing in this life is that the people who brought me to heaven later pushed me to hell." "Let's learn to protect ourselves, and we must know how to love ourselves while loving others. Only in this way can we find the person who is truly worth being with for a lifetime in the vast sea of people.