Text|Zhu Shenyong.
The phoenix man is not the basis for assessing whether to divorce or not.
Generally, the label of a phoenix man may be a man who has poor family conditions since he was a child, is more frugal, and values money more.
However, this problem is not necessarily a disadvantage. Some phoenix men have a poor environment since childhood, have a desire for money, pursue success, will have a good development in their careers, create better material conditions for their families, and are pragmatic and hardworking, cherish and be grateful.
However, there are also some phoenix men who have low self-esteem in their bones, distorted personalities, are more machismo, do not pay to their spouses, or are not grateful, have a heart higher than the sky and have extremely bad luck, have a bad career development, and have a great temper with their wives and children when they return home.
There are also phoenix men who look down on their wretched wives after they become prosperous, and want to find a partner who can bring more benefits or face to them. Use external beauty and accomplishments to support the fragile heart.
These characteristics are not only found in phoenix men, and even men and men may have them, and they need to be torn off the label, specifically to see what kind of person your husband is.
If you want to divorce, you need to sort out what problems have happened in your marriage, what your husband has done to hurt you and make you disappointed in him, and let's see if these problems can be improved or solved.
And to evaluate the quality of a marriage, there are the following criteria:
1. Emotional foundation.
Did you know how he grew up when you were in a relationship?Do you know that he is a phoenix man?Why did you choose to fall in love with him at that time?What are some of his characteristics that impress you?Why didn't you break up and get married after falling in love, is what qualities do you think he has that meets your requirements for your husband?Do these points of your appreciation still exist after marriage?
The better the emotional foundation, the better the quality of the marriage.
2. Satisfaction of both parties after marriage.
How satisfied are the two?Satisfaction is a very important criterion for evaluating marriage.
The wife uses the timeline to see what the husband has done well to satisfy you, and what needs to be improved
Jump out of a certain point or a certain thing to evaluate the satisfaction of the marriage as a whole.
3. Community development.
Is there an accumulation of community between the two parties after marriage?Is your husband willing to share his wealth with you?Do the two accumulate more and more wealth after marriage?Do you have any fond memories?Is there an expanded common social circle?Are these valuable to you?
The better the community develops, the better the quality of marriage. If, after marriage, the husband does not create wealth or provide emotional value, nor is he willing to contribute to the family, or creates more but shares less, it does not belong to the state of better community development.
4. Can problems in marriage be solved?
What behaviors do you disagree with your husband?What are the problems in marriage?A good marriage requires both parties to have the ability to tolerate, you put up with him, and he has to bear with you. Love is perseverance, marriage is to get along with each other's shortcomings, and the extent to which you can accept your shortcomings determines how far and happy your marriage can go.
5. Do both parties have the intention to continue the marriage?
Do you want to divorce unilaterally, or do both parties decide to divorce?If it's just one-sided emotions and disappointments, you can talk about them together and find solutions.
The above can be used to evaluate the quality of your marriage and decide whether it is necessary to manage this marriage well.
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