The most important thing is not to blindly treat yourself in grievances.
Author: Insight Leyla
February 14 is another Valentine's Day.
On this day, love is strong and love is full of love.
How are you doing on this romantic day?
Maybe you're still working hard for your life, irritable for work, or even working for ......your family
You always sacrifice yourself and try to make the lives of those around you happy.
But there is another person who needs your genuine care and has been ignored by you.
Oscar Wilde said, "Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance." ”
On this special day, don't forget to love yourself a little more and love yourself a little more.
When you start to love yourself, you will find that the whole world is secretly loving you.
Why do people suffer?
Because a lot of times, we live to meet the expectations of others.
Your parents want you to be well-behaved, your boss wants you to work hard, and your friends want you to be empathetic and good-tempered.
So you disguise your true nature and try to live as the people around you expect.
Over time, you will continue to ignore your own feelings and needs in other people's standards, and you will become more and more unhappy.
But you see, each of us is an apple that God has bitten into, and we are born with a variety of characteristics.
Man's greatest success is not to please others, but to live oneself.
You can be less well-behaved once in a while, you can stop and rest, and you can show your true emotions when you are unhappy......
Even a lot of the time, it's okay to look weird.
Because learning to accept your true self is the best way to love yourself.
Schopenhauer said: Respect everyone, no matter how humble and ridiculous he may be. Remember that everyone lives with the same spirit as you and me.
We didn't understand this and always expected others to do what we wanted.
But only when I have experienced it myself can I know how painful it is to be persecuted.
People who truly love themselves will inevitably put themselves in the shoes of others.
With a normal state of mind, a calm mood, and a peaceful state of mind, we face every difference.
Kindness and respect for others is also a form of tenderness to oneself.
The Thief of the Years" sings:
The years are a journey with no return, and the good and the bad are the scenery.
In this journey, everyone you meet and everything that happens has its value and meaning.
The ordinary background is to make you understand the importance of self-reliance;
The hardships of work are to make you understand that a happy life is not easy to come by;
The unexpected is to make you grow in the midst of setbacks and hone a stronger will......
In the past, we had a deep misunderstanding of life and regarded ups and downs as a deliberate difficulty of fate.
After some experience, you will finally understand that all the past has a deep meaning.
All the things we have experienced are meant to teach us to learn to cherish and love ourselves better for the rest of our lives.
We often expect life to be smooth sailing, but the reality is often the opposite.
There are always sudden tribulations that catch us off guard;
There is always inexplicable malice that hurts us a lot.
But the emergence of many hardships is unstoppable.
Your troubles are like this, and your sorrows are like this, so it is better to choose to go with the flow.
Writer Cindy Fincher said: I would allow everything to happen naturally and see it as the landscape of life.
In the face of an unchangeable reality, it is better to accept it calmly than to resist in vain.
You know, the withering of a flower can't be barren for the whole spring.
At any time, as long as you have a calm heart and look down on all the difficulties, it is the greatest compensation for yourself.
The pace of life is different from person to person, so you don't have to worry about someone having it ahead of you.
Some people make noodles in 3 minutes, some people make soup in 3 hours, some people have already delivered takeout, and some people have just cut garlic moss and meat.
You choose the way you want, and you go ahead and live a life that you are happy with.
It doesn't matter if the tea is coarse and the rice is light, it doesn't matter if the war is in chaos.
In your own time zone, everything is just right.
As Rabindranath Tagore said:
The best things always come when you don't expect them, so don't rush to the road, go through each day at your own pace. ”
Loving yourself starts with staying away from the trash.
Those junk foods will only drag down your health and make you obese;
Those garbage people will only haunt your mind and make you uneasy.
The most important thing we should do in life is to cut off everything that drags us down.
Let them disappear in the long river of time, and never make waves again.
In the future, may you eat clean food and love those who deserve love.
In the firewood, rice, oil and salt, in the alternation of years, meet more beautiful scenery.
Growing up, we all seem to be told: don't make mistakes.
Be careful when you speak, be polite and thoughtful with others, and be meticulous in your work......
As a result, we unconsciously become accustomed to pursuing perfection, and we dare not even expose our mistakes and failures.
But in the long river of life, there is no one who does not make mistakes.
Even the sun has black spots, but that doesn't stop it from continuing to shine.
To be truly strong is not to be meticulous, not to always be right.
But after the mistake, we also know how to reflect and correct in time.
This is the best way to love yourself.
People are really stupid sometimes, they know to throw away expired food, and people and feelings in the past are always holding on.
Catch the once entangled, and in the end you will always be injured to the end;
Accustomed to worrying about the future, it is easy to fall into anxiety in the midst of accidents and uncertainties.
Actually, the only thing we can do is:
Don't think about the past, don't fear the future, live the present.
Believe that yesterday's sun can't dry today's clothes. Tomorrow's wind and rain will not wet today's self.
Life will not give us so little leeway.
Those who are in the past, don't regret it; Those who are in the future need not be worried.
Living every day calmly is the best care and cherishing for yourself.
Lu Yao said: "If you don't bother yourself, others will never be able to bother you." ”
Sometimes it's not the troubles that choose the person, but the person who takes the initiative to choose the troubles.
Always thinking too much is actually drawing a prison for life.
Life is not easy, so why bother yourself.
If you can't figure it out, you have to let it go, if you can't forget it, you have to let go, and if you can't hate it, you have to soothe it.
Organize your mood every day, and when you wake up, another day is waiting for you to experience.
In this complex world, we often want to be kind to others.
But sometimes forbearance and compromise not only do not exchange for the sincerity of others, but also put oneself in pain and dilemma.
If you are gentle and kind, you will eventually become a "lamb to the slaughter" in the eyes of others.
But in fact, we can be harder to live.
It doesn't pierce people, but it has thorns on its body;
Don't stir up trouble, but don't be afraid of arguments either.
You must understand: 99% of the people in your life, you have sinned.
The most important thing is not to blindly treat yourself in grievances.
The true maturity of a person is to abandon excessive kindness and begin to live for himself.
When we are comfortable, the world will become pleasant.
In fact, the above 10 sentences are connected to a poem published by the genius dramatist Chaplin on his 70th birthday:
When I started to love myself".
This great actor, director, screenwriter, has spent his whole life telling us:
The most important thing in this life is to love yourself.
Because life is so short, the years cannot be repeated.
No one can accompany you to the end except yourself.
So on the occasion of Valentine's Day, no matter whether anyone confesses to you or not, you must also remember to say "I love you" affectionately to yourself who has worked hard for so long.
Treat yourself to a bouquet of flowers, buy a gift of your choice, or a long-awaited reward.
When you start to love yourself, your life will become better and more pleasant.
Give it a thumbs up and encourage your friends.