My name is Li Xiao, I am 35 years old this year, and I have been married to my husband Zhang Wei for ten years.
Although our married life is ordinary, it can be regarded as harmonious.
Until one day, my sister-in-law Xiaojing came to our house to "raise the baby".
After Xiaojing became pregnant, because her husband worked in other places all the year round, her mother-in-law insisted that she come to live in our house so that she could take care of her.
I don't have much of a problem with that, after all, it's right for family members to help each other.
However, problems followed.
Since my sister-in-law Xiaojing came to my house to raise the baby, the originally peaceful life has made waves.
Her arrival has brought about subtle changes in family relationships, and it has also made me feel unprecedented pressure.
My mother-in-law began to come to our house often, and every time she came, she would guide me on how to take care of Xiaojing, and sometimes even criticized my approach.
What made me feel even more unacceptable was that a month later, my mother-in-law actually asked me for living expenses, saying that it was to subsidize Xiaojing's nutrition expenses.
I was shocked because our family's financial situation was not well-off, and my salary and Zhang Wei's income were just enough to support our daily expenses.
This sudden extra burden made me feel a lot of pressure.
I was a little surprised: "Mother-in-law, I'm already trying my best to take care of Xiaojing, and our own expenses are also very large. ”
The mother-in-law replied dissatisfiedly: "You are just taking care of her life, but the cost of nutrition is also very important." As a member of the family, you should think about it a lot. ”
I felt a little aggrieved and talked to Zhang Wei about it in the evening.
I said, "Wei, I think our mother's demands are unreasonable, and we also have our own life pressures. ”
Zhang Wei said lightly: "Xiaoxiao, this is my sister, we should take care of it as a family." ”
I was in disbelief and said angrily, "You're on your sister's side, not your wife!" We need to have our own space and life. ”
Zhang Wei and I had an argument because of this.
I think that we should have our own lives and not be completely sacrificed for the sake of our sister-in-law.
Zhang Wei believes that as a family, we should support Xiaojing unconditionally.
Our quarrel became more and more intense, and eventually, I was overwhelmed and made a difficult decision - to divorce Zhang Wei.
In the face of my mother-in-law's unreasonable demands and Zhang Wei's unreasonable explanations, I felt exhausted.
Late at night, I sat alone in the living room, thinking about where our marriage was headed.
That night, I made a decision: I was going to end the marriage.
I can't continue to live in an environment where I don't feel respected and understood.
I filed for divorce from Zhang Wei.
At first, he was shocked and thought I was joking.
But when he realized I was serious, his attitude began to change.
He tried to keep me: "Xiaoxiao, I was wrong, we can start over, I will change." ”
After a long conversation, he finally realized the seriousness of the problem.
Zhang Wei felt guilty for ignoring my feelings as a wife and blindly meeting the needs of the rest of the family.
However, my decision is irrevocable.
Although Zhang Wei promised to change, in my heart, this marriage has lost its original meaning.
We completed the divorce process peacefully and maintained a friendly relationship.
In the days after the divorce, I slowly adjusted my life and rediscovered myself.
I've come to realize that sometimes, leaving isn't about running away, it's about taking responsibility for yourself.
I started to devote myself more to my work and personal hobbies, and I found that life was still full of color.
I learned to be independent and I learned how to enjoy life again. Emotional family stories