Aunt Old: Don't help my son, break up!
The new-age notion of "parents are here, not far away" is being broken, and many young people are separated from their parents for work reasons and can only stay in touch on holidays or through the Internet.
A 53-year-old aunt expressed her dissatisfaction with her son, saying that if her son did not help her, she was unwilling to accept her son's upbringing and hoped to break up. This incident provoked people to think about family affection and family relationships.
For 3 years, my son and I have been separated by thousands of miles. Even though he's in London, we're able to stay in touch via WeChat**. As parents, we all want our children to live well, and although we are separated, the day of reunion will definitely come.
Many elderly people who live alone are reluctant to remarry for various reasons such as fear of opposition from their children and property problems, but they also want to be accompanied. So, they chose "Twilight Love", which is a beautiful landscape in their lives that makes them feel happy and satisfied.
Although they cannot be officially married, they are still able to live together, spend time with each other, and spend their old age.
Title: Why are the "dewy couples" who live together often contradictory? In real life, many people choose to live together, but this relationship often has conflicts due to money and children, which eventually leads to the breakdown of the relationship.
In such a relationship, the man has good economic conditions, and the woman usually relies on the man, but is not willing to be a "free babysitter". Men often think that they have provided the life that the woman wants, but it is difficult for them to be honest with the woman.
In fact, there is no true love between men and women who live together, they are only together to find a partner. However, this kind of relationship is often messed up because of some trivial things, and it is not even possible to grow old together.
That's why 53-year-old Huang Ling had a partnering experience, but in the end they broke up because of personality incompatibility. However, Aunt Huang did not give up because of this.
After being introduced by a neighbor, she met Zhang Ren, a 64-year-old retired teacher, and the two fell in love at first sight. Zhang Ren said that he would let Aunt Huang live the life she wanted, and would love her well.
So, they began to live together. Although the "dew couple" may not be able to grow old together, finding someone who can accompany them through their old age is what everyone needs.
In the process of finding a partner, we must not only consider the other person's financial conditions, but also see whether the other person can treat us sincerely. After all, true love is the foundation of a long-lasting relationship.
Huang Ling's son has been working in Dongguan, Guangdong Province for many years, and can only return to the third-tier cities in the north to visit his mother for a year. Although his mother was very worried about his marriage, she could only go with the flow.
Because there are many employment opportunities and relatively high incomes in the south, young people have chosen to go to the south for development. Huang Ling's son also chose Dongguan for a better life and future.
After the death of Zhang Ren's wife, cooking by himself became a problem, and he hoped that a woman could take care of his daily life, but for various considerations, he did not want to remarry soon.
Therefore, he chose to live with Huang Ling to see if the two were in love before making a decision. Zhang Ren is a senior teacher, with a pension of more than 6,000 yuan per month, plus a rental property, his later life is very comfortable, except for travel, there are no major expenses.
Although Zhang Ren is very easy-going, he is very strict with money management, which also makes Huang Ling feel a little dissatisfied.
Huang Ling was dissatisfied that she felt that she had become Zhang Ren's "free nanny", and although she had paid a lot for him, she did not get the due return. The two live together, so they have some calculations in terms of money.
Zhang Ren controlled Huang Ling's consumption and limited her spending, which made Huang Ling feel very dissatisfied. Huang Ling's own economic situation is not very good, her pension is only more than 2,400 yuan, and she has to save money for her son to marry a daughter-in-law.
She took the initiative to take on housework, while Zhang Ren didn't have to do anything, just meeting friends, raising flowers and playing chess all day long. Huang Ling felt that women should do more housework, after all, Zhang Ren also paid for living expenses, and did not ask for the AA system.
However, some things after that made Huang Ling more and more unbearable, especially Zhang Ren's reluctance to buy clothes for her and restricted her consumption, which made Huang Ling very dissatisfied.
Huang Ling and Zhang Ren were shopping when they found that a newly opened fashion store was doing a discount. Huang Ling happily wanted to take Zhang Ren in to have a look, but Zhang Ren refused, he thought that such a place was not suitable for them.
Huang Ling felt very angry, shook off Zhang Ren's hand, and went home alone. Afterwards, Zhang Ren kept apologizing to Huang Ling, but Huang Ling was still a little angry, after all, there are always a lot of inconveniences with such a slamming man.
Huang Ling's son's company suffered a recession and suffered losses, as a result, the company had to lay off employees, Huang Ling's son was unfortunately laid off, he has been unemployed for several months, and he has not found a suitable job, which makes Huang Ling very anxious.
When Huang Ling learned the news, she also felt a lot of pressure, she kept comforting her son, and at the same time she was also trying to find a way to give her son some funding to help him get through this difficult time.
So, Huang Ling found Zhang Ren, hoping that he could sponsor his son and tide over the difficulties. However, after Zhang Ren heard this, he looked very unhappy, he thought that he had already borne Huang Ling's daily expenses and could no longer be responsible for other things.
This made Huang Ling feel very disappointed, and she began to wonder if Zhang Ren was really good to herself.
Although we are partners and nominally husband and wife, can't you help me if I have difficulties? I'm not your free housekeeper! You should know, how much does it cost to hire a live-in housekeeper?
Are you embarrassed to say that you only care about my food, drink, housing and transportation? You're so stingy, it's unreasonable! I declare that starting today, we are dissolving the cohabitation relationship! " "You treat me as a free housekeeper, I'll quit, let's break up!
I have a pension and I don't need you to support me! After that, she ignored my obstruction, began to pack her things, and left my home on the same day, ending this loveless partner life.
Compared with remarriage, middle-aged and elderly people still have many advantages to live together, and it provides a new choice of marriage and love for some single elderly people.
However, we should also see that many middle-aged and elderly people who partner with each other break up for various reasons, because they rarely have sincerity between them, and there are a lot of defenses between each other.
Single middle-aged and elderly people choose to live together, such a "dew couple" wants to be long-lasting, and the most important thing is to be happy with each other, especially in terms of money and children, which requires more tolerance, dedication and understanding.
If the two parties who live together do not trust each other and guard against each other, then there is no need to continue. "