A recent hot search is that during the Spring Festival, the conflicts between husband and wife continue to increase, and some netizens ridiculed: "If it weren't for the Civil Affairs Bureau not going to work during the Spring Festival, otherwise the divorce rate might go up all of a sudden." Then, after the Spring Festival holiday, on the first day of work, there was a steady stream of people going through divorce procedures at the Civil Affairs Bureau, and a netizen filmed the situation on the first day of the Spring Festival work of the local Civil Affairs Bureau, and he said that most of them came to divorce, and he himself came to divorce.
So let's talk about this question today: why are couples prone to conflicts before the Spring Festival, and couples are more likely to divorce after the Spring Festival?
The first question: going to ** for the New Year?
The question of who to go back to for the Chinese New Year may be a question that needs to be discussed every year.
The current marriage model is no longer the traditional model of male and female protagonists, so the New Year is not fixed in the in-law's house, which also touches the weakness of many men, who think that they should spend the New Year with their parents. However, with the continuous improvement of women's economic status, many women believe that their parents are also parents, and they also need to be reunited for the New Year.
How to solve this problem depends more on the views of both parties on this matter and their attitudes towards marriage.
Before the Chinese New Year, the seeds of contradiction had been planted.
The second question: all kinds of unhappiness when I go back to my mother-in-law's house for the New Year
Some counselors said that the husband said that he agreed to take the children back to his mother-in-law's house for the New Year, but the mother-in-law's family found out that the mother-in-law's family did not prepare much food for the New Year. On the twenty-eighth of the lunar month, I arrived at my mother-in-law's house, and I had to go to buy New Year's goods with my husband, which was really annoying.
Some netizens also left me a message saying: I drove back to my mother-in-law's house, and it was already night, not only did I not eat a hot meal, but even the beds were made by myself, they only cared about watching their grandchildren, and no one paid attention to the problem of food, clothing, housing and transportation, and suddenly regretted going back to my mother-in-law's house for the New Year, I was an only daughter, and my parents were ready to wait for their family of three to go back for the New Year. During the Chinese New Year, the seeds of contradiction gradually take root and sprout in the unhappy soil.
The third question: a husband who can't be carried clearly
It's okay if I have a little grievance, in fact, my husband can understand himself, it's nothing, but at this time, my husband can't figure it out, he only cares about his own happiness, regardless of his wife's mood, even if his wife expresses his dissatisfaction and anger, he will only say that it is my parents, let it go first! At this time, the unclear husband may have become the last straw that crushes the marriage.
After the Chinese New Year, my wife, who was completely disappointed, resented the divorce, and it just so happened that the Civil Affairs Bureau also went to work!
In fact, the root cause of divorce is not the New Year, but the New Year is a fuse. Freezing three feet, not a day's cold. The dissolution of many marriages is not accidental, it has its own inevitability.
Therefore, marriage management is also a crucial part of maintaining a marriage. Learning to manage your marriage will double your marital happiness!